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User Topic: Movie-Other Women
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Watching The Other Women with Natalie Portman. Can't help but get angry. The character is so two-faced. She is all pissed that her father cheated on her mother. But, thinks nothing about the fact that she herself is a cheater and helped to break up a family.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 10yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 946 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
namaste32
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They shouldnt make movies like that,ever

Posts: 185 | Registered: Jul 2011
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ads for the new TV series called mistresses makes me ill. What are they thinking? I take Andy and Maybery any day.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1532 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Saw that movie recently. I took more of an interest in reading the reviews. Thought of SI the whole time watching the movie and seeing the things so many of us here have experienced played out. Painful to watch.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3911 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Tiredofthepain
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Default  Posted: 5:31 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I avoid any movie with cheating in it if possible. It is hard to watch TV or movies because infidelity is so common in them, hell, even music.
Whenever the ad for Mistresses comes on it makes me want to We live in a very fucked up world when shows come on that glorify cheating..


ME-BS 48
HIM-WS 38
WS is SA, multiple visits to prostitutes.
Status: Hanging in there

I would rather be told a hurtful truth than a comforting lie.

Posts: 559 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NC
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The scene where she's talking about how much integrity he has made me LOL. Rang real true with me.

XH gave me this delightful speech about OW's integrity and my lack of.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 768 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never watched the movie. Doesn't surprise me that she'd be in it though, after all, she got her nice shiny new H from some other woman as well. Yep, she became the OW right around the time she made that movie.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...never understood why her mother and anyone else didn't remind her that she did the same thing to a family. Horrible movie about everything turning out good for the other women.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 10yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 946 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I googled the synopsis and it turns out to be a happily ever after for ow.

I also leaned that unfortunately there is to be another movie with the same name due out 2014. A girlfriend finds out her boyfriend is married and she and the wife band together to get revenge on the guy.

I wish if they were to make a movie they would be truthful. Tell it like it is really.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read a blog on infant loss that mentioned this movie. She wrote about the poor OW losing a baby and how the wicked xBW was heartless. I know she was writing from the perspective of a woman who lost an infant, but as I read the scathing attitude towards the BW I just seethed.

Like the BW didn't feel loss, her life ripped apart. As if she didn't lose her child in a way every time he had to go to the XWH and Wifetress for visitation. I know it's not the same and can't be compared but for f*ck's sake...people really don't get how painful infidelity is. That maybe a BS becomes the crazy, tearful, raving caricature of themselves because of the treatment during the A (and usually prior to the A as the WS slides into WS mentality). Gas lighting, d-day, underground A discovery, false R, cake eating...who doesn't crack under stress like that at some point?


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That movie made me upset on a lot of different levels. The cheating triggered me- the baby loss triggered me- the way that the movie portrayed the OW as the victim in the situation and the BW as this insensitive b*tch... I turned it off.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't seen that movie, but I can handle infidelity movies when it is not glamourized or glorified. If it shows the painful side.

The mistresses looks horrible. I believe it is based on a BBC series.


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3250 | Registered: Dec 2008
refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read about 10 reviews of this movie on Netflix.... all were sympathetic to the OW and critical of the "bitter" BS.

Needless to say my decision not to watch the film was made, and I won't so much as give it click, a search or any kind of internet attention. Any attention is good in the world of media...so I'll be skipping.


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one


Posts: 2372 | Registered: Jan 2010
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hated that movie. Not sure why I even watched it, but found it on Netflix one night. Would never recommend it to anyone that's for sure. I had zero sympathy for the OW. Hate the fact that some OW out there are probably watching it, and feeling better about themselves because of it.

It was a joke. Reality would be refreshing for once. Especially when "reality" shows very few of these affairs turning into long term relationships.

The message this sent to me was that its ok to be a mistress if the wife of the WH is a bit of a bitch.

But, of course if the wife was a kind woman, then nobody would like Portman's character. I can imagine the only people that liked her character are OW, or those that have never been through infidelity.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read about 10 reviews of this movie on Netflix.... all were sympathetic to the OW and critical of the "bitter" BS.

Yep, that's what hurt. I think maybe one reviewer was sympathetic to the BW and wrote that of course she's angry, considering that she just got her whole life taken from her, and how infuriating it is to have someone else - someone who didn't birth your children - being called 'mom', being in the role of 'mom'. Shows how few people really understood how completely reasonable her anger was.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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