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User Topic: N P D Thread part 10
jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, June 23rd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


With you sis!

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SoHurt
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, June 23rd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You faced down the storm because it didn't realize you had your thunderwear on
.




It's SUCH a good thing I finished swallowing my water before I read that!

JJ, YOU ROCK! Thank you for that most appreciated laughter today!

And 2_4, I'M THRILLED TO SEE YOU BACK!!! Not just because I was worried, or that it turned out so well for you, but because it's nice to have the (((((Tribe)))))WHOLE!

And Sadtoo, thanks.


"My feet are finally beginning to heal after 25 years of walking on eggshells."
"I walk barefoot all the time, now!"
~Me, SoHurt, in HIS NPD TAIL HURTS CUZ I KICKED IT~

DIVORCED!! =D


Posts: 463 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: I am "Somewhere else." Next destination?
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 1:15 AM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bottomline is: I get the house, he has to pay all bills. Pay SS. No Contact. Get financials in order. No hiding monies.

This is so GREAT to hear! These Jack-ass NPD's threat, scream and yell about how they're not going to do this and not going to do that. Then the judge steps in and guess what? Oh YES you are!!

The Sheriff's dept was made aware of possible violence.

That's great. Get some of those disposable cameras and put them in your window sills and by your doors. Put one in your car too. That way you will always have a camera handy if you look out the window and see the idiot sitting outside, driving by or otherwise violating your PO. Believe me, it's not easy to prove a violation. Especially when you're dealing with something as slippery and slimy as an NPD.

What I learned on SI was to let the N talk. I did And it worked


this just cracks me up every time!! Because it DOES work every single time. And they will talk. They WANT to talk. They talk, and talk and talk. They talk in circles, they talk backwards and forwards, they repeat themselves, they contradict themselves, but they keep right on talking. And in their twisted, sick mind, they really think they sound SMART!

One would think their lawyers (if they had one) or someone would tell them to shut TF up! Not that they would listen


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 7926 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
veritas
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad to see that everybody is doing well! I feel like such a proud ICR NPDex Mama!

I got by with a lot of help from my friends here. Yes we're pushy, but it's because when someone has been emotionally abused like we have, we know that "I can't" very often means "I am afraid to." And if nudging you out of your comfort zone gets you moving you and your family back to sanity, I'll take that, too.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like such a proud ICR NPDex Mama!

Me too!


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 7926 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy that we've had 2 excellent court outcomes.

2_4, what a relief that you are ok. I love to read the stories of the npds getting put in their places by the judge.

Please be extra careful in regards to your personal safety now. The npds don't like losing control or being told how things are going to be. Also rules don't apply ro them anyway, right? Listen to our tales of personal experience. Don't give then an inch or they well take a mile. Report any violations of POs.

Also, if you haven't done it yet, change the locks on the doors. there are many stories on SI of these assclowns entering the home while you're away and helping themselves to ” their stuff”.

Be safe everyone! (((Tribe)))


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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SoHurt
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes we're pushy, but it's because when someone has been emotionally abused like we have, we know that "I can't" very often means "I am afraid to."

I learned that one slowly... but it did sink in. Pushy is good and necessary, when it comes to this situation. And believe me, I mean it in the best possible way. I needed those pushes, because "I can't" did often mean "I am afraid to." Nailed it!

And I am grateful for that pushing. It did get me moving, when nothing else would have.

ETA: Safety has become my middle name, so I am prepared for most contingencies.

[This message edited by SoHurt at 2:38 PM, June 24th (Sunday)]


"My feet are finally beginning to heal after 25 years of walking on eggshells."
"I walk barefoot all the time, now!"
~Me, SoHurt, in HIS NPD TAIL HURTS CUZ I KICKED IT~

DIVORCED!! =D


Posts: 463 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: I am "Somewhere else." Next destination?
Edie
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, June 24th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great page this one is! So happy to hear everyone's news.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

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wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, June 26th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haven't been here in a while, but this just had to be said.

Had to get out one of his many caulk tubes today to finish a job he never did. Funny, I will never look at caulk the same again. Mine had plenty of caulk tubes, but never completed any of the jobs they were purchased for.

And another thing, just when I thought he couldn't get any more stupid, he proved me wrong again.

[This message edited by wontdefineme at 5:45 AM, June 27th (Wednesday)]


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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, June 27th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe we need to petition to have the caulk gun thing as part of the official diagnostic criteria for NPD.

I had a yard sale this weekend and sold quite a few of the Assclown's tools. I rounded up 7 brand new rolls of electrical tape in the garage. Why would he have so much of that??

I also sold wrenches that were so big I could hardly lift them. I have no idea what we ever had them for, but they're gone now. $10 a pop.

I don't know what is with these guys and unfinished jobs either. I have a list of them that still need to be completed here too. I don't think I mentioned on here though, that the '57 Chevy station wagon that he bought as a project car about 10 years ago - and then left to rust in the yard - was finally towed out of my yard a few weeks ago! A hulking reminder of his assclownery is gone from my sight!


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7625 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, June 27th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's all part of their "costume party" life.

I'll never forget the time we had a little tree in the back yard that needed to come down. Here he comes with the red and black checked flannel shirt, the pants, the boots, the axe, the chain saw and the whole Paul Bunion get up for this one little tree.

Like that was going to make him into a tree trimmer and tree remover. NOT!

Believe it or not, he completely screwed up the job, ruined the chain saw and I had to hire a company to come fix the mess. Where did all of the new tools end up? In the same pile as the caulk guns and the rest of the crap he's used with his other "costumes". FREAK!!


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 7926 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
wifeno2
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, June 27th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my God! I hadn't realized other NPD's have to dress in the appropriate costume! My WH has to have all the right equipment for whatever sport he is trying out or whatever activity he is doing. Even though he usually tries something for a while and then gets bored with it and moves on.

And he seems to switch his style and persona occasionally depending on who is influencing him the most. During his A he dressed like a biker, bought a dirt bike (and all the equipment) and started shopping for road bikes. When I met him he was into tennis and acted like John McEnroe. Now he is into golf and buying all these gold clothes...


Me-BW (45)
Him-WS (42)
DS 19 (prior relationship)
DS-8
DDay #1- 10/22/2010 EA/PA with MOW coworker
Dday#2:11/17/2010 beginning secret emails with potential OW#2
DDay #3 11/22/2010 still seeing OW#1
Too many DD's to count: Now up to OW #6.

Posts: 696 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: the south
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, June 27th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I met him he was into tennis and acted like John McEnroe

I'm sure you didn't mean this, but I'm picturing John McInroe throwing his famous fits, yelling and screaming, launching his rackets through the net and at anyone on the way. Can you say NPD??

Anyway, I have found that they MUST dress the part. It's like role playing for them.

Mine had several "costumes".

I raise and breed horses. And when I go out to the barn, I mostly put on what's appropriate for the weather. I always wear boots, but if it's summer time, I wear short boots so they're not so hot.

Not him. He had to put on the whole get up. The hat, the chaps, all of it. It was embarassing. And MANY times I would catch him (if he was talking to a woman) he would be speaking with a Texas accent.

OMG!!


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 7926 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
jjct
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Default  Posted: 3:31 AM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ayup.
Makes perfect sense.
Since there's no there there,
whatya get is 'persona de jour'.
A gacky soup mask they adopt and try on for effect.
I wonder...
if I kicked him in the nads with my asskicking Celtic boots,
all hard and pointy and steeped in horseshit,
would he scream with an accent?
I think not.
Aside from the fact that it's hard to scream when your balls are blocking your vocal chords, still, I think not.


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veritas
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took the Psychopath Test, and guess who is a Healthy Lunatic A little delusional, but basically harmless.

I took it for the ex: Psychopath, do not pass go, do not bother taking meds, and going to therapy will probably make you even more adept at manipulating people

http://helloquizzy.okcupid.com/tests/the-are-you-a-psychopath-test2


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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wifeno2
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actually I did mean it that way! I was told stories about his tantrums on the tennis court. Thank god that's the only place he had them.

Sadtoo we have horses too. He isn't that interested in riding but will sometimes. No chaps but definitely jeans and boots. I will sometimes ride in running shorts. But then again I'm not a serious, or even good rider.

Maybe I should try to embrace the whole "persona du jour" thing. Maybe it could be like getting a new man every now and then.

I wonder if they would prefer it if we switched up occasionally too? Or would that be a problem for them? Hmmm


Me-BW (45)
Him-WS (42)
DS 19 (prior relationship)
DS-8
DDay #1- 10/22/2010 EA/PA with MOW coworker
Dday#2:11/17/2010 beginning secret emails with potential OW#2
DDay #3 11/22/2010 still seeing OW#1
Too many DD's to count: Now up to OW #6.

Posts: 696 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: the south
veritas
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm... I like to dress up, and people who see me in my everyday clothes are usually shocked as heck to see me dressed up for an event.

But costumes to muck out a stall? Or just go riding?

Whenever the ex would get into something, anything, I could definitely count on Big Bucks being spent. Our first purchase together was a vacuum cleaner.

That doubled as an air filter, if you didn't mind listening to a very high-pitched vacuum cleaner noise while it ran.

$1750. I was horrified. I could have gotten a Dyson and a rug steamer for less than that.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

v,

You got a Kirby?? Can't they also be used to turn your tub into a jacuzzi? And can't you reverse the motor and use it as a leaf blower??

I had someone try to sell me one of those things and I had to laugh. I said, "I am NOT spending that kind of money on a vacuum when I HATE CARPET!! I'd just put the funds toward hard floors!".


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veritas
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what the hell it was, but it fell apart before it was paid up! We called about the lifetime warranty, and the company had gone out of business! We were living in an APARTMENT, but a Dust Devil wasn't good enough


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, June 28th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You got a Kirby?? Can't they also be used to turn your tub into a jacuzzi? And can't you reverse the motor and use it as a leaf blower??


OMG!! THAT is so FUNNY. But so NPD typical. Does he NEED anything like that? No, but what the hell! Let's blow $1750 that we don't need just because.

My idiot XNPDH went out to buy new tires for his pick-up. And he came home with a BRAND-NEW truck!! Was the other truck paid off? No. And did he buy anything reasonable? No. He bought a huge 4-door duel-wheeled 4-wheel drive truck. And rolled over the balance of his other perfectly fine pick-up into this monster truck. Did he need this truck for around the farm? No. We had a farm truck that belonged to my dad that we used for pulling the trailer, etc. And you don't want to drive those things often because they are gas HOGS and they are so big and bulky to take anywhere.

But oh he HAD TO HAVE IT. And what did he do for a living? He was a traveling salesman. So he was out driving around in this thing every day. How completely STUPID was that?

Oh, and I almost forgot. The first thing he did was throw a bale of hay and a role of fencing wire in the back to carry around. For looks?

OMG. I can't believe I was married to that freak. I am so glad he is gone.

[This message edited by sadtoo at 4:27 PM, June 28th (Thursday)]


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


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