Hey, it does remind me that I once saw a list of things WW plans to do now that she's on her own again. Here's hoping she takes skydiving lessons as planned -- only sooner, and preferably from one of those cut-rate operations that tend to skimp on the wages for parachute repackers.
*whistles as he goes back to work on his suicide note*
[This message edited by survivorman at 5:48 PM, January 7th (Friday)]
After what you did I can't stay on
And I'll probably feel a whole lot better
When you're gone
Small beans in the grand scale, I guess.
hurts, reading your posts, I have no advice. Just prayers and understanding as a parent. I can't imagine, but it's also what keeps me awake at night.
Just blew a little a few minutes ago, over something simply stupid and of no relation to any of these issues in me.
I am just not sure of where to go or what to do. I am full.
Now that I'm several months divorced, my patience has come back. In fact, I think I'm more patient.
I've got no advice. Just empathizing with you.
[This message edited by OnceInALifetime at 6:29 PM, January 9th (Sunday)]
Just kind venting, thanks guys.
Maybe you should look into finding some outlet for your frustration, your anger.
A lot of guys find something physically exerting to be good.
I too have also blown up at my kids when they dont really deserve it, or had a shorter fuse when theyve been acting up. When your living under so much pent up frustration and stress its normal, but i also think its our responsibility to try and mitigate the negative impact on our children and loved ones as much as possible. So try and find an outlet, chop firewood, beat the crap out of a boxing bag, smash up old furniture, run, go for a walk into the forest and then have a good 10 min raving session. but find something that works for you.
Once or twice I lost it on the kids but don't anymore.
I just think about how I love them and how good and honest and how much they love me.
I save my tongue for WW
I am quite active with the scouts and will be snow camping this weekend. That will help, it always does. And I have volunteered for another snow camp in a couple of weeks. Hoping to get in a bunch of hours on the snowshoes with my camera.
I am trying, it just seems so much more of a challenge right now.
I am not a huge fan of meds. I have done the ADs in the past but have not had any insurance for years so it is something not in my financial reach.
It will work out one way or the other. I do find some releif in getting it out here.
I appreciate you guys.
How do you reason with unreasonable? It’s a lesson I’ve never learned. So, I keep trying. Is this why I’m in the R?
Jesus of Nazareth told Pontius Pilate, "I am the truth." Pilate snorted, "what is truth?"
I understand your frustration. Stating truthful facts and then coming to a conclusion based on those facts alone is foreign to some people. For example; "it's cold outside, please wear a jacket and a hat" is interpreted by some as "you're trying to control me." WTH?
In most any discussion with WW, generally the type of reasoning she comes up with is "no, you're the one!" Up is down, black is white, truth is a lie. The logical response to this type of illogical person is to avoid any and all conversations with her. I must disengage and treat her as the illogical child/woman she is.
Yet I find myself, a few times a week, redoubling my efforts as if this time she will finally get it. It's almost as if we speak two different languages. In this sick game, who's the cat and who's the mouse?
How do you reason with unreasonable?
I have no clue other than silence. Let us know when you figure it out.
Anybody know what happened to toonice?
dunno, hope he's OK. Prolly got tired of beating his head agin the wall & filed.
[This message edited by 64fleet at 8:03 PM, January 11th (Tuesday)]
just checking in, I have a lot to reading / catching up to do.....thread 7? Wow, for a bunch of guys we sure talk a lot!
Hope everyone had a good holiday and your respective situations are better, or at least tolerable. Mines still up in the air and the quarter can land on either heads or tails....
Wanted to stop in and say "hi". Have been reading the betrayed men threads for months, but just joined. I've gained a lot from all of you and look forward to being part of the discussion.
Just count me as another man whose WW found a total skeeze-bag and realized that it could be lurrrvv! (I mean, who wouldn't want an alcoholic who lives with 6 sluts, barely makes minimum wage at a part-time job, was kicked out of the military, and just got off of an ankle monitor. I know that's my dream!)
[This message edited by CaptainTal at 10:56 AM, January 12th (Wednesday)]