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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 10
wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love that GIF.


Machiavellian idiot savant

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok what the fuck??? At my b.i.l.'s birthday party and hanging out by the fire and had not seen my wife for a 1/2h so go to look for her and somebody says she's down the all.. Ok she is hanging with the kids watching a movie right, right???? So I go walking down the hall and low and behold there the FUCK she is, in the bathroom while two fucks are are standing there pissing staring at their dicks. HOLY FUCK!!!! How I kept my fucking RAGE I'm check I have no fucking idea.

So I turn and walk away after she says "look they are both peeing!!! "WHO GIVES A FUCK WHY ARE YOU IN A GODDAMN BATHROOM WITH TWO DUDES???????

Go outside and light a smoke she comes out fiver mutes later and acts all fucking kosher... Really? REALLY???

Now she can see that I am fucking pissed, so she walks away and goes sits by the fire by herself, I follow and ask her why the fuck she was in the bathroom with dudes pissing, she doesn't get a chance to answer because a couple of buddies came over to us. She gets up and walks away, I follow her and tell her we need to talk so go out into the street and I tell her that that was way the fuck out of line that that is a fucking DEALBREAKER!!!! She does the normal ws bullshit and tries balm shifting it ask why I have been so distant, I tell its because I am angry and paranoid that you are still cheating on me maybe with somebody else now, and we can't talk about it because I don't want my girls to her that and she would only fucking get mad anyways. Back to the bathroom part I said to her put yourself into my fucking shoes for once how would you feel if I was in a bathroom with two girls and I was staring at their pussies, what the fuck would you do???
No comment she wouldn't answer just shock her fucking head, and walked away. As she is leaving I said to her I'm fucking done, when you stop acting like an idiot you can come talk to me.

Now she is lost in the tiny town I am from and wants me to come find her... FUCK THAT NOISE!!! Told she has a smart phone use the map feature, your a big girl.

I don't know what to do guys, I am beyond fucking choked, I might be done, and don't know if I even want to fucking try anymore.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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noescape
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sk, this is sick. i couldnt find your story but this was just infuriatingly sick to read. gently, stop being an enabler bro. kick to the curb or separate or... or whatever man but dont hang around for such disrespect.


feeling mad on your behalf. detach. get away from this. ugh....


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noescape
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Somehow, like I said, it was a lot of incremental things that made me realize that the price of abundant circus sex was more than my soul could bear.

amen jj, amen to that.

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you know? Vagitarian is from the ancient Sanskrit:
"P$$Y Whipped".

That's pure gold right there!

JJ, can't wait to have a beer with you some day mate. OBX 2014!


Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:27 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just kind of bellying up to the betrayed men's bar tonight. Really rough night on the home front. I really don't want to talk about it. But I am here. Cheers, dudes.

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 4:33 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And now it gets fucking better yet!!! I have no idea how I have kept my temper tonight. I am absolutely fuelled by rage right now, I am shaking so bad I can barely type.

Ok I have calmed down a bit. Can't remember if I said she was lost or not, anyways so I driving around looking for her go back to house I'm staying at and get a thought maybe she took a taxi home. So go to my house about twenty minute drive two towns over. Cause I know she didn't have keys to get in.

And there is a fucking truck in my drive way, so I rip everything out of pockets, turn to the person driving me this is gonna be really bad, full on fucking beast mode kicks in, I fly out of the car and rush for the front door catch them in front of the neighbours garage and make be line for them there is two guys and say to them you guys need get the fuck outta here and turn to her and say you need to get the fuck in the house now. Turns out one of the guys is a friend at the neighbours and the kid was the one who picked her up hitch hiking. The kid shit his pants pretty quick and got the fuck outta there pretty quick. Good other guy and I argue a bit . And that's all I can type for now getting pretty fucking angry anger oh yeah Saturday was six month antiversary fuck sakes


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stillkicking-
If you don't mind me asking, does your wife have a drinking problem?


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JJ
You are absolutely right and that meme was spot on. That is like kryptonite. Thanks for posting that. Pussy whipped is probably the best diagnosis for what ails me.

SK
That is fucked up bro. These WW's do shit without having any boundaries at all. You showed great restraint in dealing with this. The WW mind fuck is powerful. It flies in the face of everything we believe in. No rhyme or reason it just short circuits all logic. Hang in there bro.


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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She has a problem stopping when she does drink. Lately she has been drinking to get drunk.

Like what the fuck was she thinking??? I am fucking dumbfounded! What would have happened if she had a key?? I would have came home to her fucking this guy I am sure. An the rage that I was in... I would be sitting jail right now. Pretty lucky.

So she starts whining to me as I am giving her shit and she looks and says " why is it my fault everything is always my fault why don't you look at yourself?" Um well
It is kinda ALL your fault you crossed a couple pretty big boundaries.
" we'll I didn't see anything so what's the problem?"
The problem is you should have never been in that fucking bathroom in the first place.

I just don't know anymore. Slept on it, and I still just as pissed off as last night. Time to fucking detach.

Done.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stillkicking))) just DAMN!
That is BEYOND normal.
Sounds like she's having a psychotic dissociative split &/or a type of histrionic event, exhibitionism by proxy...

IDK, but whatever it is, it is way over the top on any kind of normal scale. Even without infidelity, I'd strongly urge you to protect yourself.
Can she be put under observation?
Time for professional help brother.

Opal's, our old stomping grounds, closed - so we're scouting new venues. Interesting bangers & mash-type place. With Live Oak's Big Bark,


CHEERS TO US!
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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what to do guys, I am beyond fucking choked, I might be done, and don't know if I even want to fucking try anymore.

No one would blame you if you didn't want to try anymore SK. But if you still want to - time to implement the hard 180. Your WW needs a reality check.


If you don't mind me asking, does your wife have a drinking problem?

FP asks a good question. If your WW is acting out like this stone-cold sober, we have some serious behavior issues. If she's acting out like this only when she's smashed, that's something you can work with.

The whole bathroom scenario seems kind of bizarre to me. I have a hard enough time trying to piss in a public restroom if it feels like a man is in my personal space, can't imagine performing that function with someone else's wife actually staring at my dick when I'm trying to piss. What was she doing in there, and why weren't these guys telling her to get her ass out of there? Strange.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys, I know what I have to do and how to get there, and this was just the final push to gets there.

She doesn't act like this sober, so there is something to work with there, but she has got to have the desire to change before I am going to put anymore effort into this.

Today I feel different than I did on dday, I am filled with anger, just anger. There is not sadness this time there is no empathy this time. Is it that I am subconsciously already detached? I am angry that I have to go through this, at her stupid actions, and the fact that she has no regard for her own self worth, and doesn't value a fucking single ounce of this marriage and our children. No ability to think about how her actions have consequences for not just her but for her two daughters and me. I mean come on. Is it that hard to just USE YOUR FUCKING BRAIN??????
Not sure why I even care though.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stillkicking-
Are you guys in MC? What do they have to say about the drinking?
My wife is similar, in that she is the most level-headed person ever when she's sober, but when she's drunk she runs off of pure emotion. Logic goes out the window. She also cannot have just one drink. She doesn't drink everyday, but when she does it's usually 2 or 3 (at least). It's been an issue of contention between us nearly the entire marriage.

[This message edited by FacePunched at 11:10 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stillkicking,
jeebus man! that is some odd behavior.
Is she medicated?


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is no mc face, I have been trying for months just to get her into ic, a lot of foo issues with her, and there is no point in mc until she gets her shit figured out.
She is on anti depressants so she shouldn't be drinking in the first place, an she always drinks in moderation... Only one bottle of wine at a time and only couple of beer...
Just can't wrap my head around how this is justifiable behaviour at all, never mind being fucking married with children. I am still just as fucking amped up right now as I was last night.

[This message edited by Stillkicking at 11:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife is the same frickin way
Instant crazy just add alcohol
I call her Dr Jekyll and mrs Hyde
When she told me she got drunk and ended up in OM's bed with no recollection it is totally plausible, I've seen her forget many times.
However that being said and as she explained she should never have put herself in that situation to begin with.

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 11:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

did her behavior get weirder AFTER the antidepressants?


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It got better sober, and a shit ton worse when she drinks.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thinking your WW is not normal, dude.
I mean, that was, or seemed to be a COMPLETE lack of forethought, as well as a lack of any concept of consequence ( kinda the same thing).
either she was being a total bitch, and was trying to push you over the edge.... or something is not right with her head.

why is she on AD's, is there a history of depression?

[This message edited by stilllovingher at 11:57 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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