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User Topic: Betrayed Men- Part 8
dadof4
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The opening scene could be like from the movie, Inglorious Basterds (2009). We would need someone to play LT Aldo Raines only instead of hunting Nazi's we could substitute POSOM's. The scene I'm thinking is when Raines is telling his select group of recruits what the mission is.
here is a quote for said movie.
I substituted Nazi with POSOM.

"And once we're in enemy territory, as a bushwhackin' guerrilla army, we're gonna be doin' one thing and one thing only... killin' POSOM. Now, I don't know about y'all, but I sure as hell didn't come down from the goddamn Smoky Mountains, cross five thousand miles of water, fight my way through half of Sicily and jump out of a fuckin' air-o-plane to teach the POSOM's lessons in humanity. POSOM's ain't got no humanity. They're the foot soldiers of a M-hatin', M-murderin' maniac and they need to be dee-stroyed. That's why any and every every son of a bitch we find wearin' a POSOM uniform, they're gonna die. Now, I'm the direct descendant of the mountain man Jim Bridger. That means I got a little Injun in me. And our battle plan will be that of an Apache resistance. We will be cruel to the POSOM, and through our cruelty they will know who we are. And they will find the evidence of our cruelty in the disemboweled, dismembered, and disfigured bodies of their brothers we leave behind us. And the POSOM won't not be able to help themselves but to imagine the cruelty their brothers endured at our hands, and our boot heels, and the edge of our knives. And the POSOM will be sickened by us, and the POSOM will talk about us, and the POSOM will fear us. And when the POSOM closes their eyes at night and they're tortured by their subconscious for the evil they have done, it will be with thoughts of us they are tortured with. Sound good? "

We should get Tarantino to direct it.

[This message edited by dadof4 at 9:56 AM, July 31st (Tuesday)]


Me 51(BH)
Her 46 (FWW)
Kids-23,21,16,14
Married 25 years.
D-Day Sept 12 2009
LTA=4 years

Reconciling.


Posts: 296 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: New Hampshire
dday3302011
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Ingloryhole Bastards"


BH-41 (me)
xWW-42
M 11yrs, together 14
DDay 3-30-2011
2 kids, 9 & 7
1 yr LTA w/MOM
Divorced 5-16-2013

Posts: 235 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Northeast
DontTreadOnMe
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good afternoon, fellow betrayed men. I am still alive and hope you all are as well

Had a crazy couple weeks, but things are smoothing out. How is everyone?


Me: WH/BH, 27 (addict in recovery)
Her: Lost333, BW/FWW, My DDay: 2/19/12, Hers: 9/29/12

Working on myself through IC, NA meetings, intensive outpatient program, and lots of digging. Praying for R.


Posts: 230 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
dday3302011
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn DTOM, how are you?!

Been worried about you. You OK?


BH-41 (me)
xWW-42
M 11yrs, together 14
DDay 3-30-2011
2 kids, 9 & 7
1 yr LTA w/MOM
Divorced 5-16-2013

Posts: 235 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Northeast
noescape
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

do4, amazing analogy. Loved the intro.

DTOM, been worried about you. How you holding up?


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numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good to see you DTOM. How have you been ?


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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wert
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DTOM - I hope things really are smoothing out and most importantly you are doing better.

take care...



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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dtom, we're writin us a screenplay! - in between fishin and brews, Good to see you man.

do4, I LIKE the idea of getting in their heads! We'll have to invent a prop for that - like we take out a full page ad in usa today, as an unidentified group ("The Marble Collectors"), recounting details only we could know, about the denouement of mpb's POS's...mpb's POSse comes first for some reason in my mind...

Big headline:
ARE YOU CHEATING?
then
watch out mofos!
(with an appropriate graphic of the perpwalk - and smaller print of what we know)

Do you know? I used "sorry you feel that way" LONG before discovering SI.

The only thing she could do was scream louder, make it worse...trying to train me of course, NOT to use it.
The only alternative I know to that kind of madness is complete detachment. Silence, actually. I bathe in silence now.

(as long as I got my date's head far enough underwater that is)



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dadof4
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, August 1st (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

do4, I LIKE the idea of getting in their heads! We'll have to invent a prop for that - like we take out a full page ad in usa today, as an unidentified group ("The Marble Collectors"), recounting details only we could know, about the denouement of mpb's POS's...mpb's POSse comes first for some reason in my mind...

Simply put a photo of this on the add...

http://sigsauer.com/CatalogProductDetails/sig556-classic.aspx


Me 51(BH)
Her 46 (FWW)
Kids-23,21,16,14
Married 25 years.
D-Day Sept 12 2009
LTA=4 years

Reconciling.


Posts: 296 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: New Hampshire
Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 2nd (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jjct,
Thanks for honoring me with the lead phrase in our upcoming ad campaign, but it would not be appropriate for me to take all the glory. There are plenty here and some that still remain silent in the shadows that have felt the wrath of their, leg-spreading whorelits, sp.
The pain deposited in their innocent bosoms and the, 'shit storm', endured during the mating season!
If anything, I would humbly request that I get the part of, 'first in'! Heavily armed, bowie in hand, uzi cocked and ready. Just point me in the correct direction and make sure they are all bunched up, (near sighted).
Let the auditions begin!
MPBs

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reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, August 2nd (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let me first say I am not a published author, except in medical journals, but I do have a manuscript in development that you gents might like. Or decide I need to be put in a padded cell...

The story is about a betrayed husband who divorces his wife and finds solace with an on-line group of other betrayed husbands. Lo and behold, some of them were ex-military and many of them still bitter about the betrayal. (Then the good part comes)

Then the "hero" contacts one of the BHs that is being currently betrayed and offers his "services." His skill is knowledge of how to make it impossible for law enforcement to indict for murder. He has access to large volumes of sodium hydroxide with knowledge of chemistry and biology to use the right amount to decompose a body without a trace of DNA. Skill with a knife. And an intimate knowledge of toxicology.

So, the "hero" offers to provide his services with respect to the OM. And promises the BH that it will be really, really slow and excruciatingly painful.

I describe, in quite some detail, how the first OM gets it. Then the "hero" develops an anonymous band of brothers to help him take out other OMs, each time giving the actual BH plenty of opportunity to establish a rock-solid alibi.

So far, besides my NaOH bath, I have a burning, a hunting "accident," three suicides, and two good old fashioned street muggings leaving the OM to bleed out internally. Those two (muggings) were my favorite scenes to write, as I got to describe how three of the BHs got to take their turn with the effort. (Oh, did I mention the hero has an intimate knowledge of human anatomy and physiology? :))

Yes, my fww has read it. Or parts of it. One section she almost turned white and had to stop. It is very detailed, almost a how-to manual. I knew my medical training would come in handy one day :)

Maybe one day you will see on Amazon :)

Very cathartic.

P.S. No guns so far, but my next act entails tricking an OM to the WW's house at night to play out a rape fantasy with WW. Well, the BH gets to kill him (no M-60 involved, just a Glock 17), claiming OM was a rapist. Praise the states with "Stand your ground" laws.


Infidelity sucks shit

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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just point me in the correct direction and make sure they are all bunched up, (near sighted).


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just point me in the correct direction and make sure they are all bunched up, (near sighted).

MPB, How is the court hassle going?


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

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noescape
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praise the states with "Stand your ground" laws.

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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello again guys. It's been a long while since I've posted in BM. I know, shame on me.

I'm experiencing something really scary lately and I really need some help and advice from a male POV. I'm not even sure if this is the right forum for this but I don't know where else to turn. OK, here goes:

I'm almost ashamed to admit this, but the deeper I go into myself in IC, the less romantic attraction I seem to feel towards WW?! I'm freaking out because I thought the further along both of us got in understanding ourselves, the easier it would be to not only R, but fall back into romantic love. IC has been awesome and taught me to be less codependent and unafraid of whatever happens as we move through this shitty mess.

I know I still love WW, but it's a different kind of love now. She's working very hard, and I not only see remorse, but that she is also a better person in so many different ways. I also really enjoy spending time with her now.

Trouble is, what I'm feeling for her now isn't what I would describe to myself as romantic love. In fact, it's anything but! While I appreciate the hard work she has put in, and respect the changes she's made in herself, I don't feel that spark I used to feel for her. I really miss that spark, and I worry that it may be gone forever, and our M along with it as I know I could never survive in a relationship without it. Anything less for me feels like I'm just spinning my wheels and wasting time.

So my question is: Why the hell am I all of a sudden feeling like this now!? Any of you guys ever felt this way and come out of it?

Any and ALL advice/help would be greatly appreciated.

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 5:48 PM, August 3rd (Friday)]


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe we can do this guys. With 7's manuscript - how cool is that?
The idea that tickles me best is less '300' blood and gore
Not that the LET'S GO THERE! is not completely understandable, but we're more clever than that. (7's idea)... revenge is always at the hands of the unexpected plot-twist that we engineered.
Satisfying, detached.

Seeing POS perp-walked for the inevitable meeting with bubba at the greybar hotel.

Our 'endings' are with clean hands. Perfect. For all their coldness, still, our hearts are warmed.

Our movie begins with a montage of 12(?) D-day reactions. Betrayed men, finding out via cell phone, computer screen, walking in on, being told...

It ends with sunny toes and babes and knowing laughs.
The rest is fill-in. The best fill in creamy center anyone's ever tasted.

My mediation went well I think - unless one of us renigs on the agreement, I might be Divorced soon.
I did not see her, was in a separate room. Thank you Jesus!


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PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ooops! Sorry if I intruded with my other post. I didn't realize you guys were into a movie script thing here.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 868 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
noescape
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good news jj!! D'd soon sounds like you'll be home free soon.
I like the subtle approach on the script too. We can leave a calling card or some other subtle clue (like a warning to OM's/WW's)

PA53... why do you NEED that spark? what you're describing sounds more like developing mature love. If you have a good foundation of respect/honour anything else on top is a bonus IMHO.

Sparks (as I see them) are overrated and seem more like the surface-y things we're attracted to.

btw... if thats still what YOU really want.. HNHN & 5 love languages might be of help.


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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

add 1 to the arsenal mossberg 835 12 gauge slugster treated myself


Piece of mind is slowly becoming a 4" grouping at 600 yards

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VD2012
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, August 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello other fine BM's, hope I'm not intruding on the script workshop going on. Just wanted to get something off my chest and looking for... something I guess.

I know I'm on the younger scale of most folks here, and particularly the shorter term relationship wise, so perhaps what I'm saying may be unrelatable in some ways. But I'll get right to the point: my wife and I are each other's firsts in every way and until her affair onlys.

I was always too busy and immersed in other things along with my own FOO issues during elementary and most of secondary school to ever bother with the idea of getting a girlfriend. Had many chicks interested and even a few throw themselves at me, but never bothered. Figured it would come once I got away from my family and got to college. But once I met my WW I was smitten with her and, well, I wanted to be with her.

For her part she never found "the right guy" until she met me. She says what separates me from the other guys she always turned down was that I cared about and wanted to know her as a person and not a sexual object/conquest.

So we're high school sweethearts going through life as an inseparable tag team of awesome that nothing can break. We make each other feel special and have something that can't be taken away and is very precious...

And she cheats on me with a guy who's 20 years older than her. He pretty much uses her for sex and treats her like a sexual object under the guise of being a "friend". She's got issues out the ass (especially of the "daddy" variety) and is admittedly "damaged goods" from her FOO standpoint (didn't know that initially, and didn't want to back out once I knew since I'd already fallen in love). Our story's long and already posted elsewhere, but there was manipulation, a bit of coercion and he was quite predatory at a time when she was mentally vulnerable and emotionally dead inside.

But still... This mid 40s piece of shit who knew how screwed up my wife was and had no problem manipulating her... Has had the privilege of not only having sex with her but also has had her go down on him.

And I can't reconcile this in my head.

I already admitted to myself months ago that perhaps I was viewing it as a "that's mine", being somewhat possessive of her and even regarding her as an object. But that's not really it. I miss the "we're awesome" feel of being each other's first and onlys, and this has ruined that. And now for the first time in our entire relationship I've actually thought about other women and even what it would be like to have sex with someone else.

I was looking at a survey on another board and it asked how many sexual partners you've had. I always prided myself on us being each other's onlys. But I sit at 1 and she's at 2. And nothing will change that, but fuck if it doesn't bother me.

The kicker is, even though it was almost purely a short term PA with no real emotion involved at all, she says he meant nothing. Like, what the hell? You've only ever been with me and have said that's because I'm special and your only mine... But yet this dipwad who treated you poorly and isn't special got to have you too? The second person on this entire planet to experience you, and he doesn't matter? I believe her on that, but she doesn't realize just how demoralizing and devastating that is.

I was supposed to be special. And now what we had that was special is no more. Yet the other guy wasn't... What's that make me?

Bah, I'm rambling. I hope you gents understand what I'm babbling about.


Me: 28 ~ Her (FR2012): 27
Together: 9 years, 2 children
D-Day: April 19, 2012

Surrender to the truth of life.


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