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User Topic: Longer Fishing Line Needed
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tend to favor imagery and picture strength sometimes coming to us like a fishing pole. So in my mind, I am standing at the lake where I work down the hill, struggling with all my might to reel more string-strength-in, but it keeps getting caught.

Perv got his wish and I let the every-other-weekend crap begin for visiting DD. Silly me thought it was the easiest way to stave off some drama.

Well, as is a popular ala cart item on the D Menu, he is not holding his end of the stick on that either! He is trying to interpret the rules rather than just do's mentally exhausting.

It's not surprising anymore, though, and I'm getting the hang of things, but not backing down, either.

So since we are at half-way day through the week, I got a message about the weekend coming. Note: it's "My turn". He was talking about a weekly event that his family has and it's one of the promises he broke to DD that is having consequences come into effect now. He asked what my thoughts are on the occasion.

When I am past the text-o-rama drama, and not so mad, I find myself snickering at his expense lately. I told him that it's my turn and I miss DD and would like to spend my turn with her as we are supposed to. I gave a few hours of it already for an event.

Mind you, I was not rude, I used no exclamation points or anything!

So my phone started it's beeping and he informed me that it would be easier for everyone if "I would not assume he was asking for more time again!!!!???? Well, why would he write about a weekend day if he wasn't, esp. when it's not his turn?

I was dumb and wrote back-only once, caught off guard as they do to us- and said "I wasn't assuming, I was annoyed." So that got back, bing bing bing on my phone some more, that I have not answered this time. Sigh.

It occurs to me that OW must be out washing her cat or buying a new witches hat or finding another pointy fence to sit on...strange to be getting pointless messages when it's not DD visiting day.

I believe I'm being baited and I won't pick up that phone? I won't, I won't I won't!!!!!

Is there a yellow face emoticon for a scream on SI? I would use it if there was.

For some reason I feel like this petty sh is something he'll tell his L and I'm trying to just go on with the night, la-di-da. Don't reply, don't reply, don't reply...I tell myself.

And see, I was doing really well with NC this week-had been several days of only answering if need be and only DD related or house/money. He also knows I've been getting busier as my summer job started and summer class.

I spent two years reading about narcissism, but to actually be a receiver of it at its height and meanness is an amazing thing. It's almost like a talent, like the blame shifting, or an art form.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I wasn't assuming, I was annoyed."

I love the honesty of this!

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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny how they ask for more time with their kids, then don't live up to the bargain. Insane. Sorry honey, continue to ignore.

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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad I saw this. DD is with ex today and he changed her return until tomorrow night, not a problem with me.

I texted him back dd misses him so its ok his response

"I work so I try" and "if I don't work I can't pay child support"

WTF I came here to read LOL narcissists my ass just phone gangsters!

Be strong!

Only the strong survives!

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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mistake of breaking NC resulted in an ego kibble bender for the sad clown. I was surprised to find in amongst the mockery/sniggers I actually felt pity for him too.

Show your dick some respect dude, seriously.

I don't get why they have to be so fucking obtuse about every little thing.

Oh wait - yes I do. I believe the condition is called LowerMuppet-itis. And boy do they have it bad.

As NIK once said "They can push out buttons so easily because they installed the fuckers!!".

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strongbutbroken yes they did install the buttons!
It did hurt when he added the bit aboout he has to work because I am unemployed and it sucks!
But I get to be a fulltime mom and that's more important than a job I can lose!

Also I think the gf maybe getting tired of losing her weekends oh well suck it!!!!

Only the strong survives!

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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, the theory is that OW has a timer ticking and when the nasty comes out, it's maybe her pushing at him. Things she did on the internet, like putting dates of when she met him (Dumbass!) and they turned to PA, suggest to some of us that her clock is ticking.

Kind of funny in some ways, because a humungous complaint of Perv is how much responsibility he had!!!!!

It would not surprised me if they are engaged already and possibly have been.

Thanks for all the support, everyone. I'm getting better at not contacting the pervert, especially as the D papers are coming and some pretty horrible things are coming out on them.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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