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User Topic: How do you refer to AP?
stillhere09
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, it's been a while, as STBXWH and I are now S, waiting for D, but . . .

I used to call them by the titles they earned, so it wasn't an insult, it was appropriate well-earned titles.

One was Whore
Another was Homewrecker (whom I also referred to as Puppetmaster b/c he was her puppet)
Another was Ho-worker, who also came to earn the title Whore, so I had to say Ho-worker Whore
Another was the Slut
Still another was The User
One was Slutty Disease
They all had aka trash!

ETA: He once told me not to refer to her as whore. I said, "I'm not talking about her. I wouldn't call her a whore because she is not a whore. She gives it away free. That's why I call her Slut." I explained that these were earned titles, not names. It bothered him a hell of a lot more after that because he realized how accurate the titles were.

[This message edited by stillhere09 at 10:57 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
hurt314
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know I'm coming into this late -

I used to call her his girlfriend, but like many others, it made him really mad and he would say she was never that... I always countered with "Well, you went out on dates with her, texted and emailed, and had sex.... isn't that a girlfriend??"

I also called her "your whore" , "Your slut", "that stupid whore" etc.

Now I don't talk about her at all. It's been a long time, and we don't talk about the A, much less that whore he was involved with.


Me-W-34
Him 36.
3 little girls.
He ruined our lives. Currently married and trying to make the best life for my children. There is no hope for us but I have hope for them.

Posts: 713 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Not Portland, Oregon... But close
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Come to the point now when talking to others that she's just 'the wife'.

Close friends, they get whatever nickname they know - and if I just say 'the wife', my biffles are quick to correct to their shitty nickname of choice.

XH threw her name into the ring a ton, like "Me and OW name are blah-blah" but I never refer to her by name to him. I've said - her or your 'friend', maybe even once 'your wife' but that's it.

Yes, even this long out, it's mostly me being stubborn. But, IMO, if you mature enough to be in my life the way you are - you should've come to me ages ago and said something. Because OW and I have never exchanged a word, she is nothing to me and I am nothing to her.

I've been the bigger person for so much in the last 5 yrs, but I will NOT step up and be like, "Gee whiz, Sally, it's been so long - let's just be cool now".

I'm NEVER rude, I just don't acknowledge and neither does she.

ETA: I remember, I always tell this story, when XH was still living here and I'd finally seen her photo. We were fighting and I was all ignorant and said something like, "Just leave, just go fuck your Granny-Tranny WHORE".

In this small voice he tell me, "She's not a whore". I took that as but she IS a Granny Tranny. No offense....

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 12:22 AM, June 20th (Thursday)]



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FightingBack
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Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Beast


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 720 | Registered: Feb 2012
VeilLifted
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now, mostly "it" or "that thing", "her" occasionally. When I am in a particularly bad mood its back to the old standby, ghettoskank. I don't really say your girlfriend or your whore any more.
We don't say her name. The only time H said it was when I made him say it to me on dday. Even after broken NC and me kicking him out, he still couldn't say her name. He told me, "yes, I'm still talking to that girl." He couldn't even say her name but he could screw her, gross.


Me - BW
Him - FWH
DDay 10-29-11 2 month EA 1 time PA
He had ended it 10-28-11
Broke NC 12-20-11
S 12-21-11 filed D 1-4-12
R started/H moved home 2-8-12
2 wonderul boys 17 & 14
Married 19 years

Posts: 226 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I call her by her name when or if I talk about her. For me, anything else, a nickname or "it", gives her too much power. In my head, I own her name and I'll use it however I choose, which is almost never.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cum dumpster
Dirty jizz rag
cum burping whore (my favourite one)
lazy eyed tranny
your mistress (that one made XH go ballistic)
OW's name, said mockingly in high, breathy voice just like it's
that fucking thing


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 730 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When in contact with him, I pretend she doesn't exist...he does this as well, as my condition is so bad stress-wise and even admitting such a person is out there causes massive triggers.

On the SI threads, she is "Fatty B", for Fat Bi... He calls her "her" and I've heard his relatives say he does that there, too, if it comes up. I found I've also referred to the person as "It" lately and am not sure why.

Yes, the w word comes up in my family-I've always taken offense to it and don't like hearing it, myself, but I understand where it stems from.

Perv himself has many names now and a favorite of mine is "Happy Pants". One reason is because of how angry he got when he heard it. He said, "do you know what this denotes? and I said, why yes, I do!"


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
lilflower1000
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I callher sperm receptacle or his girlfriend ( pisses him off)..somtimes use her name


lilflower1000
Me: 44 BS
Married 12 yrs
Dday:8/1/2012
True R: 12/2012
4kids(11, 8, 5, 4mos)+ 2 Step kids I love like my own

Posts: 297 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Georgia
anonymous823
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Usually whore or her. Gf angers him.

[This message edited by anonymous823 at 7:05 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]


Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2013
npain
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I call her "his whore". To be fair, I told him that they are both whores, he' a whore and she's a whore. She was supposedly a good friend and my my daughter's godmother and was screwing my husband since I was pregnant with her...

The sad part is, he has never corrected me...


S,beginning D

Posts: 508 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


.. "DEAD"....

....aka.. "the rotting corpse"..

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4101 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
LineInTheSand
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"She-man"


Nice moniker, don't cha think?


Posts: 491 | Registered: Jul 2008
scared&stronger
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I refer to her as "Penny"....not worth much and always in some man's pants.


WS 45
BS 43

Met when we were 17 and 15. Together since 1983, married since 1985. Two kids, B21, G15.

d-day 4-3-07

Life has a way of making us get our panties in a wad.....I refuse to wear panties ever again.


Posts: 3955 | Registered: Aug 2007
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I always called MOW by her name. I think that bothered my STBX more than calling her a dirty word. It was breaking the fantasy bubble. She was one of his co-workers, and I didn't know her at all; and by saying her name, now he had to face the fact that I knew her. She wasn't some cool secret anymore. Or a nameless word that could be anybody.

And even though we are separated and divorcing, I still don't call her names. She's a filthy c***, but I'm not gonna tip him off. He'll figure it out soon enough..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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