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User Topic: Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 7
Ghostwalker
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAWH and I dated five years. I knew he had anger issues, FOO issues and a tendency towards alcoholism. Damn hormones! He was a popular student athlete. In other words, a smart jock. I was incredibly attracted to him.

I got pregnant one year out of college and we went forward with marriage. I can't lie. I knew I was in for a rough ride. No rose colored glasses here.

Our marriage was turbulent, but we loved one another. I can't tell you how many bad times we survived. The sad thing is I thought the worst was behind us. Our friends marveled at our resiliency.

His cancer diagnosis, along with some financial and kid problems, was apparently his tipping point. He went off the rails. If he would only admit he needed help, and would get it, I would stay. But I do not see this happening.

I cannot imagine a life without him after nearly 40 years together, but I will do what I have to do to protect myself. He continues to be defensive and unremorseful. It is heartbreaking.

Stay strong, Ladies. We're all in this together. I don't just want to just survive, I want to thrive. We all can -- and God willing, we will...

[This message edited by Ghostwalker at 9:02 AM, January 16th (Monday)]


This is the Hour of Lead --
Remembered, if outlived,
As Freezing persons, recollect the Snow --
First -- Chill -- then Stupor -- then the letting go --

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, that sums it up for me, the thriving part. What if I can't get ME back? The me that withstood all the FOO issues, the illness that nearly killed me, the (so I thought) depression of my H along with his job issues. I SO was the optimist, the cheerleader, the one to whom all my friends, family and acquaintances, not to mention co-workers went when there was wisdom to be sought, encouragement to be doled out. I was the one who saw the face of the divine in the rain in the sun in the wind. Now I can barely coax myself out of bed on a sunny day. What if I never learn to be ME again? This is the biggest hurdle I have to face. I still go through the motions, but I don't feel it.


Me-BS-59
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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hathnofury
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, ladies, this is why it is SO important we get into therapy/groups and put ourselves first ASAP. It can get out of hand quickly.

I am trying to head off the nonsense that evolves from this mess in myself as soon as I can identify it. For example, there are a few quick convenience meals I rely on now because they are relatively healthy, take little time and dishes to prepare, and can stay warm indefinitely or reheat quickly. However, my kids have grown and now one package of these items now barely feeds just the three kids. So I have been just fixing that for the kids, with the idea that I would eat leftovers or fix something else for me. Well, you know how that goes. I wind up eating nothing because I am taking care of everyone and everything else first.

So the first thing I did was make peace with the fact it is ok to buy TWO packages of these things for each meal. It sounds logical, but in my head doubling the cost of the meal just seemed like a huge thing. But the reality is the kids will keep growing and eventually two packages may not be enough for just them too, LOL.

The second part is again, stupidly convoluded because I made it so. The kids love steamed potstickers. One package will barely feed all of them, and that is all that will fit in my rice cooker. So I was committed to buying the second package, but how was I going to fix them. I could pan fry the second batch, but they don't like it that way and it takes away the convenience factor and sitting warm indefinitely. I really struggled with this, because I am compromised, LOL. Then today I realized I could buy a second rice cooker. It was worth the money for me to have two. And as if by divine intervention, the raviolis, tortellinis, and rice cooker were all on sale the day I figured this out and made myself go out and buy them before I could talk myself out of it.

And the kicker is I have been through this before. The kids love waffles, but it takes forever to fix waffles for a family of five, especially if you like to make them in bulk ahead of time. Duh, get another waffle maker, double your production time.

I feel like going through this experience of being a spouse of a SA has made me stupid. That's why I need forums like this, S-Anon, group therapy, etc so I can continually be reminded what I am doing may not be the best thing. You guys rock!


BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your examples are resonating with me today, Hath. I do the same thing. Take care of everyone else, and if there are leftovers, scraps, or crumbs I eat that. Which is just complete idiocy on my part. I thought I was being nice & self-sacrificing, but really I was just treating myself like crap and teaching my family to treat me like crap, too.

I'm the mother & primary care-giver 24x7. I deserve first pick. These days I sometimes will take it! LOL Other times I will let my kids have it. The point is, I'm learning that it's okay to treat myself well. That it's not a sin, it's not prideful, to treat myself well and insist that others treat me well.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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WS is an Addict
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What if I can't get ME back? The me that withstood all the FOO issues, the illness that nearly killed me, the (so I thought) depression of my H along with his job issues. I SO was the optimist, the cheerleader, the one to whom all my friends, family and acquaintances, not to mention co-workers went when there was wisdom to be sought, encouragement to be doled out. I was the one who saw the face of the divine in the rain in the sun in the wind.

Kat - I just met you a month ago, and even in this virtual world which we find ourselves, I can still sense your strength, your compassion, your caring, your wisdom...and yes, even your optimism. Those parts of yourself that you love...they may be dampened, but they are still there. I am a relative stranger, and even I can attest to the positive energy you radiate. Your comments and support have gotten me through many of these awful, early days. I don't know what the future holds for you, but I'm convinced that the YOU you've described is still there.

That being said, even though that beautiful part of yourself is still there, it's okay to have bad days and to lean on us / others every once and awhile. You are going through tough times - if someone were sunny and cheery every day in your situation...well, I think we would all conclude they were in denial or suffering from some other psychological ailment

I can't copy and paste the quote you posted because it's on a different page, but the thing you said about WS thinking I was above his baser urges and loving me as much as a SA could...

This brought me a great deal of comfort today. I am very grateful for you and all the other ladies on here. I don't know where I would be without your thoughts and experiences to help me process. Probably still staring at the wall, starving to death, lol.

HYIT *Light*


DDay for physical infidelities: 12/14/11
Me: 30 Him: 29 (SA - diagnosed 1/2/2012)
Married 4 years, Together 10 years
Reconciling, as long as he remains active in his recovery.

Posts: 361 | Registered: Dec 2011
WS is an Addict
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hath - Your rice cooker story made me laugh. Sometimes we do overlook or over complicate things. Sometimes it is as simple as investing in another rice cooker. Thanks for reminding me to take care of myself even the small things.

Ghost - I think you're right. Sometimes we are not as wise when we're younger. That doesn't mean we are gluttons for abuse - just young and unwise. Damn hormones!

Sager - Cigars, yes, lol.

IC went well today. My assignment this week: I am not to think about the future - whether we will D or R, whether we will have kids or no, whether he will get better or not. I am supposed to focus on getting through one day at a time until more time has passed, and let the future reveal itself. Gee, where have I heard that advice before

Thanks all. Love to you.


DDay for physical infidelities: 12/14/11
Me: 30 Him: 29 (SA - diagnosed 1/2/2012)
Married 4 years, Together 10 years
Reconciling, as long as he remains active in his recovery.

Posts: 361 | Registered: Dec 2011
Notmetoo2011
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies, I need some insight and wisdom from you.

I have had an emotionally tough weekend. Not because of anything WH has done or not done recently, but just due to my screwed up thoughts and probably screwed up hormones too.

I just seem to have been a basket case, feeling really down and hopeless and questioning every decision I make. In particular my decision to try and R with SAWH. The conversation on the previous page about whether a SA can really love someone else really got me thinking. Until then I did feel that WH had loved me throughout our marriage, inspite of what he had done, but then I got to thinking, how could he have when he did all these terrible things behind my back.

I feel that anybody not in this situation who heard my story would think me crazy to try and make it work, no matter how remorseful he is or how changed. I cannot get my head around this. Am I crazy, co-dependant or both? I dont know. I am doubting my every move.

I will say prior to D Day, WH never treated me badly (on the surface but obviously behind my back). I did feel loved and happy which is why I was totally blindsided when this all came out. But , now I know, and I'm back to the "how could you do this to me if you really loved me".

There don't seem to be many stories on this thread of successful R with a SA so I just wonder if I'm wasting my time trying.

Please excuse this rambling mess of a post. I don't seem to have many coherent thoughts lately.


Me-BW 47
SAWH 48
Married 25 years.
4 children
D-Day 26/07/11
Multiple PAs, ONS,

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think that I, too, would never believe that I would have even considered that I would be able to allow myself to try to reconcile with someone who has been so abusive to me. Not that he was ever physical, well once, but that wasn't a real issue. But he did everything he could to mess with my head. In hind site, it was all to keep me from finding out about his SA, his secret life. He never pictured himself as the guy that would cheat on his family, frequently labeled cheaters as "sh*theads" or worse. There's a lot of shame still to be overcome.

Despite all my current personal angst, he is really trying very hard. He does NOT want to go back to being that person. He WANTS to be the person that I can lean on. He doesn't usually anticipate the triggers or the pitfalls that may occur in this thing call recovery from my point of view, maybe he'll figure in out. I must give him credit for trying.

That said, he is about to walk into the snake pit. As I said, he is retired. He just got offered a job in the kind of environment that is perfect for an SA with his pattern of KISA. I am scared. I'm proud that he got the offer, and know that this is perfect for him in many ways. But this is the perfect fishing ground.

He's promised me he will maintain strong boundaries. Will proudly and prominently display my picture. Wants me to come to visit him at work. Nonetheless, I am very nervous about this whole thing. He's said he'll pull the plug on it now if it bothers me that much, without resentment. But I truly cannot do that to him. His career has been too important to him, and the boost that this will give him emotionally will really be good for him.

Well, I am following the program. I have indicated my concerns and feelings, my preferences and needs and given up the consequences. And I'm letting go and letting God.

Thanks for reading this most recent volume of SK and the SA.

You know how it goes, "teach a woman to fish and she'll feed the whole village." Thanks for the fish, ladies.


Me-BS-59
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Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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DrivingPast
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally relate to that "filter" thing. Its so shocking to find one more thing they all have in common. Uncanny almost.

I always chalked it up partially to his language barrier. Guess that is not really the case.

Also interesting to see others whose h was not always the addict. The books always seem to stress (and counselors) that they always must have acted out, etc. My h insists (and it seems to me as far as I know, which admittedly, well, you all know) that he did not always have urges or other sa behavior. I do believe that its something that a person can "develop" later on. He was definitely not that person when I met and married. But still Im questioning everything he ever was. I know I could leave the past behind and focus on the now, but I feel that knowing the TRUE past is crucial to knowing him, knowing what im really dealing with, and realizing the marriage I actually had. Does that make sense?

On a side note: MC is very stressful. I find she is often misunderstanding me. And I feel he gets all the talk time, rambling actually, and none of my concerns get addressed! Because there isnt time for it. So frustrated.


BW
married more than 10 yrs to a possible SA
D-Day May 5 2011
"Because one knows people best through their fears - the ones they overcome and the ones they are overcome by."

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Notmetoo - I know of at least one person here whose h is in recovery. Even though my H seems to be lost forever, I wonder if there are happy endings out there. Maybe this board just attracts people like me - wives whose husbands are SO far gone. Maybe the success stories are out there living their lives instead of glued to SI?

On a separate note, I've been struggling this week with something someone said to me - that my H must be gay. In the great scheme of things, I know it shouldn't matter. After all, he's obsessed with S&M sex, is living with a female swinger - I mean, why am I worried about THIS part of his sexuality???

I know this was discussed a few months ago, but I'm wondering if my husband's SA just spiraled out of control so badly that he kept needing to up the ante - so he ended up with men at the end? Or was he gay the entire time, and everything was leading up to this?

I wonder because now I look at photos of him taken over the past several years, and there's something different about him - something very effete. He used to only look at women, but then I found an ad that said he was bisexual. And then he and this woman started their acting out with men.

I know this doesn't really matter at this point, but I can't help but wonder. I did ask H about it a few months ago, and he said something like, "It doesn't matter - when I'm acting out, I'll find anyone to get what I need."

I don't know why it matters so much to me today, but it does. I'm sorry if I'm rambling here. I'm just searching for answers about how this happened to me.



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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will say prior to D Day, WH never treated me badly (on the surface but obviously behind my back). I did feel loved and happy which is why I was totally blindsided when this all came out. But , now I know, and I'm back to the "how could you do this to me if you really loved me".

Notmetoo - this is how I feel for sure. Even if he was acting out, the side I saw appeared happy and healthy. I think we all wrestle with the second statement. It may never be resolved.


You know how it goes, "teach a woman to fish and she'll feed the whole village."

Never heard this one before, but it's so true!

On a separate note, I've been struggling this week with something someone said to me - that my H must be gay.

This thought has crossed my mind, too - not because WS has ever been with a man or even looked at gay porn (that I know of) but because...well, I don't know why. I guess he is stereotypically "metrosexual" in a lot of ways with regard to cultural interests and personal hygeine. (This particularly sticks out in our current location, which is rural.) And to be honest, part of hoped he was gay, because then this could all be explained away as a sexual identity crisis...we could get divorced with no guilt involved, and maybe even be friends. But I don't think WS is gay...he says that is something he is 100% certain of, and he is liberal enough that he would be okay admitting it if he were.

I remember reading in the "Don't Call it Love" book that acting out with other men (or children or animals) was addressed as most often being an escalation issue. I think if he had started out hooking up with men or exclusively with men, that would be cause for conclusion, but as you've described it, it sounds like escalation. Does that make you feel better or worse?


DDay for physical infidelities: 12/14/11
Me: 30 Him: 29 (SA - diagnosed 1/2/2012)
Married 4 years, Together 10 years
Reconciling, as long as he remains active in his recovery.

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember reading in the "Don't Call it Love" book that acting out with other men (or children or animals) was addressed as most often being an escalation issue. I think if he had started out hooking up with men or exclusively with men, that would be cause for conclusion, but as you've described it, it sounds like escalation. Does that make you feel better or worse?

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember reading in the "Don't Call it Love" book that acting out with other men (or children or animals) was addressed as most often being an escalation issue. I think if he had started out hooking up with men or exclusively with men, that would be cause for conclusion, but as you've described it, it sounds like escalation. Does that make you feel better or worse?

I'm sorry I hit submit too fast in the previous message! I can't believe it, WS, but your question made me laugh for a minute. Because I have NO idea if I feel better or worse! I'm going to have to think about that. It's just another layer right now.

I do believe that a sexual identity issue would be less hurtful and easier to explain.

Some days I wonder if my husband's preference for S&M sex will someday be accepted as normal sexual expression. Not the way he does it, of course, which is compulsive, a real addiction. So it's an interesting question.

My husband has a lot of metrosexual interests too. Interesting.


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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interviewed candidates for WSs former job today. Surprisingly it went better than I thought. We had 5 candidates - all men. Administration talked quite a bit about how much the program had grown and improved in the past 3 years (since WS was there) and how they would like to see that continue. That was very affirming for me - that WS did accomplish some good things amidst his badness. No crying on my part. I was able to compartmentalize very well.

Still angry about the other girl I found out about though. I'm mad that WS can't tell me over the phone what went down there. I need to know whether he got her pregnant! I'm mad at the non-phone disclosure policy at Keystone. I mean there's probably good reason for it, but I think if I already know the generalities about something, he should be able to give me details. My imagination is running wild...slept less than 2 hours last night. Too much anxiety...

[Sigh]. I had a daydream today - probably the first (positive one) I've had since Dday. I daydreamed that I ran far, far away to some island somewhere, where I stared at the ocean and swam with dolphins. No one knew my name. No one cared where I came from. Everyone was content, carefree and at peace.

Wishing you all a brief respite from life's troubles today.


DDay for physical infidelities: 12/14/11
Me: 30 Him: 29 (SA - diagnosed 1/2/2012)
Married 4 years, Together 10 years
Reconciling, as long as he remains active in his recovery.

Posts: 361 | Registered: Dec 2011
hathnofury
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH has some metrosexual tendencies. I think he's a 1 on the Kinsey scale. But I doubt it has much to do with the SA. But I totally agree, in many ways my life would be a whole lot easier if he was just gay. How sad is that?

I brought up the filter thing again in S-Anon today. Mainly because I need to learn to work around it, detach and all that but address it as it gets in my way since apparently I am crazy enough to try to buy a house with him. Once again big revelation on the "filter" thing with many, so funny how that rings true when it isn't a psychological condition that I know of. What was interesting was that somme people were seeing filter in FOO but not necessarily the ones that were addicts.

So again, in my nonprofessional opinion, the filter is not exclusive to addicts/SAs, but I do think that all addicts have or have had it. It was what allowed them to spiral out of control. Of course said trait could be learned from FOO who are not addicts, they had to learn it or inherit it genetically somewhere.

But like Dr. Phil, I am not a real doctor, just a loudmouth Texan.

SK, hugs on WH's new job. Ugh.

DP, hugs on MC. I know our MC was not especially helpful, but she was not CSAT. I can't even imagine trying MC now, I feel like I have so much personal stuff to overcome and WH has not addressed his either.

(((Hope))) IDK about S&M becoming mainstream. It was my understanding true S&M is about control and not sex. It is the lunatic fringe that take it there and make it ugly for the "legit" ones, LOL. But who knows, it amazes me what they show on TV that gets ratings these days.

[This message edited by hathnofury at 5:23 PM, January 17th (Tuesday)]


BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At one point, in the early days of TT, my H came home and grabbed me in a bear hug. He was crying. He had just heard Willie Nelson's version of "You Were Always on My Mind" "Can you ever forgive me?" At that point, I thought it was EAs and occasional strip clubs. I had no idea about the extent of his addiction, the word addiction wasn't even in our radar.

I do think they love us. Depending on the individual addict, the extent of their dysfunction and damage, they cannot establish a strong love attachment. They may think they do. And, I believe they often do intend to "go straight" when they marry.

The escalation into gay sex or porn is apparently very common whether or not there is any gay tendencies. ALL their boundaries are blurred and crossed. Think of all the CLERGY that have written about being SAs. They cross boundaries that they ascribe to personally and publicly. I think it's just about the need for more and more stimuli. Probably having to do with brain chemicals.

@drivingpast. If you aren't being heard in MC, speak up or get out. I am a strong believer that unless the counselor is a CSAT there won't be much progress. And I'm sorry I've forgotten your story. And even after 3 years, MC is still very iffy for us, we still do IC, with MC (with HIS CSAT) once a month.

"teach a woman to fish" another infidelity survivor, Hillary Clinton.


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HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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1Forward1Back
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I caught SAH a couple of nights ago, looking at porn on his computer and having a risque channel on the TV, when I came out to the kitchen area to get a drink after retiring for the night. I just calmly looked at him and said something like, "Oh yeah!' No disgust on my face, on my mind or in my heart. Just a real sadness for him.

He apologized and I said, "Don't apologize. This has nothing to do with me anymore. This is your issue, not mine." I was kind and calm. I did not ruminate about the incident or even think that much about it. He came to bed right after and said he deleted all the pictures. Again I told him I did not need to hear that. I reiterated my decision to stay and why and that I have accepted we will likely live the rest of our lives celibate and more as good friends than anything else. I also told him I knew he hated every single minute of his addiction, felt disgusting and shame. I get that. But I can't even think about it as part of my life any longer. He is on his own.

Just thought I'd share that. This is my life now, but I have not been this content in a very, very long time.


Me: 60 Yrs. (BS)
Him: 60 Yrs.(FWH- life long sex addict)
-2 ONSs followed by an A-2005/06
-cheated while we were engaged
-seems to stray every 30 years or so
D-Day-June 10, 2006
Working on own recovery. His is his!
Married: 37 yrs. Grown ch

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my 1forward...hugs to you. Good for you for strong step work, but so sad. I, too, was able to detach from my WH's last slip, at least initially, but we all know the pain is still there. Do you have program friends IRL too? I am thinking of you and holding you in the *light*

And of course, it works if you work it...be strong.

(((((((((((1forward)))))))))))


Me-BS-59
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, WS broke disclosure rules for me when I told him thinking about it kept me up all night. Contact with pregnant girl was limited to 2-d activities. He cannot be the father!

Whew, hopefully sleeping better tonight! It's sad how happy knowledge of him swapping naked pictures with someone makes me, lol.

Only you all could understand...


DDay for physical infidelities: 12/14/11
Me: 30 Him: 29 (SA - diagnosed 1/2/2012)
Married 4 years, Together 10 years
Reconciling, as long as he remains active in his recovery.

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, January 17th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS, and there you have YOUR "filter." A sense of humor may be the only thing that gets is through this. Oh, and our support systems...


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