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User Topic: Missed the perfect opening
Hope24
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was in line at the grocery store this morning and there was a hot 40-something guy ahead of me buying "Alimony Ale". I couldn't come up with an opening line, so I blew the perfect opportunity. Gah!

Maybe if I wasn't wearing yoga pants with my hair in a pony tail I would have been more inspired.


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yeah. Us guys expect the wimmenz in the grocery to be there in an evening gown with perfect hair.

Go for it next time!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should have put your Rat Bastard bottle of wine on the counter and nodded at him.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So what would you have said?


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should have put your Rat Bastard bottle of wine on the counter and nodded at him.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Perfect, Kajem!!!


BH, now divorced

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice.

I love the name of that ale! I should have gotten some for the g2g.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j

I thought it was "Fat Bastard"...or am I having a blond moment?

I do tend to buy wine because I like the name

end of t/j

I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is Fat Bastard.

That name doesn't make me think of wine, though. It makes me think of Mike Myers's disgusting Scottish character from Austin Powers.

Perhaps someone on SI could start a Rat Bastard Winery?


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry kids, it's a root beer:

But you could get some of this:


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great ideas! I will have to hide the grocery list from the kids next week.


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They do make "Arrogant Bastard". I think it's an IPA, but I could be wrong.

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mmmmmm Arrogant Bastard! My favorite. I gotta get me some of this Alimony Ale, I wonder if it's a bitter beer oy a yummy malty one?


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Arrogant Bastard is yummy!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Shockleader
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!

Spot on, just substitute "speak to women". I am however, finding it easier, and easier.


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
Xcheater 44
One DD 19
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm good at making remarks to people I don't know. I think i would have asked if he was buying it to celebrate or drown his sorrows. But, then, I more than likely wouldn't even have noticed what he had. BUT, if I had........


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice.
Me too, trying. Me too.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha. As of to prove my point, the guy who came in and sat almost at my table at the place I am having a late lunch and reading on here turned around and jumped when he saw me here. He was on his phone when he came in and sat there. I was just hitting send when he said he didn't realize anyone else was around as he spoke loudly on his phone. ( I was reading and paid no attention to his convo)

I said it's ok. I've only been here a half hour. Then he asked if I thought it is as warm in here as he thought. I told him it's more likely warm from being embarrassed! He apologized profusely and left with a warning not to text and drive.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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