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User Topic: Why is it so hard to understand!
dontknowanymore1
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, May 17th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ok, so nc was broke today, cause he was pissing me off with texts, im in the pub come meet me.
Why cant he understand that him being in the pub is not ok for me?
its were it started, its were she works, its were she drinks.
whilst he swears blind shes not there when he goes, and if she were to come in he would just leave (I don't believe him, but even if it were true) why cant he see that just him being there hurts and makes me wanna be sick??
ive tried to explain, and I really don't think it should be this hard to get his head around.

big bunch of flowers delivered this morning,......straight into bin when I found out were he was.

do they not think they have caused enough pain, without doing this kind of thing afterwards??


me bgf(25)
him wbf(44)
dday 7th may 2013
children 2
together 4 1/2 years
status want out

How can you love what you cant trust?


Posts: 49 | Registered: May 2013 | From: england
wanttogoforward
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, May 17th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh,dka1!
I feel for you... we all spent tons of time trying to get our spouses to understand that since they had an A there needs to be boundaries- have the two of you discussed what those will be?
Have you talked about the consequences of his breaking those boundaries?
What do you think should be done?
If he needs to drink, why THAT pub? why not another one?!
He has triggered you... and needs to grasp that in his mind. Set your boundaries firmly and stick to whatever you say the consequences are!

Posts: 1184 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still lost
dontknowanymore1
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, May 17th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ive told him again and again, I cant be with you if you cant stay away, he doesn't seem bothered, yet still texts he loves me and misses me .
found a great way of coping though, any one want a drink lol.
no lectures, im not drinking much!


me bgf(25)
him wbf(44)
dday 7th may 2013
children 2
together 4 1/2 years
status want out

How can you love what you cant trust?


Posts: 49 | Registered: May 2013 | From: england
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