Topic: NB hits another wall
Member # 16953
| Posted: 3:50 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
Well that was quick. Posted a coupe weeks ago about old GF I had reconnected with. Saw each other a few times and really hit it off. But it seems she is getting cold feet. Per her request she wants to concentrate on her own life and not get involved with anyone. Who can argue with that huh ? I played it cool and we will stay in contact and see what the future brings. But we all know its the kiss of death. I'm a bit disappointed but don't feel that bad either. My life overall is pretty good aside from the romance department. I keep being told that I'm a great catch and will find someone. Yet that don't seem to be in the cards. I've been getting flirted with by some other women. And there is nothing wrong with some of them. But it seems like the ones I choose to pursue are not working out. My BIL said I should just date as many women as I can. Wait things out and sooner or later I'll find someone. I heard somewhere that quantity has a quality all of its own. Maybe that's where I'm meant to be right now. Oh well, I guess its time to keep on keepin on.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Posts: 5591 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 9344
| Posted: 4:22 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
Sorry it didn't work out, Stronger. Good for you for not getting derailed.
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
Posts: 7605 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: Poolside
Member # 21964
| Posted: 6:33 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
Sorry to hear this. But for sure you don't want someone who doesn't want a relationship or want one with you. We've all had our fair share of that lol.
But I will say that your brother has a point. "Dating" - when your objective is to find a partner - can be a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the greater the likelihood you'll meet one who you click with.
And I dare say, the more women you talk to without an agenda, b/c you're caught up in living your own life, the greater the chances that you'll find someone. The old "it's when you stop looking that they arrive" adage.
"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand
Posts: 3045 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 18437
| Posted: 7:03 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
Sorry to hear this, but you have a great attitude and outlook on life.
Meeting the right someone can be hard. He has eluded me so far too. Hang in there, I'm sure the right woman is out there for you.
Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Posts: 1846 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: NY
Member # 21791
| Posted: 7:53 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
I'm sorry this did not work out. It sounds like you are handling it well. I try to look at each of these experiences as part of the learning process in terms of how relationships work now.
Married 21 years
Two sons 21 and 23 in college
Posts: 1452 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Northern Michigan
Member # 22870
| Posted: 5:14 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
But, now you don't have to wonder about that one.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7509 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 30341
| Posted: 11:00 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013|
I'm a bit disappointed but don't feel that bad either. Is my experience the more time I put into dating. It gets easier, each rejection feels less like rejection and more like the process of selection...people eliminate themselves from my "pool" and it isn't so much of a problem for me...
When it is supposed to happen, it will happen. Slow down... Good things take time...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Posts: 3063 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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