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User Topic: First really objective look at OW
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No problem at all. I will definitely refrain from posting pics.

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time I met the OW was at CH Christmas party. Funny I had strong feeling there was attraction between them but dismissed it because she was married and we were so into us. The next time I was her was when she sent pic of her in red lingerie by txt on his phone 10 days ago. Oh BTW he bought it for her. Went out and purchased a cash credit card so he could send it without any funny charges showing up. Way to go! CH
I look at her and I am sick. We had the same hair color, NO MORE I couldn't look at myself and not think of her. I know how it feels to look at the competition. Please consider she isn't. People like that are selfish and uncaring. They really cant hold a candle to you. Dismiss her from your mind. They are just the pit your spouse sank into and not worth the time it takes to think about them.

M 3/27/12 together since 06'
A EA/PA 4/19/13/5/26/13
DD 6/12/13
Forced NC 6/13/13
MOW coworker-caught,TT for six months.

Posts: 117 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw OW for the first time about 4 months after we S. She was at the former marital home on WH's visitation evening. That was a nasty surprise.

She exceeded my wildest expectations. She is 10 years older than me, but looks more. She's probably 100 lbs heavier (and while I'm not overweight, I am not a tiny person). She was even dressed badly. Her work pants were straining at the seams almost to the point of camel toe. She had a mullet type haircut with bad highlights, a bumpy nose, a saggy double chin... I was stunned that WH had ever found her attractive.

The positive to come out of that encounter was that after seeing her, I could be certain that none of this mess was about me.

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 9:18 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

funny thing.. whenever I'm feeling down & sad about the A, I go on OW FB & look at her posts & pictures & 9 times out of 10 I feel better..

In addition to being extremely ugly (think female linebacker with 5 chins & weird demon eyes.. no offense to linebackers Actually OW honest to goodness looks like Fiona from Shrek, same body everything & her BH does look like Shrek as well) OW is a lost soul.. she goes from BFF to BFF .. she will be posting how XYZ is her BFF & they are inseparable . they have their little 'inside' FB jokes (can you say high school?) & then all of a sudden BOOM this BFF is gone & another one is in her place.. She seems to find needy people, gets to be their BFF, buys them stuff, does everything for them & then once they seem to be a free person, she dumps them.

All sort of what she did to WH... Once he filed for D, she wanted no more part of him & has NEVER contacted him since the A ended.

glad the photo made you feel better, I totally understand

"Sorry" works when a mistake is made, but not when trust is broken. So in life, make mistakes, but never break trust. Because forgiving is easy, but forgetting & trusting again is sometimes impossible

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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw a picture of my WH ONS prostitute. I thought she was ugly, but when I said so, he said he thought she was cute.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG luvedmypbear... I was pregnant on DDay, and I can't imagine if that had happened to me... Maybe I was lucky? I don't know, but I guess it helped that my WH PCSed to S. Korea when I was about 12 wks, so no sexy times...and very few after I found out I was Preggo too because I was so sick.

Simularities between me and other woman: glasses, hair color, eye color, about the same body built....but her boobs are like...twice the size of mine. She's only a year younger and at the time of their affair...I was heavily pregnant, so she was skinner by default. Also, she had a lot of really trashy looking tattoos. I'm a fan of tattoos (don't have any yet tho), but hers were really trashy looking, but WH thought they were hot. I've looked all threw her FB pics, and if I am honest with myself, she is kind of pretty but only when she smiles. However, she has an ugly heart and that tops all of the above. BTW, I started wearing my contacts everyday again and dyed my hair a lighter color. lol

[This message edited by Tired05 at 3:40 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know OW as she works for my husband.

I wouldn't say she isn't attractive, just the polar opposite of me. Short, blonde, huge boobs, uneducated. She smokes, doesn't work out, has a young child.
There are statistics that show that generally the OW isn't as attractive as the spouse.
She was sure to let me know that he was into her because of her age and her boobs. OK that's nice....

I am stronger than the storm.
I take every experience in my life, no matter how horrendous it was, as a learning experience

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