He gave OW a credit card so she could travel to meet when he was out of town on business, first class to Vegas, DC, London, New York, Philadelphia rinse and repeat.
Then, there were the designer gifts....and watch!
Add in The five star hotels and 300 dollar plus bottles of wine( dinners for two over 550)...
Adds up to way over 125,000!
But of course, my H said it was just for services rendered! Musta been some great sex!
He asked what I was going to do with the money, and I don't know. I think it would be best spent on us.
DDay #1: June 9, 2012
Dday #2 (TT): November 29, 2012
DDay #3 (The BIG one, ALL the TT): March 30, 2013
Semi-False R: June 12, 2012 - March 21, 2013
REAL R: March 21, 2013 - present
And this past year he spent 16,000 in less than 4 months on WTF ever for he and his ho. The other 10 grand did go towards OUR bills BUT he withdrew 10,000 of my bond inheritance money. He called and transferred it to HIS account then had it wired to him. And I believe he spent around 35,000 the remainder of the year.
Sooo that equals 150 thou~! Not to mention the therapy bills and many other things..
And here my kids think they will get something from him when he dies LOL! He drained the savings and is now spending ALL of his income and letting me spend the rest of my inheritence to v=dover all of the bills. He is so nice like that.
He got SO pissed when he realized that all of the savings was gone! DUH! HE is the one who spent it all then figured out it was gone. What an idiot.
There is some in IRAS but not nearly as much as he spent of our savings.
And here he is "livid" because I got some inheritance and had it in my name as per attorneys instructions. And that's a good thing because that would all be gone to if he had control of it.
It will burn my ass to for the rest of my life. I did without most of h=my life to save it and boom add in a couple whores and its gone.
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
I don't think he was very generous finanically to them but his affairs have still cost us $$$
He resigned - supposedly with burnout and depression. Mostly affair related in retrospect. So only small amount of part time income for the first year and now only 20hours a week.
Post d-day I could only just hold things together at work so didn't do any overtime to compensate.
I also had to pay another semester of fees at university. Post D-day I was unable to focus and complete my thesis on time and had to get a semester extension.
Then the $$$$ we have spent on IC for each and MC.
Then extra doctor visit for anxiety and ADs and the STD screens etc
WH#2- I am not sure how much he spent on OW over the 3yr LTA because we keep our money seperate (Yes, I did learn one thing from XWH#1). I know he bought her an engagement ring, nice dinners, hotels, etc..When I went to work out of state she lived in my home so they could save $$ on hotels since her grown kids lived with her. The month I found out I made him pay her part of the monthly bills plus his. I know of several porn movies, a new CD player, sex toys, viagra,vacations, etc. Now when he offers to pay for anything such as dinner out I let him. After DDay#1 he offered to buy me a cruise or pay off a student loan that I had taken out. I of course did not want anything from him and still don't. It cost me a fantastic job that paid very well and all my expense were paid by my employer. I have not been able to work since DDay#1 due to health issues and have went through my savings and checking. Just last week I had to break into my 401K just to pay my bills, something I always swore I would never do. I still have 6 weeks before I can look for a new job since I just had surgery this week. I am just glad that we didn't have a joint account.
Nothing. OW paid for absolutely everything.
Apparently she was absent the day they discussed financial arrangements at whore school
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
My H spent a lot of money on prostitutes, during years when we had very little and I was supporting him financially. This really rankles with me. My parents also gave him money to help with his overseas study. He still cannot explain how he managed to withdraw money without me noticing as I handled all the financial stuff. Urgh
How much money did WS spend on MOW?
Directly: Maybe $25 on skype credit.
Indirectly, going out with her and her group of friends, he probably spent about $400 on drinks for himself and food bills split amongst a group. $100 on taxi fees to transport them.
Add another $2000 worth of alcohol he drank at home while skyping with her.
$200 on new underwear to impress her (similar to the infamous pair she bought him)
$600 in marriage counseling
Oh and then there is the fact that he got a marginal job review and no raise for that year. He was upset, but I pointed out it was damn good considering he was toasted or hung over the entire time AND spent most waking hours chatting with MOW. I have no idea when he really got work done.