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User Topic: Allmessedup
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No the poly is for her peace of mind my M is over according to her. No make or break I broke it already

BW bzkat
In the hell I created

Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: NY
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK. Sorry to hear that but I can't say I'm surprised.

I'm just not sure whether it will actually help either of you move on. How do YOU feel about it.

Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

im ready to take it and it doesnt suprise me either after all the tourture I put her through nut when she sees im telling the truth maybe she can heal

BW bzkat
In the hell I created

Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: NY
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously stop giving her timelines. Maybe people here will disagree with me but you're putting her through hell and she does not deserve it. If you've lied to her as many times as you've taken back your story on these forums then its not a surprise that she doesn't want the M she's given you so many chances. WORK ON YOU!!! Leave her alone. Focus on your job, your life, being a good father and an authentic person. Focus on you and only you and leave her alone all you can do is continue the pain until you figure yourself out and start making changes. Stop with the pitying, the self flagellation, the woe is me and do some freaking work on yourself man.

Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.

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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^what Unagie said here. What's the point of exposing her to any more pain!?!? You NEED to do some serious work! This lying has got to stop! Right now, broken AMU is not healthy. You need to get healthy for you. To stop lying to yourself and really dig into the reason for all the lying.

Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. "You were sick, but now you're well again, and there's work to do."
Kurt Vonnegut

Posts: 506 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does the number 26 reflect actual completed transactions? Are there dozens more which were attempts not completed?

"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Boris Becker

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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, March 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just let her and kids go!!! Stop torturing them like this.

What confuses me the most is WHY do you post here?? Seriously why?? What are the kind of responses you are looking for? It doesn’t even matter the number of PAs / EAs you have had. Even if you declare tomorrow that you had none and you just made everything up.. still the torture that you are putting her through right now is enough to drive anybody crazy.

Doesn’t matter what you have done in the past. What are you doing now? Why are you dragging your kids in this mess?? Why wont you leave ur wife alone at least till the time she gets her sanity back?

WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, March 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreed with unagie.. Stop giving her timelines already.

Everytime I see your username come up in the wayward section with a thread... It's "I'm so selfish, I finally gave my BW a solid timeline, and one day I'll take this poly". I hope you just stop e-mailing your timeline of whether it's 31, 15, 26 or 19 affairs.

The best thing you can do for your BW at this point is to make the divorce proceedings go smoothly, be a good dad to your kids and focus on becoming a healthy person.

WW 33 BH 34
Met 9 yrs ago, together for 7, married for 4
Dday Aug 10, 2012
1 yr old DD

The WW formerly known as messedupchick

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