DS (6), DS (18 months)
Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".
Status: Done like dinner
I know for a fact that fiancÚ gets off more often then that. He used to JO everyday- now that I cut off porn, I think he is down to once a day, maybe once every other day. We don't have sex that much though (that is improving this last week), so I don't know for sure.
Now I am concerned about SA as well,
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
Lol @beyondbreaking. I thought it was a bit unrealistic. 20 cums = 3 months? I'm thinking more like 2 months if we're talking about 3x a week.
He ended up spending the Monday cutting and splitting wood. He had minor pain, and only used ice packs for the fist day.
On the other side if it, I don't recall him waiting very long. We were told 20 times then recheck, it was at least 30 by the time he got checked, and yup he still had swimmers, so had to go another 20 times, and recheck, finally clear after that. YIKES.
For any out there that want this as a permanent method of BC MAKE SURE THEY GET CHECKED FOR SWIMMERS.... I could have very easily ended up with 3 kids instead of two had I not.
My FWH is a diagnosed SA. He was masturbating up to 4 times a day, compulsively looking at porn daily, masturbating at work, in the car, in our driveway after getting home late at night. Looking at porn on his phone, on our computer, on our kids, he was lying about it constantly and he had multiple affairs, even "cheating" on one of his AP's.
He'd have sex at work, before, during and after work hours. Sometimes he'd even get caught, technically by other employee's knocking on his office door and he'd just ignore it.
It was also more about his compulsive thought patterns. All he could think about was sex. Getting his next "fix" meaning when could he get off again. He'd get agitated until he did. If he saw a woman in a low cut shit, he'd start to fantasize about her. Tight pants? What would she look like naked? THen his thoughts would spiral out of control until he could either have sex or masturbate.
There is a LOT to a SA than just jacking off a day after a vasectomy.
My journey to survive from my husbands multiple affairs and sex addiction.