This makes complete sense. We have told next to no one. MCs, ICs, lifelong friends who were here on d day. I told two friends who live far away. On some level my WH still can't own it. He talks about almost being persecuted by the MC. This MC basically held him accountable- you did this, you need to commit to the marriage and help OAI heal. He minimizes and I think is still getting through the story in his IC. I am not sure he can reconcile what he did with who he believes he is.
You tell who you need to tell. You tell them what you need to share. You can't control him: his choices, the story/ies he tells, how he explodes his world and yours. You get to choose and control how you react to his actions and what actions you take to protect yourself and your future.
Take care of yourself. I am really glad that you have IRL support. D-day: Christmas 2011 when i saw a text from MarriedOW to WH
D-day 2: 3/28/2013: confessed phone sex over 10 years ago (2000 or 2001) with another OW
Married for over 14 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school