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Lost and Betraye
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, December 8th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me=BS 50; Him=WS 46; Dday 11/10/11
Married 13 years; together 20
Kids: DD11;(2) grown boys/men from my previous marriage to a WS
Status: Divorcing

"The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post" L Thomas Holdcroft


Posts: 317 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: CA
emptyheart
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, December 11th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me - BW, Him - WH
2 great kids that are my reason for living.
1st D-Day - March 28, 2008
False R for a year
2nd D-Day - April 11, 2009

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annb
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, December 12th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Posts: 7516 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, December 16th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

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unarmbears
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, December 17th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


FBS-Me, 60
FWH-Him, 55
2 Sons 26 and 31
2 Daughters 29, 24 And 4 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie

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Lost and Betraye
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me=BS 50; Him=WS 46; Dday 11/10/11
Married 13 years; together 20
Kids: DD11;(2) grown boys/men from my previous marriage to a WS
Status: Divorcing

"The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post" L Thomas Holdcroft


Posts: 317 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: CA
annb
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unarmbears
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, December 31st (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Happy New Year!


FBS-Me, 60
FWH-Him, 55
2 Sons 26 and 31
2 Daughters 29, 24 And 4 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie

Posts: 4891 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: From where the trees lean east...
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, January 3rd (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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Fighting2Survive
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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, January 15th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

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Fighting2Survive
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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
annb
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, January 20th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes I wonder if we are truly in R or just rugsweeping but after reading this I know that we are truly in R and it is a wonderful feeling knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know that this journey is not going to be smooth sailing all the way but I have faith that we are supposed to be here and that we will come out on the other side happier and more in love than we were before the A.


ME: BS 40
HIM: FWH 41
2 boys: 20, 17
DDay #1: October 17th 2011 (A w/ co-worker & visit with 2 "working girls"
DDay #2: September 20th 2013(A w/ girl from Craigslist. Had sex multiple times with 2 women he found on Ashley Madison.
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AttemptStrength
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, January 23rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.


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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, January 24th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1897 | Registered: Nov 2010
annb
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annb
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, February 2nd (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH rugswept till the rug was threadbare. Then he left. No remorse, no discussions, only an expectation that I should feel sorry for him in having to choose between us. I feel sick when I look back on it, how it was all about his grief.

Then his affair fizzled out and we started to discuss reconcilation (more rugsweeping). Then he went away on a business trip and fell in love with someone else. More lies.

He never came back after that. Now that has ended and he is around again, smiling that winsome smile. Please God give me the strength to punch his lights out if he ever suggests he wants to try again.


BS,50, WH 49. Dday number one 01 July 06, followed by dozens more. No remorse. Divorced 08.

Badly scarred but doing OK. Possibly better than he is.

"It will be alright in the end. And if it's not alright, it's not the end."


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