Just wondered how many people's spouses A's ended after the OP found out she/he was being lied to by the WS?
In my situation the OW pursued FWH furiously for months before their A started despite knowing he was M to me!! After their A began we then go into the usual A bull ... He'd create an argument and leave for a night etc... After a year of this I called him after he walked out and wouldn't let him return until he'd sorted his shit out!! This was all pre knowing about any A....
Fast forward to DDay and FWH asked me to R but in reality just took their A underground. Only months later did a confrontation between me and OW occur. This was when I found out that OW truly believed he'd left me for her and, despite him refusing to move in with her, believed he'd met his soul mate and vice versa! Great to find out I'd been in false R for almost a year
When I filled her in with the truth she was soooooooooo hurt that he'd lie.... TO HER.... That she dumped him on the spot!!
Poor widdle cumdumpster he lied to you? Surely not!!
I just wondered if this was reality for anyone else.
And I hate to admit it but I still get upset that this was how their A ended and how he treated me post DDay.
I guess I'll post about that another day as I'm back in a flat plain at the moment. *sigh- this is a looong rollercoaster ride *