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User Topic: LinkedIn
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate LinkedIn. I am required to have a profile on that site for work. Given the line of work I am in, it is important (I'm told by my boss) to have a presence, since more and more professional people in my work are using it for networking.

Here's the problem... I'm years past my EA. I haven't had to run in to OM (who was someone from work) since 2007, as he moved far away and works for another company. He means nothing to me and was completely off my radar until he started stalking me on LinkedIn. I can see that he views my profile every other week, though we are not "linked."

I don't want him looking at me. He was long ago blocked on FB. But I don't think you can block people on LinkedIn.

I talked to my boss about valuing my privacy and not wanting the LinkedIn profile, but was told it really is important to have a presence. I told my husband about the stalking, and he doesn't seem concerned. It bothers ME, though.

I have done so much work to improve me, and I feel healthy, strong and secure in my relationship. I want OM completely out of my life, but there is no way in hell I am going to break NC to ask him to stop looking at my profile. I won't give him the satisfaction of knowing he bothers me, or that I even know he exists. Yet, he does. And it DOES irritate me.

I guess I just have to deal with it. Any advice is welcomed, or just consider this a vent.


Posts: 999 | Registered: Jul 2006
Blobette
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just do "remove connections". Find his profile and remove him. I got rid of OW's connection for WH...


BS (me): 49
WS: 50
Married: 25 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1051 | Registered: Aug 2012
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blobette,

Thanks. I am not quite sure what that means or how it works (I don't understand LinkedIn that well as I am *there* but rarely use it). If we are not connected (I am assuming that means that I have accepted his linked request, which I never received and never would have accepted if I had received it), how do I remove connections?

Frankly, I don't even want to go look for him, as I don't want him to think I am looking HIM up.


Posts: 999 | Registered: Jul 2006
AnneOther
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you're right Stroppy, he will still be able to view your profile. Removing him as connection is not applicable here as he isn't a connection. He is just a Linkedin member viewing your profile. Even if he wasn't a linkedin member he could still view yoour public profile. So bear that in mind. If he just didn't log into Linkedin he could still view your profile as an anonymous/non registered user.

Sucks, huh!

I too hate these kind of netwroking sites as nothing is truly private anymore.


Posts: 72 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: U.K.
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he isn't listed in your connections, then he isn't one. You are able to view other peoples profiles even if you aren't connected.

You can fix it in your settings to block him. I'm pretty sure that it is possible, whether you rachet down your own privacy settings or put him on some sort of a blocked list.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6092 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's what I am looking for, Baxter - a way to make a blocked list. I can't seem to find how to do that.

If I rachet down my profile too much (make myself not searchable), it's completely pointless to have the profile, which my boss wants me to have. Others who I wanted to find me might not be able to do so.

I fail to see the value of this app/site/network and might just decide to buck the boss and his insistance on us having profiles. Not worth the headache.


Posts: 999 | Registered: Jul 2006
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, I think I found it.

Log in then put the mouse over your name in the upper right hand part of the screen. A menu will drop down, so click on settings, then go down toward the bottom left to the profile tab then look into the privacy settings. One of those tabs is called "change your profile photo and visibility."

There are other settings in there which may allow you to further hide from this guy. If it comes down to it, you can report him to Liknedin and probably get him completely blocked from your page or from the site...


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6092 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

By the way - my profile is completely uninteresting if you ask me... simply a truncated resume with my work contact information. Nothing personal at all.

Posts: 999 | Registered: Jul 2006
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I looked more - I can hide my photo (which I have done). I can make my profile "not public" (which defeats the purpose of being there). But LinkedIn does not offer the option to Block individual users. In fact, here's what they say on their site:

We don't have a setting that allows you to block another member from viewing your profile. However, you can do the following:


•Hide the public version of your profile that's visible to people who aren't signed in to LinkedIn.
•Hide your profile photo.
•Change your profile display name.
•Adjust your settings for who can send you invitations.

So it is looking more and more like I will just disable this profile, boss be damned. I am not willing to invite drama, chaos - or even just the unwanted - into my life again.


Posts: 999 | Registered: Jul 2006
cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can't block someone on LinkedIn. :( I even tried upgrading my account and still no go. MOW liked to view my profile and I wish she couldn't.


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1725 | Registered: Nov 2010
She-Ra
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey stroppy,

Sorry about his stalking on LinkedIn.. My only suggestion would be to stop logging into your account unless you have activity to take care of. Just wait for an e-mail notification to come in about a new connection or message.

I do find the whole "Who viewed me" section on LI to be creepy. I don't like it when people view me unless it's a coworker looking to connect or a sales rep recruiting company. Other than that, I wish people would just stop the creepy aspect on LI or give the ability to block the creepers.

Hopefully the OM just gets bored of your profile one day and moves on.


FWW 33 BH 34
Met 9 yrs ago, together for 7, married for 3
Dday Aug 10, 2012
Beautiful daughter born June 2013

Showing signs of true R. I'm hopeful

The WW formerly known as messedupchick


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