the kind most of us ummm *missed* -
...telling a story of the cheating father of her own children
and the so-called 'man'
- is twisting the knife in her soul out of cowardice
- exposing his children to crazymaking
(and making more crazymakers in the process)
- damaging everyone...out-and-out cruelty
- resorting to every cliche in the book to avoid, shift, deflect, and run from...hell, not only responsibility...but just. basic. humane-ness.
"I don't care who suffers - as long as I don't."
I remember back a bit, there was a guy that ended up walking on the street with bloody scratches and his shirt in tatters from his wife's abuse...it can get that bad...and we warn our buddies on here to watch out for those types of shenanigans, false accusations...
here, read some of these stories...it's enough to make yer toes curl...
There's just something about 'men'...who abuse their betrayed wives and children...that makes my toes, teeth, and remaining hair curl.
I get all warriored-up.
Start diggin thru the closet, lookin for my ass-kickin boots.
end up coming in here and venting to the posse for help out there,
I just got pissed at the male of our species who abuse their wives and children and vented.
though I get angrily incoherent at the stains upon our gender (other so-called men).
I did nothing, except be born w/lots of testosterone, so I am to blame.
Man, MPB. Divorce in NJ is like a special kind of hell. Hope that shit settles down for you soon.
because I love SI, and what it's done for me.
I wish for you all a precious season, moving toward closure, healing, growth.
I know this near apocalyptic shitstorm has made me a better person. More introspective. More understanding, More beentheredonethat and
I post pictures of my funny flirtings, my new life, I enjoy my new life after all this.
My new year wish is simple.
That you may gather yourself.
And enjoy yours too.
My WW moved in to my house with me when we got married. Since then i have made all the household payments and bills. She works and keeps all of her paycheck for herself. The action i am thinking is to have her start paying her way for expenses since i am not sure R is going to work.
What are your opinions on this guys?
I read your story. I am amazed at what they cn do when they dump us.
Spoke to another friend today that suggested a post nupital if i can get her to sign it. Basiclly what i am looking for is for her to pay half the expenses. Since there are not any children involved. He said that should make things less complicated. We are trying to recocile so i don't want to be too hard until i know what will become of us. If she agrees to pay her half of the household expenses, then i am looking at a few extra hundred a month. Rough estimate is about 6oo and that is only the houshold expeneses.
I have spoken to her and she says that she is sort of willing to do this but lso wants to protect herself.
What's to protect? She is living here rent free and i pay for everything. Like most guys i don't mind putting myself out for my wife but i will not start all over again if we split. I do have children from a previous relationship but they are grown and out the home.
I was thinking that soon i will change my insurance policies to go to my children. Only a loyal wife should profit from my death. My friend said i must leave her a little something so she cannot contest my will. I'm going to put all this on the table and see what she will or will not agree to doing.
In NJ, I cannot change the beneficiary on any will unless it is 90 days prior to a divorce complaint. Too late for me now, so I have to wait until the divorce is finalized, then disown her completely
Are you serious? That's outrafeous in today marital climate. As the owner of sid polocies i would take out a loan or cash that policy in ASAP.
[This message edited by Coma at 5:34 AM, January 20th (Friday)]
With term life insurance, there is no, cash out value.
For me, now I'm fighting back and forth; we take two steps forward, she reneges, we take 3 steps back.
I just checked all my insurance and things to see if i am bound like that. Glad to say that i can switch and/or collect as i see fit.