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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 11
Later
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it was inside just above the knee there is a nerve there and it will hurt a few days. I know, I caught one there one night sparring.

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This isn't going to turn into one of those Jaws "I got this when the Indy went down" threads is it? I'd like to be able to say I cut myself shaving, but I have an electric razor.


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Show me the way to go home I'm tired and I want to go to bed...."

It was left thigh. Directly mid thigh. Almost like a charley horse.

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 8:35 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]


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didiknow
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, the WW wife dropped by tonight to get some more of her stuff.
I asked her "who's car is that,"

Her "A friend"

Me "Who"

Her "You're not talking to me so I'm not talking to you."

Me "What are you talking about"

Her "You ignored my texts yesterday"

Me "I was in a counseling session, I wasn't ignoring"
(bit of a lie, I didn't ignore her completely, just slow to respond)

Me "For the record, you have been ignoring me for 3 weeks"

Her "I have responded to everything you sent me"

Me "I emailed you all last week"

Her "I don't have internet, I only got the first message"
(which she never replied to)

A little while later.

Her "Did you have a party"

Me "Yes I did, housewarming"

Her "You could've let me know, people have been calling and asking me and I had no idea what they were talking about, we're not even divorced yet. Couldn't you have waited?"

Me "I bought a house, I had a housewarming party, you chose to move out."

Her "I did not, you told me to get out"

Me "I asked you when you were moving out, the day after I found out what you did. The next day I told you that you could stay"

Her "It was too late"

Me "So you chose to leave"

Her "I'm done, you might as well go ahead and file for divorce."

Me "When did you decide that it was over, before the affair or after"

Her " "

Me "Did you think you made a mistake from the beginning"

Her " "

Me "I have this book if you want to borrow it"

Her "Why"

Me "It might help explain why, or do you already know why"

Her "Because I wanted to"

Me (shocked) "Because you wanted to be with someone specific or because you didn't want to be with me"

Her - WW turned around and walked outside where she stayed for a couple minutes.

She came back in and got her son (he was playing xbox) and left.

I think she gave me some truth when she said "because I wanted to"
She had sex with other men because she wanted to have sex with other men. I came to a conclusion just yesterday that she is a sex addict and I am/was codependent and the therapist agreed last night.

She's trying to turn everything around on me like I kicked her out and I'm ignoring her, God that pisses me off.


Me-BH (38)
Her-WW (27)
M Aug 29, 2010
D-day May 25, 2013
A #1 June 2012
A #2 Late 2012-May 2013
No matter what "new" information you find out, it's all just part of the same iceberg, hidden under the surface.

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Later
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didiknow. It sounds like it may be her way of getting the conversation heading in a direction where you are asking her to stay. I could be wrong, but the tactic looks familiar.

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She sounds all chewed up. She's playing word games now. Blame shifting. And denying all the while she is obviously having a good time doing it.

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didiknow
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the middle of a text conversation, with WW now, finally getting some answers, i hope.


Me-BH (38)
Her-WW (27)
M Aug 29, 2010
D-day May 25, 2013
A #1 June 2012
A #2 Late 2012-May 2013
No matter what "new" information you find out, it's all just part of the same iceberg, hidden under the surface.

Posts: 50 | Registered: May 2013 | From: wa
Later
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, she was trying to open a dialogue?

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didiknow
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She claims that she has been trying to communicate all along but we must have very different ideas of communication.


Me-BH (38)
Her-WW (27)
M Aug 29, 2010
D-day May 25, 2013
A #1 June 2012
A #2 Late 2012-May 2013
No matter what "new" information you find out, it's all just part of the same iceberg, hidden under the surface.

Posts: 50 | Registered: May 2013 | From: wa
Later
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just as I predicted, that whole BS earlier was psycho WWspeak for "can I get you to ask me back and make it look like your idea?"

It's sooo much easier having a moment of clarity when it's not your WW doing the manipulating.


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didiknow
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, after a very long text conversation and a lot of digging, I finally got the truth.

I will post only the two most relevant texts.


Me "So you honestly believe that it's perfectly fine to be married and have sex with other people? That's who you want to be?"

Her "Yes thats who I am and who I want to be. And I think it does hurt you. And im sorry."


Me-BH (38)
Her-WW (27)
M Aug 29, 2010
D-day May 25, 2013
A #1 June 2012
A #2 Late 2012-May 2013
No matter what "new" information you find out, it's all just part of the same iceberg, hidden under the surface.

Posts: 50 | Registered: May 2013 | From: wa
Later
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Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, man.

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didiknow-
That's brutal. Sorry, brother.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didiknow-
That's brutal. Sorry, brother.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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aesir
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is brutal, but in the long run it is preferable to lies, or to continuing to blame it all on you.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


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ssi0318
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didiknow & B444

Strength.

I handed my WW the papers on Monday evening. This is how it went

Me: Hey, I have some papers I want to give you.
Her: OK, just put them on the dresser.
Me: (pause) Do you have any questions?
Her: No. Oh, wait, are you still going on vacation to Florida?

We had booked a trip to FL for us and the kids, to try and maintain some semblance of normalcy.

Me: Uh, yeah.

/scene

Zero communication between us since then. I'm not sure if she's shocked that I actually filed (I'm thinking she thought I'd just continue to be strung along), or pissed, or what, but she's had no reaction, at least in front of me. These next few months are going to be interesting.

Someone needs to tell me how to post pics, I've got a good one when I was down in South Beach last week, maybe even enough to compare with some of what jjct has posted


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Her-WW - probable NPD
M 11 years, T 14 years
3 kids, all under 10
DDay 3/18/13
I'm not happy - Nov-12

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SSI
Strength brother. It's fucked up that she was still concerned a out the trip. That's typical. My WW would say the same thing.


Someone needs to tell me how to post pics, I've got a good one when I was down in South Beach last week, maybe even enough to compare with some of what jjct has posted

That's a bold statement

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I'm in the gym training my back and this song comes on Pandora.
I never heard it before. What a trip.
Of course it's about a WS
Puddle of mudd- away from me

Check out this video on YouTube:

http://youtu.be/JYnpWEoGmE8


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Betrayed444,

If you like Puddle of Mud then you'll like this one:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wle2wx1xqWw

Actually anyone dealing with an A can relate to this song at some point in the process.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heh.

I bought that Puddle of Mudd CD after D-day just for that song.


Machiavellian idiot savant

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