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User Topic: Codependency in the Marriage: A BSís common mistake
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, September 18th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
OathswornDad
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Member # 36742
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, September 18th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. I needed to read this. It will hurt so bad not having a partner. But I have to be comfortable with myself if I am going to have any chance at R

[This message edited by OathswornDad at 3:45 PM, September 18th (Tuesday)]


Me(BH):28
WW:32
2 kids: 3 yo & 20 mo
D-day: 9/1/12
Status: divorced

Posts: 152 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baton Rouge
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, September 29th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 11378 | Registered: Mar 2008
kannan
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, September 30th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Posts: 139 | Registered: Jul 2012
Hannelore
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, October 1st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just finished reading this whole thread, and I'm literally smiling! I'm codependent and know it! I've made some big scary changes in the last 6 months - I won't say I'm codependent no more but well on my way! Full disclosure is coming up soon, maybe it wont be as horrifying as I imagine ... Do I feel a glimmer of hope for a brighter future?


Me BW - 40s
WH - 40s SA


Posts: 116 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: USA
Hannelore
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Member # 34546
Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, October 1st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh - and thank God for this site and all you good people. I take what I need and just leave the rest. Feeling so hopeful is so weird after all these months of darkness and despair. Wow.


Me BW - 40s
WH - 40s SA


Posts: 116 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: USA
deeplyblue
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Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, October 5th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump!


BS(me):37
WSH: 34
OW: 23
married for 2 1/2 yrs
together for 4 yrs
children : 2
DD 27/7/2012
Status: He wants R, I want S/D.

Posts: 33 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: deeplyblue
Diva0702
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Member # 32309
Default  Posted: 4:14 AM, October 5th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Simply excellent


Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, October 5th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this, unfortunately me and my wh are at the part where you say:
This can often deteriorate into the sort of marriage where the two partners can neither live together nor live apart

scary place to be!!!


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
Carrie22
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, October 6th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I needed to read this in the wake of a current Dday 2, and wish I had found it in the aftermath of DDay1. Thank you

Posts: 51 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, October 13th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

weekend bump.

Posts: 11378 | Registered: Mar 2008
diditagn
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, October 17th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for newbies


Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.

Posts: 1556 | Registered: Feb 2004 | From: WI
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Newbies


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, November 26th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, November 27th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for beforeandafter


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, December 10th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumpin'


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 10th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for me.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, December 24th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, January 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for newbies.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1860 | Registered: Nov 2010
thisissogross
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, January 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love." -Friedrich Nietzsche

i edit frequently because i have to


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