"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"
We'll all get there eventually, I bet.
I hope that's ok ...
I think it's far too close to final D to have any concern about this. Enjoy the time enjoying you.
I've dated on and off since DDay, just ended an 8 month relationship, and now I think I am finally ready to just focus on ME and my kids and who I want to be. So, in a sense, I'm in awe that you've started out that way.
I think you'll know when you're ready.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
I talked with my IC about this...lack of need for a boyfriend. She said it can be perfectly normal. I know I have very high walls up, only one guy made it through and it didn't work. She said I am very healed, I just don't want to deal with the trouble of a relationship.
I have so much on my plate that many days the thought of a relationship makes me squirm. My IC said that when the right person comes along, and it is EASY, then I will want it. I guess I just don't want something that requires too much effort on my part.
I think it is well within the normal range of behavior post S/D. She also told me many women don't date again until the children are out of the house.
Not wanting to date has nothing to do with not being healed.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings