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User Topic: Betrayed Spouse S.T. D. Support
0115
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, December 16th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before the A I was somewhat against it. Now my DD appt is next week.


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

re: Guardasil- I definitely plan to get it for DD.

Ya'll, I am struggling tonight!! Fresh new outbreak. I'm going on three months like this and I am losing my mind. I'm on meds, but they aren't working right. I went to an emergency doc this AM- she had nothing, but some lidocaine. She didn't even look- stood across the room from me. It made me feel so dirty.


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0115
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you serious?? That's BS!!! I'm so sorry thoughtiknewyou. What kind of freakin' bedside manner is that???

I don't have any advice on what you're dealing with, just a compassionate ear and kind thoughts for you.

I have a Dr appt tomorrow. I've been on the meds 8 weeks now but the warts aren't gone and I still have tons of questions.

Good luck all.


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, December 22nd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I had my appointment with a really good Doctor (she teaches at the medical university where she also practices). It seems I have a medicine-resistant strain of Herpes. Well, shit!! They took swabs of the sores, so they can grow the virus in the lab and see which meds it's resistant to and which ones it responds to. She switched me to Famvir, for now, but I am itchy, itchy, itchy. I go back in early Jan. I just pray I don't spend all of the holidays crying and in pain. I'm scared of this stuff!! What I have been through has been really traumatizing. Three months... I can't do it any longer. I NEED for it to go away!!

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, December 24th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no TIKY, I am soooo sorry!
I have a medicine-resistant strain of Herpes.
How horrible! I hope you find relief soon.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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0115
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, December 26th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thought I Knew you,

Did the Famvir help at all? I hope your holiday was bearable. Been thinking of you.

0115


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

Posts: 1011 | Registered: Apr 2011
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, December 26th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for asking!! It's so easy to feel alone in all of this!

I *think* the Famvir is working. I'm not 100%, but I'm not in awful shape, either. Just crossing my fingers that it continues to get better, whether it's from running the natural course of the virus or from the Famvir. I just want to feel normal.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, December 28th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UPDATE: My Dr. called yesterday AM and I missed her call. I received a call from her nurse yesterday afternoon. She said, "You're calling about the results from your HSV?". I said that I was and she said, "It's negative." and I said, "Do you mean that it's not resistant?", and she said, "No. I mean that there was no virus for them to culture." I stuttered and stammered for a minute and, finally, asked her to have the Dr. call me back because I was really confused. I hung-up and called the first Dr., who gave me the positive results a couple of years ago, and left a message for them to call me.

Nobody called. Nobody called me back yesterday- and nobody called me back today!!!!!!

I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing!! Do I continue taking this med???? Is it Herpes or something else??? WTF??? THIS is EXACTLY WHY it took me two months to go to a Dr., to start with. They never help me. I just throw my money away and nobody ever helps me.

[This message edited by ThoughtIKnewYa at 7:41 PM, December 28th (Wednesday)]


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SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, December 28th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was tested for all STDs and HIV after I found out she sleep with a military guy who was serving overseas. When i was 27 my 28 year old cousin whom I grew up with died of AIDS. It was one of the most horrific things Ive ever seen. I watched him waste away from 180 lbs to 89 lbs. The movie Philadelphia doesn't do it justice. We were married a year then and my WW saw how it effected my immediate family. It still does. My WW is on birth control so I know protection was not used. When I found out I was so judgemental on her and began screaming at her as to how she could put my life in jeopardy like that. I don't believe she was ever tested for anything. She said she was but I'm sure not for HIV. Please get tested if you haven't.


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


Posts: 1470 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Zombie Land
0115
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, December 28th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sean...so sorry for your loss. It's just so sad...he was so young Just sorry...no words to do it justice.

Thought...I agree...WTH??? My Dr is in health system where I can email ALL my questions. It's nice because he's good about replying to everything. If you get a new Dr, maybe something to think about. Please keep us filled in. I'm praying for you. Have you checked WebMD? Purplejacket4 was also very helpful on another thread...she might have some insight and said I could PM her.
Hang in there...it's GOING to get better and 2012 WILL be a better year!!!


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, December 29th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sean)))

0115,
I FINALLY received a return call. The negative test doesn't mean I don't have it, just that there wasn't any virus on my skin, at the time of the swab. The Dr. was a bit surprised about that because of the amount of inflammation that she saw. So, I'm going back on Jan. 12th and she's going to try again. She said she'll do a biopsy, if she has to, so she can get it.

The drugs for the resistant strains are all IV and can carry some heavy side effects, so they want to know WHICH one instead of just doing it by trial and error. That sounds good to me. I just hope I can hold steady or improve between now and then. I DO NOT want to go backwards!!


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, January 4th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thought, are you okay?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7113 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Thell
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Although I didn't get an STD from the unprotected sex my husband had during his affair with our close mutual friend, I just want to add my voice here to the support for getting tested. My husband's initial response on being asked (by my physician) to get STD tested after revealing the affair was that he had only slept with our friend, and she was definitely not sleeping with anyone but him and her husband... which was in fact true. He agreed to it despite his confidence that he had not been at risk for disease.

What neither my husband nor the OW knew was that her own husband was seeing a prostitute regularly. So even in practically the supposedly """best""" (did I use enough quotes?) situation in terms of disease safety, there was still a wide open door to the sexual history of dozens, maybe hundreds of other people.

Not sure if I should tell this part or not, but hopefully it's not offensive to anyone (I do take STDs extremely seriously)... He went to the hospital on the day he got blood drawn for testing on his motorcycle, but he didn't come home for quite some time and I grew a bit concerned. When at last he did get back, he opened the door and leaned against the frame looking pale and badly shaken. My heart went cold. He finally said, "well, I owe you an apology." My heart about stopped. Then, he finished, "it actually really, really does suck to faint." Oy.

Of course, we didn't have the results for several suspenseful days (he was clean in the end), but knowing he'd gotten a tiny bit of karma helped with the wait.


Please forgive typos - probably typing from my tablet.

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forgivingnow
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is bacterial vaginitis always STD related?


Me-BS 51
FWH-51
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

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realgood2u
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just sent you a PM.

In my case BV arrived with the A. Just sayin'.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for newbies


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7113 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
southsidecali
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just got back from a biopsy of some growths down there. I had a Vag inf awhile back but the itching never quite went away, then I noticed some bumps on the labia area and finally got around to working the courage to get checked out.
Based on all I have read I "think" I am leaning towards warts/hpv...I am scared, angry, I want to email him telling him to die a slow painful death.
To top it off we have visitation battle ongoing now, I have 3yr old girl will he infect her through kiss touch??? Ougghhh

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

southside,
I doubt he could infect her, but you definitely need to get all this documented.

I am so sorry!


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7113 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
SkeerdButHopeful
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Question: Do STD's have a foul odor?


Me BS45. XWH44 NPD. M 8 yrs. DD8. Dday 1/26/10. DIVORCED 5/16/11. Harassment charges twice. Judge ordered NCO for 1 yr, as well as parenting & anger mgmt classes. NCO has since expired, so harassment continues disguised as concern for DD.

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0115
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Southside,

So sorry you've been given this condition I am in the process of trying to build my immunity to get rid of them...tried zyclara and it worked a little but they're still there.

Skeerd I know BV has an odor...not sure about the others. Sorry you're here

Thought...how are you doing?

Thell...glad it turned out OK...you can't be tested for HPV but could still get the warts or the kind that leads to cervical cancer. Be sure to get your Pap smears and I'd keep checking for signs of HPV...mine appeared 9 months after dday. Hope luck stays on your side


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

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