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User Topic: Ideas for former wedding dress?
Helen of Troy
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Question  Posted: 1:08 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

20+ years ago cost me $800. It's been sealed. I want to do something with it this month anti-versary that is theraputic for me to mark the occaision, my benefit. Giving it to kids not an option I want to consider.
Ideas?
Donate?
Shred?
Thanks in advance, I'm so not a creative person.

Posts: 4677 | Registered: Dec 2009
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bonfire...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 976 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excellent, Phoenix I even have a bonfire pit.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmm, I hadn't thought about this yet.. Maybe I'll go with cutting it up into rags and cleaning the toilets and THEN put it in the fire pit..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2002 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
CallMeRed1
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd sell it (if possible) and buy something you really want with the money. Like a weekend away or something.

Mine is still in my attic, not sure what I'm going to do with it yet, for some reason I don't want to get rid of it just yet...


D-Day 19 July 2012
Me - BS - 42
Status: Divorced

Posts: 181 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: England
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://myexwifesweddingdress.com/

A suggestion!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the link, Rebreather!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
gma56
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Wink  Posted: 3:40 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I trashed it and burned some wedding stuff. I did give the wedding photo album to FT when I was throwing crap in a box for him.

Thought he needed a reminder of what he threw away. There were pictures with our friends, family, kids, and late Moms. I have no idea if he looked at it.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I stuffed mine into a Salvation Army bin.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2570 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wore my Mother's dress. It's in my garage, sealed up in a box. I can't bring myself to get rid of or destroy HER dress. My parents have been married 56 years as of next Saturday. Surely hat outweighs any potential tarnish from my marriage.


You can call me NIK

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- Plato


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hoya96
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I donated mine to brides against breast cancer (http://www.bridesabc.org/).


Me: 39
3 children ages 9, 11 and 13
Out of blue ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man: 5/12/12

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Pippy
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've seen ideas like making fancy pillows to decorate your bed, or christening gowns for your grandchildren, but I just said 'nah' and burned it. It was a relief not to have to store it and drag it with me when I moved. Glad it's gone. It was too out of style to donate BTW.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

a friend of mine used hers as a Halloween costume, teared it up a bit and put fake blood all over it, her theme was "killer bride". She found it very refreshing to pretend to be a wife who killed her wh and ow, if only for a night


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DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The disaster relief organizations for Hurricane Sandy and the Oklahoma tornadoes would LOVE to get a wedding dress.


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Burn it.

Donate it.

If you google trash the dress images, you may get some other ideas.

Give it to a child care centre for dress ups?

Recycle it.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I donated mine. Just wanted it out of the house quickly.


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

Posts: 535 | Registered: Aug 2012
Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FYI
http://www.bridesabc.org/
At this time, we are in need of contemporary gown styles, slips and veils dating from 2009 until the present day.



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Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My first thought was put a match to it...... Voila burn baby burn.
Then I thought donate or sell depending on your financial situation.
You are the better person , but that doesn't mean we don't each have those thoughts.
Take the high road . Always



BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 600 | Registered: Jul 2012
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sold mine at a garage sale.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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