Thank you for your clear-headed wisdom, TG.
I got a comment from someone who thinks that I am trying to "control" my H and why would I want a grown man to live in fear of his wife.
This isn't about control for me. But if it was, would that really be a big deal at this time in my life? I am 6m in from finding out that my H spent 2+ years f'ing a co-worker and another year keeping it from me. My life has never been more out of control. Could you blame me for wanting some?
All I want now is an honoured word kept.