But yeah, I lost my femininity with him, and also with the WS, who made me into his work horse.
One of the biggest draws with my XSO was how feminine and beautiful he made me feel when I was with him. That is probably a big part of why I dealt with all his issues, and stuck with him for 4 years even though I knew it could not last for the long-term.....he allowed me to be feminine, he even encouraged it, while the other guys had tried to squash it down....
So I really don't think it was being a "mom" to my kids that made me feel unsexy, but being a "mom" to my husband is what killed it. I wanted a partner, not another large child.
This was definitely part of the issue in my marriage, too. And then I brought my own FOO issues into the mix. So again, not placing the blame entirely on ex's head. I know that I played a part, at times a large part, in the dysfunction of the marriage.
I also know I accepted, for far too long, so much less than I am worthy of.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Yes, know it was written by a man but honestly find this as insulting to both women and men as stating men live life through their c&$ks. Maybe I'm sensitive because I'm raising three boys and happen to think men are rather awesome for the most part.
Sure, met some real assholes but know some huge bitches too.
I can think of just as many stories where women are all over their guys junk like a bad rash then after they get married join the convent. I've seen it personally with a couple of my friends.
Now when he works out in the yard he has to become hermetically sealed before they can kiss him because he's "ewwwwww". They're tired. He's ALWAYS in the mood. They're bloated. It's Tuesday.
I'm sure that "comfort" is expressed differently by people but I think that if you were a certain way to be more attractive while trolling you best be representin' at least some of that after you "caught" the person or it's more of a bait and switch...you know, fraud. That's for BOTH sexes.
Again, probably too much time in wayward but don't think anyone can make you do or be anything without your consent. Always have choices. Always.
'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth
FT was also ill a great deal of the time and I always thought I was doing things to make our lives better. He is definitely a taker and only gave back minimally.
Another live lesson learned.
[This message edited by gma56 at 1:20 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]