Snapdragon"My translation is that this is a backhanded way to make sure that you knew that the OW was still out there ready to take him because he is so damn awesome. It sets up a bit of "competition" in your subconscious and you'll want to be a extra wonderful wife in order to keep him. Because, after all, he does have that option still.
The thing is, some people may respond to that kind of mind play. Or they may keep a spouse just so that the AP doesn't get them.
Or, it is just a really bad way of saying that, despite other choices, he chooses you. It is supposed to be a compliment, a validation. But it really doesn't feel that way, does it?"
At first I kinda felt that way. It's been almost 2 years since DDay with plenty of backsliding on his side. I should say we are living in separate homes. While the kids were growing up I was June Cleaver so now that I'm an empty nester my apron was burned. He wants June back so desperately but alas she is dead/buried and her corpse has long rotted.
I am a different woman, he honestly thought I enjoyed the home ecky stuff and just wouldn't know what to do with myself with the kids gone. Like I just love cooking and cleaning He really didn't know me.
Like you guys I've reminded him that I am the prize and easy men like him are a dime a dozen. I've also told him he should hire a maid.
Of course he doesn't want her. You were the most honest relationship in his life.