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User Topic: Sex without a date
osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can tell you, I'm not sure which is worse.

I have no idea how much or what kind of "dating" my X and the OW did.

What I do know is they somehow thought it appropriate to go together to services at the church my X and I attended. She was a "friend from work" (they did NOT work together - they met because of ads on "married but looking" newsgroups) who was looking for a new church and came as a guest with my now-X to check out ours. They did this once when I was out of town and a second time when I was actually at church. He managed to keep her from being too near me the entire morning - only possible because I play keyboard in our band, and so I spent most of the service up on stage and away from him/them.

So... in some ways, I think them not dating at all would have been preferable. I am long past it - D'd, on my own for a couple of years after that, and now re-married to someone else for going on 6 years now. But that is one that still makes me - that they had "dates" going together to the church my X and I attended (and got married in, and where my X was baptized...)


Posts: 2323 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Maryland
Daysie
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No - my WH went to her home for sex when her BH was out. Also the first time they had sex together her husband was sleeping on the couch. My sick WH and him had been out and BS had had a bit too much to drink.

Sick people to do this and risk getting caught. Amazing what people will do for a shag


Me BS 56
Him WH 56
M 36yrs
A 32yrs ago with my then BF
DD 1 / DS 1
Who is this man ??????


Posts: 85 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She slept with him the first time she met him. No, no dates. But, once I kicked him out and he moved in with her, she did loan him her car and he took other girls on dates.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
7 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 2158 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, he dated her. Took her to plays, out to dinner and lunch, to sporting events, you name it. She was by all accounts his girlfriend and he treated her "well".

She is a whore. Dates or no dates, she is a whore. She is a whore because she fucked a married man.

In my youth I had ONS from dance clubs, but I am not a whore or a slut or any other colorful name. I asked if they were married and checked for signs. Sex with no dating does not make a woman a whore.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
Garnet
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No dates!! Dates were sex and blow jobs in the back seat of her clown car!! Pathetic whore with no self respect!! Btw my husband told me it was lame!!!!! Hahaha makes me laugh!!!


Garnet☀

Posts: 82 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MA
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I never wanted to know this much, but he lives there and has for some time, so I imagine they probably have a "whole life" together? It's hours away from DD and I, I'm told and he made pages on the web full of OW's tribe and OW junior.

What I don't understand is how they could think of themselves as a "family" when he was married and she knew? OW Junior also knew we are here and suffer and apparently has a "relationship" with him?

I would almost rather there were no dates because it may seem less planned on his part?

Did OW's know your WH's had a spouse?


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Garnet
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes she did!! We all went to highscool together and me and H have been together since we were 17 & 19!!!! She could of cared less!! LOSER THROUGH AND THROUGH!!!


Garnet☀

Posts: 82 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MA
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the life of me why would you sleep with someone who has not taken you on a date?

I'll ask my wife, she's been a "booty call" twice in her life that I know of. Once with someone before we even met (I didn't find out until after we were married - it would have given me pause if I'd known that before proposing), and as recently as 4 months ago with her AP.

Classy babe I married, huh?

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 3:10 PM, June 15th (Saturday)]


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciling


Posts: 1326 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH never took MOW out on a date.

The first time they hooked up, WH didn't know her name. MOW propositioned him on the way back to the hotel after a group went out drinking together.

The in-person part of their relationship consisted of only a hand full of days at a work conference. They would go out for drinks with a large group of people at the end of each conference day. Drink until they were completely toasted and then go back to their room and have drunk sex.

In between the conferences, they saw each other only on skype.

She dumped her husband for that. Unbelievable.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 811 | Registered: Jun 2012
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

they somehow thought it appropriate to go together to services at the church my X and I attended.
what? Unbelievable! So twisted. I think people go to hell for things like that.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 8:48 AM, June 16th (Sunday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine took his AP on dates... Ruth Chris, Hibachi, museums.... They were very much in a relationship.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 636 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope. Met online, first time they met up was to drive out to a field and have sex in the middle of the day. The rest he'd call and she'd drive to his house for sex. She was just a booty call for him, he'd call and she'd run over to his place to be his sex toy. Still don't understand how anyone would let themselves be used like a free hooker, but apparently there are tons of them online. My wife was just one of many that he was using.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3741 | Registered: Dec 2011
easiersaid
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread made me feel better. My WH didn't date, just meet and fuck. He looked for married women he knew from long ago (thanks, Facebook) because he thought they would be safer. Isn't it fun to have to rely on your charm from high school to pick up unpaid hookers at 40? Now that I think of it, he was an unpaid hooker too! One of the hardest parts of all of this is realizing how many fucked up people with no souls are out there.


Me: BS, 40 yrs
Him: WS, 41 yrs (4 PA over 14 yrs, 2 ONS, 2 current PA of 3 months and 2 yrs)
Two small children
Married 17 years
D-day: 1/26/13

Posts: 108 | Registered: Feb 2013
easiersaid
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread made me feel better. My WH didn't date, just meet and fuck. He looked for married women he knew from long ago (thanks, Facebook) because he thought they would be safer. Isn't it fun to have to rely on your charm from high school to pick up unpaid hookers at 40? Now that I think of it, he was an unpaid hooker too! One of the hardest parts of all of this is realizing how many fucked up people with no souls are out there.


Me: BS, 40 yrs
Him: WS, 41 yrs (4 PA over 14 yrs, 2 ONS, 2 current PA of 3 months and 2 yrs)
Two small children
Married 17 years
D-day: 1/26/13

Posts: 108 | Registered: Feb 2013
2oldforthis
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, no dates. It was a here I am let's do it and I am out of here.

She begged WS to take her someplace he adamently says he told her, No.


He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!

Love kills slowly.


Posts: 1633 | Registered: Jun 2008
naivewife
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, he just screwed her in her cave - I mean, bedroom, or she'd stop by his workplace and give him a blow job. Once she paid for them to stay at a B&B because they couldn't go to her house because her mother (WH's psychiatrist) was home at the time. A few times they went to the dump together. One time she even gave him a BJ on a pile of garbage in the back of her car because she was on her way to the dump. Oh, the romance.


D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

Posts: 341 | Registered: Feb 2013
Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One time she even gave him a BJ on a pile of garbage in the back of her car because she was on her way to the dump. Oh, the romance.

unbelievable.

Of course my WH told his AP that she should consider a career as a phone sex operator. She didn't seem offended. And he seemed serious.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

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savvy
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No dates with my h and Ow either he would go to her house and screw around. She has a 10 yr old and a 16 yr old and they would be home .... Great example setter she is...not. She is nothing but a slut


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..

..they both know what their reasons and motivations were, and it had nothing to do with a 'romantic' date!!!

.. smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4101 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
fourever
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, they were so in love that when he traveled to her city, she came (literally) for lunch or between meetings then pulled those panties up and went home to her husband.
Ain't love grand! Wow.


In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!


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