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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As many have said being a madhatter is horrible on every level but I find that everyone is right on another point as well I get more done when I focus on what I need to fix in me due to my wayward behavior then concentrating on my status as a BS. Now don't get me wrong I do concentrate on both depending on the day, hour, minute, second and I do get work on me done as a BS as well. I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me...hmm did that make sense I'm just to tired to proofread. ..

As a WS though I figured out my unhealthy coping mechanisms, I have boundaries that are getting stronger, I no longer stuff my feelings, I am concentrating on making my life prosperous with or without anyone by my side. I am working on every aspect of me and sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on my back about to crush me and sometimes I can laugh and smile but hey I think I'm making progress.

Not really sure where this was going just felt like sharing.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 2:20 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me

Yes, that totally makes sense!

It sounds like those boundaries as a BS - not letting him hurt you anymore - tie in to the boundaries you're learning wearing your WS hat. All of those boundaries are to protect you and to help you live a healthy, authentic life. It's a wonderful thing. WS, BS, we're the same person.

Glad to read what you wrote.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:18 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yessss!!!! I totally get it .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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