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User Topic: what if XH won't choose vacation weeks
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before I call my atty, has this happened to anyone?

WH won't choose his vacation weeks.

Actually, he did choose some weeks now he says he doesn't know what weeks he wants.

AAARRGGGHHH. I told him he already chose and those are his weeks. If he doesn't pick up kids, do I have to hang around here for the weekend visitation or am I free to take his 2 weeks and get out of town with my sons?


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've heard this complaint on here numerous times.

They just LOVE to stress you out so that you keep engaging.

If there's something written in stone, I would point to that and give him a deadline. I think most decrees do (or at least should) have some sort of deadline for notifying about this kind of thing..

If you don't have that, I think the best thing would be to contact your attorney and let him/her deal with him..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he doesn't pick up kids, do I have to hang around here for the weekend visitation or am I free to take his 2 weeks and get out of town with my sons?
Unfortunately, no one here will be able to answer that question. It depends on how your agreement is written and what your state uses as guidelines if there's nothing in the agreement.

Your attorney is your best bet.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
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AppleBlossom
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am in Australia, and I had this happen to me all the time. I had to get a lawyer involved, and its funny how quickly he buckled down after that. Now we plan out the whole year in advance, and I take time off work based on that. We also put into the agreement that if either one of us has to work over shcool holidays, the other parent gets first refusal rights, and if they cant, then the parent who has them has to pay for child care. That is a good incentive to make sure you have organised time off work.

Good luck, I understand your frustration.


Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Australia
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm lucky in that I don't have a total dickbag dad for my kids so he DOES choose his weeks...BUT I think it was like the first summer he only picked one, so the other week WAS mine. Forfeit! Too bad, so sad.



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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2149 | Registered: Jan 2012
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Idiot:

I need to know which 2 weeks you would like to take as your vacation weeks with the children by June 5. If I do not have dates from you by that time, I will assume you are taking date-month to date-month and you will need to arrange appropriate coverage if that is not suitable, since I will not be available.

The children look forward to spending some time with you.

Regards,

HW2011


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2149 | Registered: Jan 2012
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