Juki is doing what she needs to do to feel safe.
Do you fucking get that? Have you ever been assaulted? Have you ever had a gun pointed at you, or a knife wielded? Have you even been hit?
Well, I have, and it isn't a calm, let's-talk-about-finances feeling the next day.
It's a I-hate-you-and-I-never-want-to-see-you-again feeling.
Juki gave you chance after chance. MORE chances than she should have. (first time in years that I've used that barfy smiley because it grosses me out)
You deal with 'your' finances, and I assume she'll deal with hers. And believe me, she could care less about your JOB, or your finances right now. She just wants to get away from YOU.
She gave you chance after chance. You TT after TT. She thought you loved her. That you would be willing to do the work. THAT'S why she was going to leave the car and drive home. Because she thought you would GET it. That you might realize the chance you had been given...to be a couple again.
Either you aren't capable, or you (mistakenly) think she's buying into your BS. She's not, and neither are the hideous meanies who post on the WW side.
Either way, she's gone.
PLEASE leave her alone. She has requested NO CONTACT from you. What was your reaction to that? You sent her some sort of creepy message about her car windows being down. Don't you GET how scary that must have been for her? She must have felt like her abuser was stalking her.
I have to tell you the truth; if someone did to me what you did to your wife? They'd be in jail for a very long time. So.........she gave you a chance (multiple) because she loved you. You lied. You failed. You scared the shit out of her and now she's done (I hope).
Please work on YOU. You are not a safe person.
People start over every day financially. Go bankrupt. Get a new job if you lose this one, (and I have my doubts about you threatening that constantly).
If you really want your wife back, you have a long road ahead. YEARS. It might take years for her to even speak to you again. That might happen only if you become 'safe' (and if she doesn't move on).
Okay. My whole post was not very supportive. I guess I'll live with it.
Edited to fix pronouns.