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User Topic: First year back is in the books
tesla
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Cool  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My first year back teaching from being a SAHM is officially over! And I'm so HAPPY!!!!!

What a fucking tough year...to go from having zero job prospects one year ago (and I mean zero...I put out at least 12 teaching applications, got calls for NIL) to getting my foot in the door as a teacher's aid to getting asked to replace a teacher that had been fired...and yeah, filling that post wasn't rife with political land mines.

But I did it. Figured out the job (not in my original licensed area), won over my colleagues (OMG, think I made two friends...huge for me), and decided I liked the job so much that I'm signed up to get a master's in it. I am financially independent and although I have some debt, it is manageable and will be paid off by the end of next school year.

Now, I get a summer to recoup, start my master's course work, work on some house projects...and oh yeah, I got this little Teslet that I get to spend the majority of the summer with.

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

Anywho...today is the start of a *very* long weekend for me!

I'm going to drink a couple of celebratory beers this evening...you should join me!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
kernel
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's to ya! I'm toasting with my 7up - already had a margarita after work with some pals and that's enough for me on a work night!

Have a TERRIFIC summer!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5002 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was.

I hear you. I look back and it boggles my mind how miserable I was. And then stupidly thinking that R was the answer?? Lol. Being divorced from asshats is awesome. The crazy stops and life suddenly improves.

So glad the teaching has worked out for you this way.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3043 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great update! I'm having a blonde ale tonight in your honor!

I completely relate -- the me from two years ago (pre D-Day) would not believe how fantastically happy the current me is. To say nothing of the me on D-Day or its aftermath, where I thought my life was over.

Here's to new beginnings!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got a nice Imperial IPA I've been saving that I'll enjoy this evening. :) I'm glad things are going so well for you. It gives me hope.

Posts: 1645 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Found a Belgian white ale that looked interesting at the grocery store.

oooh...an imperial IPA! Yum!

And when I got back from the grocery store, there were 3 texts from ex-shat explaining why I haven't seen my half of his tax refund and that he's voluntarily garnishing himself. Gee...isn't he just great?

My response: "And the arrears?"

His response: Crickets.
Uh-huh. Text me when the money is in the bank and on its way, asshole.

Now I'm also having a beer out of gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post tesla! I just got home from a kettlebell workout, so I will toast you tonight with some hot detox tea. SO excited for you!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4436 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of Belgian White? Those are among my favorites!

Mine was also a Belgian -- Grimbergen Blonde.

Yay for no longer being with idiots!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post. I'm 5 years out, and it keeps getting better.

The drama free life is awesome!

[This message edited by Williesmom at 8:32 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7504 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's called a white hatter from new holland brewing. Citrusy and a nice finish of coriander. Perfect beer to end a muggy, warm day on...especially since I refuse to turn the air conditioning on yet!!
(I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity to run the air )


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Overall, I'd say my life is pretty fucking fantastic.
I'll toast to that!

gratitude that I'm not with that idiot anymore
And to that!

I'd rather spend money on good beer than electricity
And definitely to that!!! (Where is the little tipsy emoticon?)


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1794 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I look back in my journal entries in the year leading up to D-day and that poor woman had lost hope...and all sense of who she was

I'm glad she has found hope, and found herself. She's a hell of a woman!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1802 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice California cabernet here.

You go girl!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17282 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
NoTriangles
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheers to you Tesla! You have come so far and have become so strong!!

You go, Girl!!


Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

Posts: 1251 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness
tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone!

Just got a baiting text from ex-shat. A year ago, I would have responded, tried to reason with him, be his conscience.

This year...yeah, not so much. A roll of my eyes paired with a FTG and I'm back to enjoying my beer.

It's amazing how time has a way of pulling back the curtain and revealing the man behind the fantasy.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you are one of my heroes

beer, yuuuummmmm

So reassuring to see the amazing light to come at the end of this infidelity ridden tunnel. Love reading stuff like this.


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very happy for you Tesla.

You have gone through all kinds of crap and managed to navigate through it all.

You are just so exceptional in so many ways!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go!!!


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49465 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for you Tesla!

May I suggest Stone Brewing Co's Arrogant Bastard Ale? It is one of my favorite beers. And the name just makes me all fuzzy inside. He's not worthy of you.

eta I only see it in 22oz bottles
u.

[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 10:29 AM, May 31st (Friday)]


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1114 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will be toasting to you as well while chilling with 3 of my favorite ladies tonight.

Rolling off a year as well considering we separated in May 2012. That was followed by him moving out in October 2012, filing for divorce in November 2012, a tedious mediation and our divorce being final on May 17, 2013, which would have been our 17th wedding anniversary.

You deserve to enjoy your summer and all the good that is coming your way!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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