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User Topic: SO feels "pressured" to accept my friend request
tiredofit
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just want to climb under a rock. Just noticed on the full fb site that there are other mesg categories other than inbox. Clicked on spam and it was empty. Clicked on other mesgs and there were a few benign ones but one fr some woman who friend requested me last month and I ignored because I didn't know her. She sent me 2 mesgs one in feb and one in early may saying she thinks we have someone in common and she has info on my x and his bimbo and that he's been hiding money fr me for years!!!
I really just want to throw up I'm so stressed. Is this another jilted bimbo that I didn't know about??!!


Me: BS45 him: stbxh 45
2 dd's 16 and 12
Multiple DDs 7/09 - 9/21/10 same mow co-worker
Last DD 9/21/10 found love notes on computer I'm done, I'm free!!

Posts: 200 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: ny
Confused1829
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((tiredofit)))

I am so sorry. That is awful. I am so sorry that your innocence and trust has been violated again.

Did you reach out to the women for more information?

Sending love and thoughts your way.


Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)

Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
tiredofit
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. I'm hoping she will answer. Tried looking at her fb page and googling her but didnt find out much. Feeling soooo depressed


Me: BS45 him: stbxh 45
2 dd's 16 and 12
Multiple DDs 7/09 - 9/21/10 same mow co-worker
Last DD 9/21/10 found love notes on computer I'm done, I'm free!!

Posts: 200 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: ny
Confused1829
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lots of hugs. You are not alone! We are all there with you.

I am so sorry and I hope you get the answers you deserve. I truly hope it's not the worst.

Sometimes it's that gut feeling though, ugh. :(

Have you talked to him or are you waiting to talk to the woman first? It may be better to get info from her first so you can compare, even if you have that feeling.

Again, I am so sorry. Thinking of you! Just know that you can get through anything, and have already proved it :) You are a special, incredible and strong woman. You deserve the best and nothing less.


Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)

Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
tiredofit
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks confused. Really doubting everything right now. If this woman was with my x I didn't have a clue. I wonder if there's more. Trying to seem ok around my daughters but I really just want to cry.
This on top of the issue I'm having w/ my SO. I think I need to let the relationship go but I have to admit I'm afraid to be alone. I wish I didn't feel this way


Me: BS45 him: stbxh 45
2 dd's 16 and 12
Multiple DDs 7/09 - 9/21/10 same mow co-worker
Last DD 9/21/10 found love notes on computer I'm done, I'm free!!

Posts: 200 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: ny
click4it
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No one ever wants to be alone. Its never easy to end a relationship especially after a length of time. I've been there done that. But let me tell you, you will feel so much better later when you are alone and not dealing with the "what ifs" and the hurt. (((hugs)))


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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stupidstupidme
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with click. I am completely alone right now, and although there are things about it I don't like, there's also some safety and peace. I hope you are able to resolve these things, and feel better soon!


Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
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VioletPush
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tired - I'm so sorry you're going through this :(

I agree that this really isn't about Facebook anymore and is about his feeling pressured by something so silly, his reluctance to trust you, and his inability to be honest about these things without you having to dig. What does that say for the future progression of this relationship?

What if you want to move in together one day, what if you want to get married? If this Facebook thing prompted this situation after a year and a half, what happens if/when you feel like you want to take this relationship to the next level?

Something is going on, either with how he feels about your relationship, or some personal issues he has.


Got rid of a lot of baggage, moved across the country, and am moving on with my life!

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I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whaaat? Oh dear. Well there's your answer potentially.

Don't ever doubt your gut. Trust yourself always.

Time to stand up straight and not climb under that rock. You are worth the truth and this guy may not be capable of giving it to you 100% of the time. That would be the end of the road for me.


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