I think I just wanted to hear if the frustration & anger is justifiable at this stage out from DDay, especially since my WS is trying?
Your WS could be the MODEL wayward, do everything right, be remorseful, take the lead on initiating A talk, get you into MC, truly OWN HIS SHIT...and you will STILL get angry and frustrated.
Because YOU didn't make this choice. YOU didn't bring this into your life. YOU have to deal with the fallout of it. You have to process it, work on it, and get through it. THIS NEVER SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED.
You shouldn't HAVE to deal with it.
Having that bitch drive past your house on purpose (because that's what's she's doing--she's trying to get a reaction out of you) is going to trigger you every time until it doesn't anymore.
You will never get remorse from her. You will never get anything you need from her. Treat her like the nothing that she is.
Look through her. She's not really there. She's not worth your notice.
I'm sorry she's impacting your other friendship....maybe you should re-evaulate how important that friendship is to you?
I just wanted you to know that I think you're completely normal. And yeah, it's normal to still be angry with your WS even when they're doing everything right. You're still dealing with what he did. It's natural and normal to be hurt and angry after being betrayed.