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User Topic: Betrayed Spouse S.T. D. Support
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nomoredreams, I found out a long time ago...about the betrayals. Only recently found out about the STDs. Now I'm just trying to figure out how to get tested here without getting booted out of the country and losing a job I love.

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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

pardon...double post.

[This message edited by mystified1970 at 4:16 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]

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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found out I have HPV 2 Weeks ago. My world has stopped. It is one thing to know of the A and be told but another to have to deal with the side effects staring you in the face. I don't think I will ever be okay again.

Me: BS


Married: 13 years

Kids: 12 and 10

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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, February 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just found out Monday. HPV High Risk and Chlamydia. Husband still won't admit there is OW but pretty sure this and the fact he didn't question my fidelity tells me what I need to know.

It is not possible for me to have these any other way right?

(I have been faithfully all 8 years of relationship)

Truth can set you free

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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, February 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH last saw the stupid hag in September. She told him after they first had unprotected sex that she has herpes. God only knows what else she might have. I guess I have to bite the bullet and go get tested.

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Default  Posted: 4:38 AM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MoyBerry, it's highly doubtful you contracted those STD's in any other way. I'm so sorry.

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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I was tested 4 months after I found out about OW. My blood test and the other tests can back neg. Should I get tested again in 6mo?

Me: BS, 39
Him: WH, 40, 2 month Thought it was only a EA...found out it was a PA
Married 14years
Kids: 1
D-day: Oct 19, 2013
Currently trying to save it together but TT is potentially wrecking that.

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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I contracted HPV genital warts and scabies from my H's A.

The scabies were awful. I was going crazy, thought we had bed bugs or something.

The ironic thing of it all is I actually work in an STD/HIV clinic...

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's funny, when I talked to my elders (church) about WS's escapades, I was able to keep from crying...until I told them he had given me HPV (two types, both high risk) and herpes. Then I couldn't keep myself from bursting into tears. It's such a very personal violation.

That's what is so awful. It's not just emotional pain. It's actual physical damage that has been inflicted on me, and I did nothing -- nothing to deserve or cause it.

I'm due this month to get another exam to decide whether or not I will opt for a hysterectomy. My HPV is apparently so deep that freezing or other procedures won't help, so if it doesn't heal on its own -- and it may not, since I'm in my 30's -- and I don't want to have continual PAPs and COLPs to check for cervical cancer, I might have a hysterectomy.

At least I wasn't planning on raising any more kids...

BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over a 5-year period, at least twenty
1 OC and another on the way
Filed for divorce!

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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My W had an 'EA/semi-PA' with a co-worker from Aug-Nov last year. I have been told repeatedly that they 'never had sex', and talking to OMW, she agrees that she doesn't think they did either based on weight of phone messages/email evidence.

Over the past few weeks, I have noticed a flat single bump (not even half a millimeter high) at the base of my genitals. I thought it might be a small swollen gland, but a check up today revealed it to be a small genital wart. I have never had an STD in my sexual life from 18-34. The doctor froze it off and said I might never see another instance of it ever again. He was brilliant, and he could see how upset I was despite my brave demeanour.

I should also add that OM admitted to my W that he had slept with 8-9 hookers during his 6 year marriage. I find it infinitely miraculous that I have my first STD now at tbe age of 34, and literally 5-8 months after my W's affair...which just happens to coincide with the average incubation time for the genital wart strain of HPV.

My W swears on her life that she never had sex with OM, but I am seething. I am pragmatic enough to believe that I may habe had this dormant for years, but the timing seems very convenient. I now don't know what to think of my W; it might not be her fault or it could be that they had sex afterall. I'll never know.

[This message edited by Hurthalo at 7:42 AM, April 4th (Friday)]

Forgive the unforgivable, or bear the unbearable.

Me BS (34) WW (29)
Married nearly 2 years
19m old Daughter
D-Day 05 Nov 13

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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't really spoken to her or returned her calls all day because I've been pissed off at her. I call her half an hour ago (10:30pm) and she's out with a bunch of guys at an evidently loud bar.
I'm done.

Hey buddy I hope you're not buying that Bullshit she's feeding you. you know the AP and your wife had sex buddy come on don't let yourself. It's bad enough that Your WW is and has been lying to you this whole time, check your get feeling buddy. I feel so bad for you. Let's face it buddy after reading all your post. She shows you nothing in the terms of being a loving wife. That should know that you're devastated hurt and in a lot of fear about the future of your marriage. Come on she's an officer in the military. And she thinks it's appropriate to hang out at bars with men on a business trip right after her A with a coworker. You know that there something wrong with her. You know that you're going to have to file for D. I'm sorry dude if this really hurts you... buddy you came here for a reason. To get help with this fucked up situation. Please keep posting buddy

[This message edited by trojan007 at 6:03 AM, April 6th (Sunday)]

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