Now for my critique - at first I was just so mad FOR this woman. How dare her husband? But then, little by little I got to the point I dont' think I could stand this woman in real life. So I don't ruin the story, I'll only touch on the things that really rubbed me the wrong way...
1. Her H supposedly left them w/$40,000 debt. She just didn't know how she and her daughter were going to make it. BUT she took 2 and three trips a year - some overseas, spent the summer at their family house in Maine, etc. How financially devastating??? NOT
2. She recounted her earlier years before meeting her husband. She had slept with quite a few men, many just once, and had an affair with a married man. When she met her H, she knew he was seeing someone else and to justify going out with him, said, "Well, you did end it with your gf, right?" He never answered but she slept with him anyway.
3. The OW - the friend - her D and the author's D were BEST friends. She would not even let her D say hi to the OW's daughter in a public place. (I could understand not letting her go to the OW's house, but not even to say hi in a public place? It wasn't the girls' fault)
4. She went thru quite a few men when she started dating again, many she didn't even want to sleep with but did anyway. Sent her D off to stay with relatives quite often so she could have men sleep over or her go to their place and sleep over. ( And this may be guilt talking, because when H & I were separated, I went thru a period when I was seeing OM that I had my son staying at my parents way too much - so I guess I have no right to say anything here)
But anyway, I won't tell you how it turns out. But I will tell you, it is very "triggery" and might just tick you off to no end like it did me but then again, it was like a car accident - I just had to read it to the end anyway.
I didn't care for the book. I didn't trigger, but I'm six and a half years out from DDay #2.
My husband died young and I found out about his affair after his death. I also found out from emails.
The book made me feel less alone in my situation. She had a lot of the same questions about her husband/marriage.
I felt like her story was worse than mine because her husband had several OW and one was the friend/neighbor. I really hated the OW neighbor. She was a sick, hypocritical, two faced freak. When she and her husband started to "find the Lord" and try to get Julie to come to their church, it made me sick.
I also hated the portrayal of Julie's husband. He seemed like a lazy, self absorbed narcissist.
I thought Julie made a lot of bad choices, but I did not hate her. She at least seemed to understand her weaknesses.
Yes, I bet it did hit home for you as the story unfolded. One of the triggery things in the book was her neighbor/friend/OW had the same name as the OW in our situation except spelled differently and the OW in our sitch was not a friend of ours...thank God.