I used to call them by the titles they earned, so it wasn't an insult, it was appropriate well-earned titles.
One was Whore
Another was Homewrecker (whom I also referred to as Puppetmaster b/c he was her puppet)
Another was Ho-worker, who also came to earn the title Whore, so I had to say Ho-worker Whore
Another was the Slut
Still another was The User
One was Slutty Disease
They all had aka trash!
ETA: He once told me not to refer to her as whore. I said, "I'm not talking about her. I wouldn't call her a whore because she is not a whore. She gives it away free. That's why I call her Slut." I explained that these were earned titles, not names. It bothered him a hell of a lot more after that because he realized how accurate the titles were.
[This message edited by stillhere09 at 10:57 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
I used to call her his girlfriend, but like many others, it made him really mad and he would say she was never that... I always countered with "Well, you went out on dates with her, texted and emailed, and had sex.... isn't that a girlfriend??"
I also called her "your whore" , "Your slut", "that stupid whore" etc.
Now I don't talk about her at all. It's been a long time, and we don't talk about the A, much less that whore he was involved with.
Close friends, they get whatever nickname they know - and if I just say 'the wife', my biffles are quick to correct to their shitty nickname of choice.
XH threw her name into the ring a ton, like "Me and OW name are blah-blah" but I never refer to her by name to him. I've said - her or your 'friend', maybe even once 'your wife' but that's it.
Yes, even this long out, it's mostly me being stubborn. But, IMO, if you mature enough to be in my life the way you are - you should've come to me ages ago and said something. Because OW and I have never exchanged a word, she is nothing to me and I am nothing to her.
I've been the bigger person for so much in the last 5 yrs, but I will NOT step up and be like, "Gee whiz, Sally, it's been so long - let's just be cool now".
I'm NEVER rude, I just don't acknowledge and neither does she.
ETA: I remember, I always tell this story, when XH was still living here and I'd finally seen her photo. We were fighting and I was all ignorant and said something like, "Just leave, just go fuck your Granny-Tranny WHORE".
In this small voice he tell me, "She's not a whore". I took that as but she IS a Granny Tranny. No offense....
[This message edited by wannabenormal at 12:22 AM, June 20th (Thursday)]
On the SI threads, she is "Fatty B", for Fat Bi... He calls her "her" and I've heard his relatives say he does that there, too, if it comes up. I found I've also referred to the person as "It" lately and am not sure why.
Yes, the w word comes up in my family-I've always taken offense to it and don't like hearing it, myself, but I understand where it stems from.
Perv himself has many names now and a favorite of mine is "Happy Pants". One reason is because of how angry he got when he heard it. He said, "do you know what this denotes? and I said, why yes, I do!"
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
[This message edited by anonymous823 at 7:05 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]
The sad part is, he has never corrected me...
....aka.. "the rotting corpse"..
Nice moniker, don't cha think?
Met when we were 17 and 15. Together since 1983, married since 1985. Two kids, B21, G15.
Life has a way of making us get our panties in a wad.....I refuse to wear panties ever again.
And even though we are separated and divorcing, I still don't call her names. She's a filthy c***, but I'm not gonna tip him off. He'll figure it out soon enough..