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User Topic: are you in contempt, waffle?
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I get a call from my IC this morning that insurance rejected me as not covered. When waffle filed his surprise complaint, the court issues a restraining order prohibiting him from doing things like that. Having received no response to my text on the subject, I called my L.

I am not bothered by this, it will work itself through. Waffle straight up refused to drop MOW as a condition of S instead of D. I know exactly who he is and can move forward to D him with a clear conscience. I've done everything.

So... insurance admin error, or contempt?


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 707 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't put it past him to do something like that.. At some point the cheating really does pale in comparison to what comes next..

Good luck getting it figured out..


BW~ 35, Two Darling Sons~ 10 and 6
D-Day 9/2012
S 10/2012
Filed D 11/2012
Divorced! 4/2014

Posts: 1359 | Registered: Feb 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My money's on contempt. What a JAMF.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22541 | Registered: Aug 2011
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote contempt. However, based on my experience with my STBX, I predict he won't actually get in trouble.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8731 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not contempt! By some miracle, I am fully covered per the insurance company.

I think marrying MOW once the respective Ds are final may be on the cards.

Finally, if I hear "I did not leave the kids. I left you" (actually I pulled the trigger, but whatever) one more time, I will punch something. Wed evening and EOW, asshole?? Yeah, that sounds like you're there for them.

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 3:11 PM, June 10th (Monday)]


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 707 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
hummingbird8
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not to threadjack, but when my DH (not the one who brought me here) left his ex wife with no cheating involved she liked to throw it in his face in front of their son how he left their son. He chose to leave her and the marriage, not his son. If he could have gotten joint custody he would yet he is stuck with Thursday's and EOW.

I know the cheating hurts but I do hope you can learn to understand if someone leaves a marriage it doesn't mean they leave the kids. Some do. Some choose to never see their kids or pay support so if he is doing those things I can see his point. The cheating is awful.

Good luck.


Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2009
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If waffle had put a solid effort into the marriage, and it didn't work out, point well taken. I don't think anyone should stay in a marriage because they have children. However, I do think Waffle owed it to his kids to at least try, or to make a clean break. What happened instead was maybe a week of NC, if that, and underground A/false R, lying to the MC, a fake NC email.... that is why I say he left them. He never actually tried.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 707 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
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