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User Topic: Long Term Affair Part 23
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood,

I'm glad you made it through the night. He truly is King of Fucktard Island. Though the crown could probably be passed around each week. I had to disappear from the computer last night when WH came home but I was praying for you.

nofun,
Please don't add guilt about your kids on top of everything else. They are able to talk honestly to you about your life. They are good, healthy people. Who is responsible for that? Give yourself a huge pat on the back.

Love to all here.


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all

It's 2am here and I can't sleep.

(((((((Fun, Allgood, Honest)))))))

They are such shitty men. Why did we have to get the fucktards? Why couldn't we get a man who would feel like this:

And today, I can also say a great value has come from all this agony. Something I never had before this experience in life. I have compassion. Tryn

This I think is the problem. They have lived these selfish, self-centred lives for so long that they have no empathy or compassion. They may be "sorry" for what they did but their "sorry" is for them, not us. It is a "sorry" designed to get what they now want - a "happy" marriage with a wife who's willing to rugsweep and put up with their childish, selfish behaviour.

We had friends over and during the conversation my H says "I've had no sex in 3 weeks, I'm sick of this, I'm going to get a girlfriend." .....First he says he's sorry for saying that, then he asks me to say I'm sorry for calling him a Fuckin AssHole. I told him I won't apologize. He says, "what about me?" "do you think this is easy for me"? You don't do anything for me anymore.

Un fucking believeable!!!!!!

Love to all

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fun

I must look like an ass to my kids.

No honey, you do NOT. They love and respect you for trying. That's why you are so close to them. You have always been there for them and they know it. They know that you love their father but because they love you and you have been their "rock" while he has been an absentee dad, they want what's best for you.

I know my kids still love their dad but they hate what he did. They love him but I know they don't respect him. KWIM? If I said I was leaving tomorrow I know they'd say "Good for you". At the same time they are happy for me to stay if that is what makes ME happy. That's love and that is what keeps me sane. Use your kids love to keep sane through this shit. You have always been there for them - now they need to be there for you - and I know they will because that's how you brought them up! - with compassion!!!

Love
Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
njgal480
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nofun-
Your kids love you and worry about you..they do not think badly of you trying to keep the family together.
Your husband on the other hand is a complete idiot.
That comment to your friends about no sex and needing a girlfriend definitely crossed the line.

Has he ever gone to IC?

He's another one of those dry drunks... he may have stopped cheating but if he has not made any changes in his attitude or thinking then you still have the same asshole to deal with.

He doesn't get it.

So sorry for the rough night.
Can you get away somewhere today? go out with your kids? or a friend?
go to a movie , out to lunch, etc.

Same goes for Allgood- take care of yourself.

Keeping all of the LTAers in my prayers.


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


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nofun
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. I'm heading out to go redecorate my office. It's the only place that is ALL MINE. That should keep my mind occupied for awhile.

Hugs to Everyone!


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry for what I did, it's in the past, why can't you move on?"

Yeah, this is my H's mantra despite the fact I've not only told him why I can't move on, I've told him how to make it better.

And, Fun- I agree with what everyone said - your kids are grown and see your sitch for what it is. You've done a fine job raising them.

My gf irl has not called me back. She was on vacation all week, I thought she was getting back yesterday, but I may be mistaken. My other gf irl has her own share of troubles and hasn't called me back in a week. So, I called my H in my weepy state, told him I had no real reason for calling other than the fact that I am a mess. He said he knows and we will talk later.

I am now going to try to do some research on what single people do on Sunday nights.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of an example am I setting?

nofun,

That a marriage, especially with children and a history is worth trying to reconcile and preserve. That you can see how your immediate actions will impact everyone around you down the road, and you consider this when making choices. That despite being hurt you tried and tried again to help your husband to heal himself and his marriage. In other words; a good example.

If broken spouses do not get the help and do the work to fix themselves they never get better. You can stay and help them, but only for so long. At some point it becomes clear they are just going to pull you and the M down with them as they continue down their path of immediate gratification and external validation.

This getting over an A is crappy and hard, and I say this with a FWS who is by most accounts doing the right things. If FWW was not doing the work, complaining it was too hard and taking too long, or throwing my feelings back in my face I would show her the door or walk out of it myself. I was willing to carry her for nearly the first year after dday, but now she has to learn to swim or sink on her own. I will help to pay for the lessons and encourage her, but it is her work.

--Ats

[This message edited by atsenaotie at 10:24 AM, February 27th (Sunday)]


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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nofun
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Ats, you made me feel better.

Allgood - It seems like there are number of us who are mess today. Too bad we didn't live closer to each other.

I actually started a support group where I live. There are 4 of us and I feel like the odd one in the group. I feel like they look at me like I have 3 heads for staying with someone whose A lasted 12 years. I know it's probably just my perception as we are all very supportive of each other. LTA's are a different animal that's for sure.

My eyes look like someone punched me and I feel like shit. I hate crying!


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

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honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood: Looking at your texts with WH, it's clear that he does not HEAR or understand what you are saying at all. I tend to agree with NJgal. I think your WH may have a drinking problem. An alcoholic does not have to be the stereotypical person who is always drinking too much. Your WH was upset, what does he do? He goes out to drink. This is NOT normal behavior. It may seem normal for you, because he's always done this and the people he hangs out with do the same thing.

You have been through hell and back. I agree that you could benefit from Alanon or IC.

Nofun: What a hurtful thing to say, especially in front of company. Even if you had no problems at all, it is a horrible thing to say!
You are a good mother. I agree with Ats and Laura that you are showing a good example to them that you tried to make it work. My sons keep telling me that they want to see me happy and would back me up with whatever decision I make.

They just want to rug sweep. They can keep up thier old behaviors and not do the hard work to make change. My WH tells me last night that I'll never let it go and will be saying something on his death bed. I told him I'm not even talking about the past but what's going on now.

It's not about not forgiving, it's about the behaviors are still the same. We are still getting hurt and still dealing with past hurt.


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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

fun: everyone said it so well, especially ats where your kids are concerned...

as for your fucktard, he is so much like mr allgood...the 2 of you remind always of one another, always did....

they are first class idiots, both of them....

and allgood, i really believe you need to 180 your fucktards ass yesterday.....youre making yourself crazy....and it sucks that your friends were not available.....


and when the ws ask when will you get over it the answer is simple....

i will get over it when i do and not a moment sooner...it could be sooner rather then later if you decide to step up and do as I need or it could be later or never if you opt not to step up and do as I need....and it will take as long as takes...and after fucking up and fucking period i would think you would be willing to do what it takes for as long as it takes...but if you cant be bothered participating in this marriage, then save us all some time and YOU MOVE ON!!!


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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strongish
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Allgood)))
(((nofun)))
(((Honest)))

Oh my...just when you think it can't get much worse.....

It's not about not forgiving, it's about the behaviors are still the same. We are still getting hurt and still dealing with past hurt.
Yep, I agree wholeheartedly. Everyone in this forum has tried to R and has given their WS multiple opportunities to step up and do the work to heal their M. In the short time I've been here I've seen so many of you endure the roller coaster ride that is a result of infidelity. There is not one among us that deserved this but none of us acted as selfish as our WS's have acted. Allgood, nofun, Honest....all of you have gone above and beyond to give your WH's chance after chance to do the right thing. Is it hard?? Hell, yes!! But dammit you are worth the hard work it takes to salvage a life together. If your WS can't or won't do the hard work that YOU need to heal, then it is in your best interest to protect yourself from further pain and hurt. Clearly these fucktards don't have your best interests at heart. They are selfish, ego-driven idiots. I am so, so sorry!


They have lived these selfish, self-centred lives for so long that they have no empathy or compassion. They may be "sorry" for what they did but their "sorry" is for them, not us. It is a "sorry" designed to get what they now want - a "happy" marriage with a wife who's willing to rugsweep and put up with their childish, selfish behaviour.
So I had a talk with FWH last night and told him that unless there is some drastic change in him, what he is doing now is not working for me. I am no happier, not feeling safer, not more trusting than I was with him 7 months ago. I am handling the hurt better, but overall I just don't feel much love or affection for him. The sad thing is that he really believes that he is "doing everything he can" but it's just not enough for me. I told him that it's his bad luck that he married someone that could not live with what he has done. So sad really.

(((Tribe)))


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Miracle, excellent post.

IC for me? My experience with IC was that it was pretty useless. Not to say I don't believe in it, Im definitely aware of how helpful it has been for some, but my experience was that I left the sessions feeling neither better, nor more focused, nor more aware of anything.

Anyway, I guess the saying or song or whatever "breaking up is hard to do" is applicable here. It's also something I've never experienced before so I am developing coping strategies on the fly.

I spoke with my friend irl (her flight was thwarted and she didn't get home until 4am) who has known me since I was 12 and my H since he was 16. She says she believes he loves me but that this is just too hard for him, he just doesn't have it in him to do what I'm asking him to do. (And her H has been friends with my H since they were 16 so she is getting his perspective on this as well.)
She offered that we sit down with them and try to work it out. I don't see my H opening up in front of his friend AT ALL. (I know they had a pretty heated discussion about his A last year.)

The drinking - it's not like he does it just to cope. We were actually supposed to go out to a bar to watch these fights until we couldnt get a sitter and before all Hell broke loose. So, he definitely equates fun with alcohol. That was the mentality of the group of friends we grew up with. (We were also teenager, kwim. Some grew out of it and some did not.)
I'm not saying he doesn't have a problem with alcohol, I'm just saying it's more than just a coping mechanism - or if it is just a coping mechanism, man he's been F'd up for a long, long time.

180.
Yes.
When he gets home, I'm going to the gym, then to church, then probably to a Starbucks to do some work. I told him I'm going out but I don't know where or with whom I'm going.

ETA: Strongish - we were cross posting. I'm sorry to see you are having a hard time. I'm glad you spoke your mind with your H tho. My H seems to believe he's done everything, even tho I've practically made a checklist for him and he can really only say he's done a few things I said I needed. Logisitically, we can all see the writing on the wall, know it's for the best, but it's still hard. I look at my post from yesterday, about how I was pulling the plug as soon as the refi is done and BAM I am still miserable as Hell because my H is not willing to do this for me.
I will find someone I can trust and love and feels the same way about me.

[This message edited by Allgoodnamesgone at 1:48 PM, February 27th (Sunday)]


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

strong:

i am so sorry....this just sucks...

ok here goes....you do realize that lta = long term recovery....giving that you are only 7 months out which is like spit in a pool....and granted to fill a pool could take a really long time, or it could take forever and never get filled..but the point is that you are still a "newbie"...i know its been 6 months or more, which is the general rule...so i ask the following:

is he nc
is he in ic
are you both in mc
is he stepping up and being accountable
is he being open honest and transparent...

i had given pfm 6 months to do all of the above, if he didn't comply there was not going to be another moment wasted on my part mostly because he was never a good husband to begin with so saving this marriage was totally in his hands....not only saving it but making it better then it ever was...well he did everything cept be open, hoonest and transparent ....and for me it was a total dealbreaker....

so if your ws has done that, has committed dealbreakers, i am the first one to say go for what YOU need...but if he complied with all you asked then i would ask you if you are sure you do not want to give it more time....

and i am also a a firm believer in what dr phil says so often that the only thing worse then spending a year in a bad relationship is spending a year and a day in it....

i just want you to be sure that you follow YOUR PATH OF LEAST REGRET.....

and whichever way you go know you will always have our support....

and yes everything about this sucks, except for "meeting" all of you....

(((strong)))


allgood: i don't think your husband would be open to an "intervention" but really if its coming from her, you got nothing to lose...and if i were you i would play so dumb to the whole charade...totally dumb and surprised....if he thinks you are in on it i don't think it would go over too well....he will probably take it as another way for you to attack him, which i how i think he perceives most of what you tell him....



i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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strongish
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will find someone I can trust and love and feels the same way about me.
Yes, you absolutely will. I just know it. You are an incredible woman and any man would be lucky to have you. Despite all that you've been through in the past day or so you have taken the time to reach out to me. That shows how compassionate you are.

Miracle -
is he nc - I think so
is he in ic - Just restarted at my request
are you both in mc - Yes
is he stepping up and being accountable - Depends on what you mean by accountable and "stepping up"
is he being open honest and transparent - As much as he can be....

In my mind the things you have listed are the bare minimum that needs to happen in order for me to have even TRIED to R with FWH. And I have tried. I have been in IC since DDay + 7 days; have initiated IC and MC for both of us, researched who is on our insurance, made the initial appts., bought the books (which he hasn't finished reading in 6 mos), bought out Victoria's Secret to reinvigorate our sex life, and listened to him defend his LTA until I'm blue in the face. When we talk about it, there's always the "but" at the end of his admission that he did wrong...."I shouldn't have slept with OW, BUT you wouldn't have sex with me enough.", "I shouldn't have kept the LTA from you BUT I never technically lied since I would have told you if you had asked." You get the idea. I empathize with his assertion that he wasn't trying to hurt me, but he did and HE knew the risk. Early on in our M I remember telling him that I could probably forgive and live with him if he ever had a ONS, but what I could never live with was his having a relationship with another woman. Soon after DDay I asked FWH if he remembered that conversation and he did...so he made the very conscious decision to do that which he KNEW was most hurtful to me.

I don't know if there is anything that FWH could or should have done since DDay that would have ensured that we could R, but I do know that what he's doing now is not enough. Since we've stopped sleeping in the same bed there is no other affectionate touching, no compliments on how I look, no effort on his part to find something fun for us to do other than see a movie, no effort to find or research a marriage encounter weekend or seminar. He wants this to be easy and damn it, I'm worth more effort than he's willing to put forth.

I'm just not feeling anything for FWH except irritation, sadness and the occasional rage (like with the MIL thing).

ETA - I committed to at least 12 MC sessions with our current C when we started with her in Jan. I will continue through the 12th and later if it seems that FWH is making some progress. Here I am holding my breath....

[This message edited by strongish at 4:23 PM, February 27th (Sunday)]


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iwantamiracle
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strong: he putting a but on the end of everytime he explains his a is not being accountable...

he has to "get" what he did, take full responsibility and know why otherwise there really is no reconcilliation that will work for you....

you need to know that he gets it...

imo, until that happens there is not a prayer in hell that will help....

because you will never feel safe, you will never develop a new and different trust...and without that you will never feel comfortable within the relationship....

and for the fact that he is also being a total jerk in not owning his shit, i am sorry....put him on that karma bus headed for fucktard island.....

giving it til the last of your commitment to mc sounds more then reasonable....as long as this is what you FEEL is right for you.....

one more question does he know that you feel this way....that he is at the end of the rope and he is all but hangin.....

if not, tell him...leave no stone unturned...that is for you in the long run...will save you doing a what if later on and possibly a regret...kwim...


(((strong)))

allgood and fun....be good to yourselves....i think you need some therapy shopping....


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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strongish
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you need to know that he gets it...

imo, until that happens there is not a prayer in hell that will help....

because you will never feel safe, you will never develop a new and different trust...and without that you will never feel comfortable within the relationship....

This is almost exactly what I told him last night. I am taking the path of least regret. I will not throw in the towel until I know that I can look myself in the mirror. I told FWH that I love him, will probably always love him, but that doesn't mean I can or will stay married to him. It's so terribly sad that he had so much and threw it away for such a loser.


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

K.
Went to my friend's house tonight and spoke with her and her husband who are long time friends of my H and myself for the past 28 years or so.

I feel a lot better. And, damn that wine was goooood!!!
I was a bit taken aback how much her husband was really pissed off at my H. Now, I know my H would dismiss all of this as him just backing his wife, but my friend was really doing a valiant job of trying to see my H's point of view. End result was clear in their eyes- that I'm better off walking away. He's not trying to save this marriage. They both shake their heads trying to understand him.

Came back to try to wrap things up with H. It's same old same old, he doesn't want to lose me, but doesn't see it getting better, it's getting worse. I told him what I needed. I told him straight out I'm not able to give him what he wants right now, because I feel I have done that (operated on the assumption that we are getting a fresh start and acted more excited about it) and just got pissed on. (Sorry, when I get angry I get pretty graphic.) So, it was up to him, can he do what I want. He just says he has to think about it and doesn't understand my rush, doesn't understand what is so different now than a month ago when I said I was done - that I've been living day to day like that since then, so why the rush now. Told him because he called it off this time. I had a tough time believing he was committed to this cause before, now he calls it off and in that manner - yea, that changes things for me.

O well.
I just want to confirm that despite all the anti-alcohol statements here as of late, it has done WONDERS for me tonight. Maybe I will do a little drunken laundry now.

Peace be with you all.

ETA: o, o, o, forgot to respond to Miracle's hint at retail therapy. My boss actually rearranged my schedule next week so I can be at the court near the outlets.(I guess he even sees I need some retail therapy as he knows I came back empty handed on my last outing to the mall on my lunch break).Lol. Is that great or what?

[This message edited by Allgoodnamesgone at 8:46 PM, February 27th (Sunday)]


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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strongish
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Allgood - Isn't it a relief when you have friends that validate what you are feeling? You are so, so lucky to have these friends that will support you....not just because that's what they are "supposed" to do, but because they have tried to look at the sich as objectively as possible and they confirm that you have tried your best to save your M. I'm glad that you have them in your corner.

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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, February 27th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

allgood:

so why the rush now.

he fucking kidding...now he wants to know why the rush, he could not wait for you to move on...rushing you through this god forsaken process that you would nt be on if he just didn't go and stick his dick where it didn't belong and now he wants to know the fucking rush.....

oh i could see it so clearly now, the rain is gone and he is a bleeding fool.....wants to know the rush, i can't stop saying it in my head....so if he so fired up on taking his sweet fucking time, then why oh why can't you.....because you don't live over the fucking rainbow thats why...

yup, he is certainly playing the part of the rebellious teen too well....damn he needs tobe bitch slapped like yesterday, and he needs to be slapped with his own fucking dick....maybe then he would think twice next time he decided to whip it out for use....

ok rant over i think....fucking rush....


strong:

i am amazed at how clearly you are able to process and think, give yourself some credit girl....youve got a great and yes it is really really sad....too many of them throwing away their chance at actually getting what they want....or what they claim they want....

kind of like the kid who tantrums to get his way, and then doesn't understand why the tantrum didn't work, so next time throws a bigger tantrum because it works so well....

as for me...the old pfm is starting to show his face....its only glimpses, but i know he is still there...at least most of who he was.....

then there are the things about him that never changed....keeps me centered on my goal....


allgood: buy some sexy outfits....you have the body for it, so go for it...


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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Laura28
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Hi all

Really busy at present. reading and thinking of you all. Will try to respond in a day or two. So sorry so many are doing it tough

((((((tribe))))))

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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