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I emailed obs last Tuesday (yay for me!); I haven't gotten any response but I know my message was opened. However, OW's LinkedIn and (very active) Twitter account have both vanished since then. Does anyone have an idea why she would do that ?

Obs may have had her shut it all down.

Agreed. Got caught with hand in the cookie jar.

Super grats for letting the obs know!!

I would call that success. My WH shut down his FB account at my request.

At the risk of sounding naive, what is the obs's goal in having her shut down the accounts ? Thanks for being patient with me :-)

Shutting down the accounts can decrease the communication between the ws and op. It takes away one route for them to communicate or get updates on each other.

Aha ! I think I get it :-)

Although FWH has never read any of OW’s twitter messages, I think she thought he did.

She has been sending out twitter messages since NC, about mourning a lost love, staying behind after a goodbye, etc.

During their 2 affairs, she's been telling FWH he is the love of her life and her husband was just for financial comfort. She’d tell him she’d leave obs for him but because of finances, she’d want to move in with FWH soon after.

Being the liar that FWH now discovers she is, I guess obs had no idea, OW was living her life as if nothing had happened, obs read my message exposing her, and now she's in trouble.

I also asked my WH to shut down FB account and remove his picture from other social media as a privacy issue.

Well that didn't last long. Her Twitter page is up again, with quotes about not giving up what you want because it's worth the wait. Ugh.

AmberDust - hey she can wither on the vine waiting!

Perv changed his page for a while when I asked him about it, but then changed it again. When I inquired about OWs' page, that was different. He was irate and other things. He called me a liar and tried to say "it's mine, not hers", which really was much worse.

Can people go underground on Twitter like on FB and call their pages things beside their name?

A friend suggested I put the ultra sound photos up on OWs page or mine just for spite, but I'm not that way and those sites are ruined for me now, anyway. The connection bothered me also, knowing she might "look" at mine.

You know what I found gross about having it there, too?

Perv put several at the same time and put "status: M" and a parallel page with her tribe as "status: W" and left some stuff I had written to him a few years ago. OWs is very juvenile, fashy and him all over and his name and dates, while he's on there with "Status M" to someone else? What kind of person would want that for herself? And keep him?

Sorry for the change of topic, I can't seem to put this part away and wonder what you all think.

I wonder if OW in Obs case didn't want you looking at her pages or was changing them, as you said the new one came up?

Can people go underground on Twitter like on FB and call their pages things beside their name?

I think you can call your Twitter page anything you want, and you can also hide it so it cannot be found by people you have not indicated to be your friend.

I wonder if OW in Obs case didn't want you looking at her pages or was changing them, as you said the new one came up?

It's her old Twitter page she has restarted, so all her winey cry-baby "I miss the love of my life" quotes are back. It makes me wonder if obs never reads the things his wife writes. As a spouse I'd be totally insulted.

((AD))

Copy the notes you know are about your fwh, and send them to her bs.

Then go silent unless he needs to speak to you. Speak once, then no contact.

Time to concentrate on your marriage. (trust me! I know you want to make her regret her actions!) You may actually have done that with the letter. But, in the end, you know your wh went along. That was a hard one for me, I had to accept the blame between the two of them, not just her. My fwh didn't just accidentally fall in her magic va jay jay.

You can only control you. Do your best to stay away from her pages on anything and time to work on the two of you, and the marriage you should have.

Edit:

Stay no contact unless obs contacts you. Then you can give him proof.

Follow your gut, it will tell you if you are in false R. Rec. you both read "Not Just Friends".

[This message edited by fourever at 7:51 AM, May 24th (Friday)]

Adding,

She is baiting you. That's her MO. If she begins trouble…… Ignore her! She needs to be nobody.