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User Topic: Betrayed Men-Part 6 (Men only)
Butchannon
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I live in Slovenia.

She is not interested in co-parenting, I asked her already. She seems indiferent whether her daughter has father or not.


Me (BBF): 27, her (WGF): 24 - at least 6 months of multiple A's in the beginning of relationship, nude pictures, webcam sex
DDay: 12/21/09 - told her to leave
1 kid (BDay 09/22/09) - mine, confirmed by DNA test
STDs: HPV, Chlamydia

Posts: 319 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Europe
jasper
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it about what she's interested in, or what you're interested in? What would the ideal outcome be, for you?

Are you in IC? It sounds like you are feeling a bit paralyzed, and it might help to get some counseling, and come up with a plan for yourself.


Posts: 696 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: New York
Butchannon
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When both sides are not interested in co-parenting then this is not an option in our country. It seems highly unlikely that me as father would have a joint custody in our country.

I was in IC for months. Counsellor understood me why I wanted to put my family together but she couldn't in no way understand why she and her parents behave that way.

My goal and my biggest wish is to be one happy family. I can't imagine other situation right now.


Me (BBF): 27, her (WGF): 24 - at least 6 months of multiple A's in the beginning of relationship, nude pictures, webcam sex
DDay: 12/21/09 - told her to leave
1 kid (BDay 09/22/09) - mine, confirmed by DNA test
STDs: HPV, Chlamydia

Posts: 319 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Europe
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

are you required to pay child support?


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5359 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
Butchannon
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

are you required to pay child support?

Yes, I have to pay child support from the the month 1 after she had to leave.


Me (BBF): 27, her (WGF): 24 - at least 6 months of multiple A's in the beginning of relationship, nude pictures, webcam sex
DDay: 12/21/09 - told her to leave
1 kid (BDay 09/22/09) - mine, confirmed by DNA test
STDs: HPV, Chlamydia

Posts: 319 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Europe
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I have to pay child support from the the month 1 after she had to leave.

It seems like you should have some rights to the child then, dunno about Slovenian law tho, the ones here are bad enough to deal with. The man always gets screwed...


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5359 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
Butchannon
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It seems like you should have some rights to the child then, dunno about Slovenian law tho, the ones here are bad enough to deal with. The man always gets screwed...

Yes, I have the right for visits at her place once a week for couple of hours. But if I have time we see eachother also on other days.

Here in Slovenia in 99% women get a child. Father has a custody only if mother is drug user, has psychiatric condition or she has abandoned the child.


Me (BBF): 27, her (WGF): 24 - at least 6 months of multiple A's in the beginning of relationship, nude pictures, webcam sex
DDay: 12/21/09 - told her to leave
1 kid (BDay 09/22/09) - mine, confirmed by DNA test
STDs: HPV, Chlamydia

Posts: 319 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Europe
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butchannon -
Damn...are you sure you're not in California? The laws seem sooo similar.


holding out hope
UPDATE: Hope's Dead

Posts: 430 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: CO
Just Crushed
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey guys...it's been a very long time since i've posted. I hope you'all are getting by. I'm still w/ my ww and trying to make it work...tough stuff even this far out. Not trying to depress any newbies...there are hard ways to R and harder...my path seems to be the harder way.

take care...i'll be on a bit more now.
JC


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Posts: 843 | Registered: Jul 2009
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hey JC-still w/WW here also, I don't call it R but still here instead...


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5359 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, November 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey JC...

Hope you are doing as best you can in the shitty circumstances you face friend.

What's that old saying... *what doesn't kill you makes you stronger*. Sounds like your guns must be bigger than Popeye's


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gentlemen (and I use that term losely, as we have folks like me and jjct on here!) -

I sincerely hope that you are able to detach, if however momentarily, from the shit storm of infidelity and fucked up WW's; long enough to enjoy the holiday season and the joy of spending time with family and friends. Especially the kids.

Happy Holidays!


holding out hope
UPDATE: Hope's Dead

Posts: 430 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: CO
SourCherryDrops
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Default  Posted: 5:37 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

while we diverge and talk about the holidays breifly... I ask the same question as last year...

So what are you getting WW for Xmas this year?

Im hoping for more witty humourous and perhapes even sarcastic gift ideas...

Im considering perfume.... Gucci is advertising a new one "Guilty"


Me BS 37, Her STBX 34, 1*ONS, 1*EA 1*PA/EA, 2*PA
Heading for D after 9 mths of R

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Europe
Jimi40
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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So what are you getting WW for Xmas this year?

Im considering perfume.... Gucci is advertising a new one "Guilty"

Or Obsession?


You've got nowhere to fall, when your back's to the wall.

Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Niagara
lostcause111
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Default  Posted: 7:11 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it me or is it common were us Bh were raised in homes were yelling or some sort of huge discord happened taht when are WW acted like this it was ... normal?

That is the part to me I contributed and the ONLY thing I ever did. I accepted the BS.

NEVER AGAIN!


Posts: 934 | Registered: Apr 2008
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...were us Bh were raised in homes were yelling or some sort of huge discord happened...

not me lostcause11. I was raised in a home with little emotional display, and very rational and reasoned lectures (and an occassional belt) when I done wrong. In retrospect, many of my serious girlfriends were from more vocal and emotional families.

After FWW and I married, I had trouble dealing with her angry outbursts. I had no experience with yelling and irrational statements. I spent a lot of my time doing my deer in the headlights impression while she ranted at me.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3967 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im considering perfume.... Gucci is advertising a new one "Guilty"


Posts: 900 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Mid-Atlantic
Razor
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spent a lot of my time doing my deer in the headlights impression while she ranted at me.

I wore that expression for so long that my face stuck that way.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine tries to rant, but I cut her off and just point to the door. She knows that I truly dont give a fuck if she splits...Ever since we had the fifth divorce conversation and the kids said they all wanted to go with me she's been trying to watch her p's and q's....

She started in two nights ago and I looked at her and pulled out the "I'm sorry you feel that way" line and pointed to the door.....that ended it.


holding out hope
UPDATE: Hope's Dead

Posts: 430 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: CO
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, November 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As far as the christmas present, I did buy my WW one. I didnt go above and beyond though, more of a perfunctory one because Christmas is in front of her mom's side of the family (they dont know). If we were having it at her Dad's house I'd get her a big fuck you with shit sprinkles on top.


holding out hope
UPDATE: Hope's Dead

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