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User Topic: age of the AP
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AP#1 was 21 fwh was 31
AP#2 was 33ish and fwh was 32 when it began, lasted 2+ years
AP#3 was 34 fwh was 34
AP #4 was 27 fwh was 35
Intended AP5 was 19 and fwh was 35, but she not only turned him down but turned him Into HR for sexual harassment and he was fired. She's my hero.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
SweetheartVixen
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS always usually picked the older ones. First one was 7 yrs older, age 62, him 55. Next 2 wannabes were about 12-16 yrs younger. Current one is 77, 13 years older.
I guess he cant make up his mind.

[This message edited by SweetheartVixen at 9:15 PM, June 9th (Sunday)]


BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14


Posts: 3097 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was 18, WXH was 32. I was 34.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2508 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
BeautifulEmpty
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think age usually enters their head...more personality and availability. If the OW makes them feel all fresh and new, she's their real soulmate, don't you know? >.<
My husband had women younger than me but not terribly so until he found the almost virginal (had only been with one man, her husband) 21 year old...I was 35 ish, depressed out of my mind and had had four kids. I'd gained a ton of weight from antidepressants. It was a mess.

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I was 37.... and for the first time felt really old. []/quote]

This.

The last debacle was with an individual 3 years older than me.
Really, it all sucks. The older woman was cunning and plotted to have my life. The youngest one was just a ditzy girl who wanted my love as much as his. I don't fault her...there was nothing malicious on her part. Nothing was hidden but it wasn't welcome by me at all. She didn't know this until I blew up. The older woman had full malicious intent.
It's the person, not the age but I fully understand the pain of a much younger OW just adding to the general feelings of not being good enough :/


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 264 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
struggling16
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get the barf bag ready. My WH was 70 and the AP was 25.

Disgusting.


Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2011
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At the time I was 32 he was 30 and the wannabe OW was 21.

We had been together for 5yrs at that point and one thing Wannabe said was that she wished she had met my fiance SIX years ago, so that SHE'D be "the girlfriend". Six years ago at the time, she'd have been 15 and he'd have been in jail!


Posts: 3370 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH was 40 when A started
OW (monkeyface) was 47
Me 48

Now,
WH broken
OW who cares
ME escaping!


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
notquiteoverit
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was 50 and looked even older. She is older and both me and WH. I have found out since that there is an abundance of single women without morals in their 40s and 50s.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 573 | Registered: Jul 2011
Opheliapain
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can only list the OW that he had sex with but they are:

#1 OW was 29 WH 31
#2 OW was 48 WH 32
#3 OW was 44 WH 32
#4 OW was 28 WH 32
#5 OW was 21 WH 32
#5 OW was 26 WH 32

The only thing they had in common was a willingness to whore themselves out on Craigslist.


Me - BW 38
Him - WH 33
Don't fuck with me fellas! This ain't my first time at the rodeo!
DD - 3/28/11

Posts: 177 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
SimpleTruth
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 27 years old and have never cheated.

My WH's APs were the same age as us. He cheated when he was 19 and again at 26 years of age.

most 20-somethings seem to have a much more laid back attitude to "hooking up". It is probably part of why they think nothing about hooking up with a married man.

^^ I disagree. Age has nothing to do with it. If they have that attitude in their 20s, it's very likely they will be like this in their 30s, 40s, and on unless they change that part about themselves.


D-Day 10/15/2012

Separated (3/8/2013) and in limbo.


Posts: 41 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
betraydtwice
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H was 52..ow 22..wtf???

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anonymous823
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in my twenties and my F is in his forties. The OW is in her 30's. I think it is more about who's available and less about age. I know lots of older women and men who are AP's or have been at one time.

[This message edited by anonymous823 at 12:00 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]


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WhiteCarrera
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Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife was 41 and the other guy was 39.

A funny thing about my wife and her two best friends. They each had a boob job in their late 30s, and each had an affair within two years. New appearance = more self esteem = more attention = more self esteem = more opportunity = affair!


If I want recovery, then I must allow for it to actually happen.
Is it possible that I actually do have all the truth now?

me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15


Posts: 274 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Midwest
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The one that I know of for sure, she's several years older than me.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9633 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
sri624
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my husband's ow is in her 50s...(and is aging terribly by the way...ugliest thing you ever saw)....but she is 15 years older than we are.


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bi

Posts: 934 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW is 5 years older than me-and 3 years older than WH


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
notquiteoverit
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just have to chime in on WhiteCarrera's post. More self esteem does NOT equate to an affair. As a matter of fact, it is usually LOW self-esteem and a need for validation that leads to an affair. And, many women (and men) have lots of opportunities but do not have affairs because they have self-esteem, ethics and boundaries.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 573 | Registered: Jul 2011
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Ex is a desperate loser. Age means nothing. If OW was old enough to be his momma, he would have still done what he did. All that was needed was someone...anyone...to stroke his ego and make him feel like the special-snowflake he believes himself to be.

I don't know OW's age. At first I thought she was about our age (maybe a little younger) but then I saw a picture of her face up close. *If* she is about my age than her hard life and drug abuse has shown fully on her cockeyed face.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what age Miss Piggy is. But do you count in "pig" years like you do with "dog years" when estimating the age of dog? If that's the case, I'm even more clueless, then.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1750 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife was 46 at the start (depending on the actual start date), her AP I believe was 40. I know they celebrated two of his BDays with special gifts from her.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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