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User Topic: 20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O
still confounded
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, April 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good advice, good perspective, especially for newcomers to SI who are dazed and confused and clinging to a leaking PFD.


"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

Posts: 1303 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: up the river, NY
still confounded
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping (again)


"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

Posts: 1303 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: up the river, NY
katherine41
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Default  Posted: 3:56 AM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Swinging by and bumping.

Posts: 8205 | Registered: Nov 2004
still confounded
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

Posts: 1303 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: up the river, NY
katherine41
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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto to every point. It is so hard to realize this when you are in the midst of everything but these points are so valid.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
katherine41
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump. It's still true.

Posts: 8205 | Registered: Nov 2004
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for newbies



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

Posts: 1242 | Registered: Apr 2009
myperfectlife
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wish I would have had this in April...


I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
RoadtoPeace
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Default  Posted: 5:09 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump!!


me - BS
him - WH
Married 5 1/2 years
Dday#1 - 10/2009
Dday#2 - 3/2013
Status - He wants R, I am not sure I can get on that ride again

Posts: 41 | Registered: Apr 2013
Phoenix9
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Just wow. Being almost a year from DDay #2, I soooo wish I would have had access to this 6 years ago.

BUT! There's no time like the present, right?


Me (BS): 36 Him (WH): 35
Married 12 years (Each other's 1st)
Children: 9, 8, 6, 3 and 1 month
DDay#1: March 2008 EA turned PA (kissing, holding hands)
DDay#2: August 2012 (ONS with kissing on lips and certain body parts)
Hoping for true R.

Posts: 15 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Phoenix9
HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for livebythesea


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump....



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

Posts: 1242 | Registered: Apr 2009
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 3:42 AM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

Posts: 1242 | Registered: Apr 2009
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping to page one again



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

Posts: 1242 | Registered: Apr 2009
Joyless29
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this wisdom. My WH says he is remorseful, but his actions say differently. He is tying to make me feel sorry for him and at some point it was working. I needed to hear this. I need to keep the course. Thank you.


When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.


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still confounded
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for newcomers ...


"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

Posts: 1303 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: up the river, NY
katherine41
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It still holds true for me.

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RRosemary
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great to read, thank you. I'm going through that 'but if I make him mad, he'll leave me' stuff, even though I'm considering leaving HIM - old habits die hard.

Posts: 4 | Registered: Sep 2013
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

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