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User Topic: Wow.... anon man outed on FB
betrayedandnumb
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure if this is open to everyone, but I think I love this lady!! Hope I did this correctly! https://m.facebook.com/?refsrc=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2F&_rdr#!/photo.php?fbid=10151646749683749&id=639548748&set=a.10151532116663749.1073741825.639548748&__user=753232436

If this is against the rules, I'm sorry! Please feel free to remove if so!!

[This message edited by betrayedandnumb at 9:27 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]


BW- me
FWH-him
3/28/09 The day he started skiing down the slippery slope
4/26/09 The day it turned PA
Dday #1 7/13/09, #2 7/16/09, #3 10/23/09, Major setback- 8/13/10
In R

Posts: 852 | Registered: Jul 2009
Tearsoflove
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Member # 8271
Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have to love the woman who posted that. I think she's awesome!


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 4144 | Registered: Sep 2005
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8073 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
why2008
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow, that woman has balls!


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

Posts: 4074 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can't get the link to work...


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9814 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Aussiescot
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good to see the Karma train about to hit this air thief :laugh

If only it had been recorded:


BS
4 DD's
DD 2012
New life started march 2014, false R! Still on the rollercoaster but will ride it out until the end.....because that's just how I roll

Posts: 48 | Registered: May 2013
betrayedandnumb
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's overloaded? Basically, a woman heard a guy bragging to his buddies about his multiple affairs on the train and how stupid his wife was. So the lady posted his pic on fb and urged people to share so he could get caught...


BW- me
FWH-him
3/28/09 The day he started skiing down the slippery slope
4/26/09 The day it turned PA
Dday #1 7/13/09, #2 7/16/09, #3 10/23/09, Major setback- 8/13/10
In R

Posts: 852 | Registered: Jul 2009
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it!!!!!!!!!1 Just wish I could see it! LOL


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9814 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's a link for people who aren't copying and pasting on a mobile device:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151646749683749&id=639548748&set=a.10151532116663749.1073741825.639548748&__user=753232436


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We need more people like her in this world!!


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2298 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post..

But still laughing!

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 12:19 AM, June 7th (Friday)]


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2298 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Of course he will deny it.

"Uh, some crazy bi#@h trying to cause trouble honey"


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with yet another married ho-worker. Kicked h

Posts: 608 | Registered: Mar 2003
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is absolutely epic!!


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1046 | Registered: Mar 2012
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful!!!! LOVE this lady.


Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2754 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
LadyYoga
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart aches for the BW. Yes, this loser will get what he deserves but her pain must be surreal.


BS (me) 39
WH 50
DD,DS,DS
D-day 3/11/10 (3 month EA,1 week PA)
Whore was my best friend

Posts: 700 | Registered: May 2010
twodoves
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think she did the right thing.

The WS isn't going to be the one to suffer, the BS is.

Not only is her husband cheating, but she's going to find out after it's shared publically with thousands of people. She didn't even have a choice about keeping it private or not. And how many people that saw it that know the couple but were too afraid to tell the wife.

What if they have kids? If their kids are teenagers, and are the ones to see it first?

The WS doesn't give a shit, he's bragging about it. His wife is the one who's going to suffer for this.

If she really wanted to let his wife know, i think she should have found out more information about him so she could contact his wife directly.

I think the poster's heart was in the right place, but she didn't think about who would REALLY suffer as a result of posting this.


Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois
rivenheart
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the poster did the right thing. Yes, the BW will suffer. So will the kids, if there are any. But they were already suffering anyway, and at least there's a chance now that the BW will have more of the truth about her marriage and her POS WH than she did before.

In the poster's defense, how could she really be expected to know all the ramifications of her actions if she's not a BW herself? She took what action she could, probably with good intentions. She didn't have a perfect solution to the problem, but she didn't just ignore the situation either.

Public shaming of loud-mouthed, blatantly sexist dumbshit waywards is all to the good, imho.

(Edited for typos.)

[This message edited by rivenheart at 8:53 AM, June 7th (Friday)]


rivenheart ~ heartriven
Me: BW, 36 at d-day; WH, 40

Posts: 1037 | Registered: Mar 2007
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Uh, some crazy bi#@h trying to cause trouble honey"

Yep.


I think that posting that would have been ill-advised if she had just happened to overhear the man talking about an affair that he was having. BUT...that's not what was going on. If I had been her, there is no way in hell that I would have tried to figure out who this guy was. I would have stayed far, far away from the immaturity.

Honestly, I would have loved it if someone had 'outed' Sultan for his cocky, smarmy ways.......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8073 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
twodoves
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That guy is a complete douche, which is why i don't think he'll be 'publicly shamed' by this at all. He was bragging about it loudly in front of strangers, he's proud of his infidelity.

I agree that the poster's intentions came from a good place, but she didn't think about how it would affect the BS at all. She thought she was getting back at the douchebag, but in actuality she was publicly shaming the wife on a massive scale.

Yes, the wife knows now, but at what cost? Thousands of other people know too, it's already been shared more than 20k times.

I'm glad the wife (hopefully) knows the truth about her husband now, but i feel awful for her finding out like this. How just raw and overexposed that must feel. I wish she could have found out another way that wasn't so public.


Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois
doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I absolutely disagree that this posters intention was to shame the wife. Her intention was to get this guys face out there to someone who might recognize him and tell his wife what he's doing. There was nothing pointing any fingers at the wife at all in that post. And how exactly would the poster get additional info on the guy in question? They were simply fellow passengers on a train and she overheard him talking. She might get a first name, but who says their last name on a train?

This woman did her best to warn a BW that her husband was a class A jerk and putting her life at risk. It's not the posters fault if this guys kids see what he's been up to, it's squarely HIS fault. If he didn't want his kids to know he's a douche, then he shouldn't be screwing around on his wife, AND bragging about it. That's on him, not on the poster.

Is it an ideal situation? No. But it's the best that could be done with the lack of info on the WS. IMO, it's better than just being another person listening to this guys antics and letting him get away with it and not letting his poor BW know what's going on. Maybe this public humiliation might be just what he needs to decide to shape up.

I love that she posted that!


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

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