I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me
Yes, that totally makes sense!
It sounds like those boundaries as a BS - not letting him hurt you anymore - tie in to the boundaries you're learning wearing your WS hat. All of those boundaries are to protect you and to help you live a healthy, authentic life. It's a wonderful thing. WS, BS, we're the same person.
Glad to read what you wrote.