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User Topic: Final divorce hearing tomorrow
missmydogs
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so excited! It's been a long time coming. I am getting a nice settlement from his 401k. That will help the kids and I rebuild. I no longer have any anger towards my X. I can honestly say I am looking forward to coparenting w him. I'm comfortable with this new normal. I'm not envious of his GF/OW. I know what it's like being married to him.

The only thing I kick myself for is this. I wish I married a better man. Next time I will do better. I know better now.

So here's to new beginnings!


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL, I clicked on this thread expecting to read something along the lines of "I am depressed, never thought it would end this way" type of post. Your thread is refreshing. Congratulations!!


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1102 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
peridot
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on your new beginning!!!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4488 | Registered: Feb 2008
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm happy for your New Beginning. Best wishes!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8792 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!! Wishing you a fabulous NB.




Posts: 30754 | Registered: Mar 2011
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad for you and will admit to being a little bit envious!

I am nodding at the things you wrote, but I struggle with grief and am trying to figure out what it's for? Finally I'm aware of about 90% of what STBX has done, but I can't rid myself of the grief. It's 5.5 months from Dday for me.

Any ideas are welcome. My goal is to get to the point you are at emotionally, MMD, but I don't know how to keep the more pleasant feelings.

Is it easier to do when knowledge of a final settlement comes?

And I wish you luck.


Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge


Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Coraline
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
missmydogs
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all your kind words! I can't tell you how much I admire all of you!

Ash- It has been almost 3 years for me now. Your wound is still fresh. And you're expecting a baby! You are doing so well, I'm in awe of your strength! I went through all the emotions you are. It's such a difficult time. You will get where I am. I promise. Yes a lot of it has to do with knowing where I stand financially. And now the fighting is over. It's just calm now. You will find your way here soon. Sending you warm thoughts, peace, and hugs.


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! You're off to a great new beginning already.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22712 | Registered: Aug 2011
numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mmd - so good to hear! You sound like you are in a really great place and you are an inspiration to those of us who still have to go through what you have.

Here's a toast to your new beginning! (no "toast" emoticon, sorry!)


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
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