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User Topic: Residential treatment tomorrow - needing support
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Nik and kids))

I hope it's all good today also.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am planning to head up today for an "on campus" visit. I'll be calling her in a little bit to see how last night went and to schedule the afternoon visit.

After I see her, I may go see a movie. Or I may stare at the walls for a few more hours.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh.. big change always leaves me floating aimless. Then add in the fact that you've been a caretaker and on high alert for months and months. I can only imagine you don't feel tethered. New normal will come.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) staring at walls is not a bad thing. we all need time to sit back and process, sometimes. keeping you and your dd in my thoughts.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

Please let us know how she's doing. You are a wonderful mom.


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okaynow
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik)))


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I talked to DD on the phone this morning, and then spent some time with her at the facility this afternoon. She's doing ok. She said she cried a lot last night, but then they had donuts for their evening snack, and she felt better.

She was still very focused on how long she would be there and wanting to get out soon. I kept reassuring her that the key is to focus instead on working with the counselors, following the program, and working as hard as she could to make the changes she needs to make.She seems to understand that, but is still very concerned about how long she'll be away from home.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like she's a bit anxious and is perseverating on coming home. I'm sure as she settles in and her anxiousness decreases she'll start focusing on the work she has to do.

(((NIK)))


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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booger bear
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Content  Posted: 8:28 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((DD & Nik)))

I worked in a treatment facility on the girls ward ... The staff was really awesome and really tried to connect and help the girls. Lot's of positive things came out of that place.

OTOH ... Holly shit it could be that many females and 99% of the staff was female in that ward ... Sometimes it was crazy. I mean I'm a girl and I remember how I was as a teen, throw a few dozen more, plus hormones, and all the dramatics ... That ward could get positively The thing that always amazed me was the staff and the way we could bring the girls together at the end.

She will be fine Nik ... Work her program, talk to her counselor or group, do her assignments, and do her very best to be Switzerland when all that "girl stuff" starts.

more hugs ((()))


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haven't been around, but remembered she was scheduled for the end of the month. I've been thinking of you and saying prayers. So glad the first day went as well as could be expected. Hope she settles in and focuses on her work...and you get some sleep... Naps are my hobby.

Hugs,

K


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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are a great mom, Nik. Can't imagine how difficult this is for you.


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Saw DD again today. She's very sad and weepy. Really wants to be home. She's got a brave face on and is saying all the right things about working hard and getting better, but the homesick is right below the surface.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((nik and dd))))))
I want to hug your sad and weepy girl and her sad and weepy mom.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((NIK)))))) (((((DD)))))

Has she started her program yet? It is so hard to have the kids away... for any reason even summer camp (which they enjoy!).

Just think of all the new coping mechanisms she will have at her disposal when she does leave.

Hugs for your hurting heart.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((now)))))))))))


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik and DD)))


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has she started her program yet?
Not yet. She just entered the facility Friday, so the weekend has been about settling in and getting to know staff and other clients. The first two weeks are really spent in evaluation and observation.

She has a physical evaluation on Monday, will see her psychiatrist on Tuesday(the same one she's been seeing for going on 5 years - he's on staff at this facility), and will meet with her individual counselor this coming week.

In two weeks - on the 13th - they'll have her master treatment plan prepared to review with us. And then things start in earnest.

Thanks for the hugs. I really do appreciate them today.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's good to hear that her dr for the past 5yrs will see her Tuesday. A familiar face may help put her a little at ease. Sending you and DD HUGE hugs and strength.

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girlsbird
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All of my support, love and prayers to you and your family. (((((((HUGS)))))


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A familiar face will (hopefully) help ease the homesick blues a bit. It sounds like everything is settling in for her to get all the help she needs. The waiting for things to begin is probably the hardest part of this.

Keeping you and DD in my prayers.

Sending hugs too.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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