off the healing library:
After the Affair - Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D.; HarperCollins (paper); ISBN: 0060928174
Not "Just Friends" - Protect Your Relationship From Infidelity And Heal The Trauma Of Betrayal by Shirley P. Glass, PH.D with Jean Coppock Staeheli; ISBN: 074322549X
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful by Linda J. MacDonald; ISBN: 145055332X
Those are the ones that have been suggested to me and I've read two of them, read articles here constantly, post here and went to counseling. I'm also part of another site that has articles and forums. If you want more go to the healing library link in the little yellow box on the left hand side of the screen. There is a list of books and articles that he can read.FWGF/BGF-me, BBF/WBF-Him, MH's Together 10 yrs
Both had DDays and TT
Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.
Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.