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User Topic: Betrayed Men-Part 6 (Men only)
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

looked me in the eye and then thought it prudent to F*ck my wife.

and your WW spread her legs, correct? She could have simply said "no, I'm married".

This is my big sticking point-at what stage did she give herself permission to have an A? & why is this M so damn important to her NOW, but not then?


time wounds all heels

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murph3699
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All questions I have asked myself. The blame is totally on her. I'm just saying that I couldn't do that. Even if I was single. A married woman is off limits and more so if I met her husband. To me, he is total scum and he's such a cocky little prick, too.

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Razor
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeh. Like others OM came to our house. I met him here and there. Both before and during the LTA.

He actually wanted to give me advice about doing some thing for me WW. He wanted us to move back to where we once lived - which was close to where he lived because *her soul is there. its her home. that place is part of her*

Not knowing of the LTA then I told him that moving back there was not a possibility. I had allready moved me business to that city. And the best thing he could do for me WW was to let her be at peace with living in this new city. Not stir things up.

OM had come to visit WW after we moved. Fool that I am. I was happy she had a nice friend that would come and visit her. (I didnt realize we (I) had paid for the ticket) (also. I actually thought he was gay) So I drove our family plus OM out to the beach because he ask to see it. And (and this irks me to this day) I even gifted him a souvenir t-shirt.

Crap. What a idiot I was! Lord as me witness. I HATE that mother fucker.

Ok. Now I got me self all caught up in that memory and have forgot what the hell I was going to write about.

o. revenge.

Heres the thing. Im not smart enuf to get away with it. I would love to beat him to death. Subject him to Poes pit and the pendulum just for laughs. But there is no way I would not get caught. And Im kinda claustrophobic. So being stuck in prison for the rest of me life would be really horrible.

Basically. The consequence of me actions is not worth the possible joy they would bring.

Funny. I just thought that had me WW considered starting her LTA the same way I considered killing OM. Then the LTA probably would not have happen.

Razor


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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murph3699
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't like the idea of prison either I've only told one person and in doing so he confided in me that his wife had done the same to him. He talked me off the ledge. I know that he told her "from the moment I first saw you, I knew I'd have you". I just want to knock his teeth out.

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Razor
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HELL has no punishment that is enuf for ass wipes like these.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How do you stop yourself from going after the OM?

I have 2 boys I don't want to be parted from because of jail time. Really the only thing preventing me from beating him into a pile of goo.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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murph3699
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It should be a law that if another man puts his hands on your wife, and he knows that she is married, the husband has every right to put his hands on them.

I think I'll write my state rep a nice letter.


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Mr. Kite
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Christian beliefs tell me that vengeance is not mine to take. But the street kid in me tells me to cut off their privates and keep them in my freezer as a trophy.

So far I've been able to stay in the light but it gets real confusing at times especially when triggered by something.

One valuable lesson I've learned through this whole ordeal is that I'm neither as good a person as I thought I was, nor as evil as I have the potential to be.


Posts: 900 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Mid-Atlantic
sportsfan
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

murph;

Although I am not a violent man I am one who needed to confront OMM...and I did.

And because I knew I didn't know how this confrontation would go, I brought a friend with me who agreed to keep OMM and I seperated should it get heated...and he did.

So, instead of having only fantasies of OMM (I didn't know him, didn't know what he looked like, knew nothing about him), I now have a very vivid image of the scumbag running like a little schoolgirl away from me.

Honestly, for me, it was necessary, satisfying and therapeutic.


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tornasunder
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But the street kid in me tells me to cut off their privates and keep them in my freezer as a trophy.
I'd rather not see 5 sets of privates in my freezer.

Being that there was more than one OM for me, I would have more work to do. But I guess that after one life sentence, whats four more...

There is one main OM that I would enjoy taking revenge upon. He was someone I considered a friend. He flew my WW to where he lives for a "vacation". I am trying to figure out how to make his life a living hell, legally of course.

My main reason for not actually getting revenge is that it wouldn't undo what has been done. I have no interest in my son growing up alone with the mother he has. The OMs just aren't worth it.


Me BS (32); STBXW (31); Married 10 Years; DDay1 03/2010; DDay2 01/2012
Divorced 07/2012

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Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I enjoy my freedom a bit too much to confront OM.

Fortunately for me, OM got his just desserts without me having to lay a finger on him. So while the thought has crossed my mind once or twice, I'm content that he's paying for being the POS that he is.


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Razor
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am trying to figure out how to make his life a living hell, legally of course.

If you figure this out, I hope you share it with us.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please share - I want the OM to live a life of hell otherwise my punching bag (not the WW) may not see out the next round!


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah Lotsa, but wouldn't it have been great to be there at that moment and just laaaauugh at him?

As to prison, BTDT, Got the T-shirts to prove it. Mostly, prison is BORING. But it is a great place to do some thinking, get in shape if you like, really work out what you want in life. They just don't necessarily let you out when you get done with all that....

There have been times when it almost seemed like a good trade. I've considered acts against OM that would make the SAW movies look tame by comparison. I haven't completely ruled them out yet either...

At some point, God may place him into mine hands and the real test of my faith will begin. I'm not entirely sure I could pass that test. I would dearly love failing it in the moment of it though


The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

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impastit
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he is total scum and he's such a cocky little prick, too.

That's why murph. Believe me I would love to administer some old school justice. The problem these guys are just telephone tough guys and if you mess with scum your probaly going to get quite a bit on you. I know I would have a hard time containing myself and may do more damage than I had meant. There was a guy on here not too long ago that got like 20 years for paralizing the OM when he lost it on him. With my WW's OM he has already gotten a horrid fate, he got my WW. It's going to be a bumpy ride for the asshole and I hope it sucks the largest of ass for him, it surely will.

As a bonus the one time he saw me he ran!


"Get over it." Classic. Classic sociopath!

DDay 4/6/10 Filed DDay, smelled it coming, again
She moved to her happy place 5/2/10
D final 11/18/10
Thank God I got the dog.


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Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah Lotsa, but wouldn't it have been great to be there at that moment and just laaaauugh at him?

I may still get the chance.

POSOM got fired as a result of his A with my XWS and after he left, the company found he had been fiddling with the books and he is now being investigated for fraud. If I hear he's been charged, don't worry, I'll be sitting in the front row in the Court room with a big grin on my face.


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murph3699
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually was within 10 feet of him prior to knowing the whole truth. It was in a tunnel exiting a train station after midnight, nary a soul in sight. My wife and sister were with me and my anger wasn't quite what it is now. I can't honestly say I wouldn't at least bitch slap him if the opportunity presented itself. I'm 6'1" 200 lbs and I ain't fat. He's like 5'7" 140 lbs. I think I'd kill him if I sneezed on him.

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zombieman
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've promised my W that I won't go down to their workplace and make a scene, but have told her many times if I see him in public and she is there, she is to take our son and walk away while I have a few words with POS. Is it going to bring me some closure or whatever? Don't know, it will be somewhat satisfying though I am sure.

I hope he at least lives an uncomfortable life now after my last call to his W explaining all the lies he has told her, particularly how he was torn between my w and his (she didn't know that, she thought it was the 'thrill of the chase') and reminded her that he was out with my wife while she sat at home with a 4 month old baby and a 3 year old and that they talked about her and how she was raising their children. She was not a happy camper (pretty petty stuff but damn was I angry that day). I really pushed it so that he would get angry and want to confront me, I'm more than happy to meet him whenever and wherever and have it out. But nothing so far, he is just a coward. I don't like to use the word hate but I really really hate that motherf**ker. Same deal as some of you guys, 4 months before the A I had beers at a work do with him and had a chat. I thought he was an asshole then.

I hope the anger phase disappears one day, it's not me. I think about all sorts of revenge tactics and I have a few up my sleeve but would I regret actually doing them in a few months. Probably.

Although having said all of that, it was my 50% my W that did this, I find when I start connecting with her again, my anger shifts back to him, it is easier to blame someone else than the person you love.

[This message edited by zombieman at 5:59 PM, November 9th (Tuesday)]


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The lies kept his identity far from me. In two marriages destroyed. I figure it was celestial wisdom, or angels watching over me or

Perhaps I needed to see something else.

His Vengeance.
It's deeper than me, or *anything* I could do or dream up.
I'm ok with that, though at times when it's close to me grabbing control, and going all beserker...
I think about an angry God.
See?
And let it go.
He's much better at it than me.
Much better.


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thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, November 10th (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Although having said all of that, it was my 50% my W that did this, I find when I start connecting with her again, my anger shifts back to him, it is easier to blame someone else than the person you love.

IMHO, as in my situation, your WW is 100% responsible for the A -- she knew how to say no. If it was not him, she would have found some other willing guy. Think about that.

I do not blame OM (men?) -- at all.


-t2g


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Divorced on 8/6/09

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