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idkam
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dad passed away in 2012 and my step sister (dad married her mom when she was 3 or 4) has his picture as her signature or whatever u call it on FB... Who ghe hell does that? Everytime she posts/comments my dads pic is there... This is so damn disrespectful... Why in the hell would she think this is ok??

Do i ask her to take it down or just block her?? I know if i say something she will run to her mother and im not sure what would happen, maybe nothing but im not sure if i should approach it...

What say you?


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would simply ask her to take it down. Tell her that it hurts you seeing your dad's picture every time she posts. If she has any kind of respect for you she should honor your wishes.

Good Luck.


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KeepCalm_CarryOn
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there a reason? Memorial Day or Father's Day? Is it her and him?

Just curious- why do you think it's disrespectful? (Genuinely just curious)

I sometimes put up a pic of my uncle and I around his birthday or other special occasions to honor or remember him. My parents are still alive so it's not quite the same....if it really bothers you, just have a conversation with her.


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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds perfectly normal to me.

She lost her stepfather and as a tribute has his photo as her profile picture.

I have many friends that do this when someone they love passes away.

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idkam
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Keep calm no my dads birthday was two wks after he passed... She's had this way since his death....why put your father who is deceased on a social media? Her daughter passed away 5 yrs ago and she hasnt posted a birthday or anniversary of her death on FB so why is this so significant??


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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its normal to me too.
Your dad has effectively been HER dad since she was 3-4yrs old.

I had a classmate pass away (suddenly) a few months back. His kids and other relatives have been using their favorite pics of him as their profile pics. People grieve and pay tribute in their own ways.

I'd let it go or simply block her if if bothers you.


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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, aleo dont find it strange. Since your father has been her step-dad since she was 3, this is probably her way of paying tribute

I cannot answer why she doesnt put photos of her deceased dd but does of your dad/her step dad. The only thing I can think of is the pain is too great seeing her dd on fb.

If you discuss this with her and she goes and complains to her mother, thats on her. You're adults. Your stepmother cant put you in time out


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idkam
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys i will leave it alone and probly block her from my FB....


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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I would consider it normal. I have a few friends who have use pics of their deceased parents as a profile pic. Is their a particular reason why it is offensive to you?


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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like her way of honoring his memory.


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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find it normal.. I frequently make my profile pic either of my parents ( both deceased), my grandma, my Aunt.. I feel it's a way of honoring them

BUT.. I also hate myself in pics so a lot of time my profile pic is my dog & rarely me!


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