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User Topic: Long Term Affair Part 20
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell

Ducks on leashes:

He thinks he's going to sell ducks for eating and eggs. I keep saying but what if you can't find a market? Why not start small and see how you go? But no he's already talking in terms of hundreds. We live in the country and have 32 acres so we have room!!! He's too illogical to seriously consider starting small and is convinced that because he is having trouble buying the purebreds he wants that others are too.

There's no telling him.

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell

Sydney - but never mind. We live about 600 kms north of Sydney just outside a town of about 20,000.

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
nofun
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We must first stop and forgive ourselves from taking blame for the A. If we feel that in the M there were things that we did or didn't do that we would have changed, recognize it and forgive ourselves

I still blame myself for lots of thing, even though I know it wasn't me. But I can't help it...I'm always beating myself up. So true though Honest.

i used to pray, everyday, several times a day for pfm to "see" his family and appreciate who we are.....i would pray to god even while driving, "lord please just help the man see what he is missing and losing".....

Miracle - I would actually cry over this. But one day I came to realize that it was H's problem. He was the one that was losing out. I have such a wonderful relationship with my children (and H has none). They tolerate him. I don't cry over this anymore. It's his tough luck. In fact, my son just called tonight and asked where "dick head" was. So sad.

Pack up and go to France and try to get work teaching English!!.

Your post made me giggle. Can I go with you? That sounds so romantic. I would love some romance in my life. My H too has all these "hobbies" as I call them. He collects "shit" as I call it. Can never sit still, is never happy and is always on the move. Never finishes what he starts and therefore I have all kinds of expensive crap that I would love to get rid of along with him!! Any takers???

Old dip - I think you would qualify as an excellant cabana boy. When can you start?


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

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strongish
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello Tribe! I've spent the last 1/2 hour catching up on the most recent posts as I've been away from my computer these past few days. WH's brother and wife came down to visit the my in-laws and us. I was stressing about this as it looked they were planning to stay with us, which would not have been pretty considering how my mood recently. At my request WH told them that it wasn't a good idea for them to stay here because of work, etc. So yesterday I picked up my SIL and she and I went shopping by ourselves. Well...it was quite enlightening. It seems my BIL is quite the alcoholic and my SIL is just trying to get her ducks in a row (no pun intended Laura) before she tells him she wants a D. She tells me this before I can tell her my deep, dark secret! Before you know it we're comparing notes on how bad things are at our houses! Truthfully, at least my WH is trying to make things right (even if he's doing a half-assed job). BIL won't even consider that he might have a drinking problem or see a MC. The only good part is that we each have one more shoulder to lean on. We agreed to stay more in touch in order to support each other.


As for me....well, another day and another brouhaha. WH gave me his "timeline." He lists the year, month and then there is a number. The number represents how many time he flew trips where he could have met up with OW. Some months are 0 and some have 4-5. Conversation this morning with WH where I tell him that my thought process in having him do the timeline was so that he could get a feel for how ENORMOUS the betrayal feels to me. How it went on for so long and that's part of why I'm having difficulty moving on with us. So what does he say?? Wait for it.....really, really stupid....not kidding....

He says, well, it really worked just the opposite. He saw that he really only had the "opportunity" to be with her about 50 times or so and he thought it would have been a lot more than that. This is not a joke...he didn't get what he had just said and as usual it took a little while for me to process it. By the time I lay into him he's perplexed as to why I would react so strongly to a slip of the tongue. He didn't "mean" that is was only 50 times...and it was only 50 possible times. By this time I'm losing my cool and start yelling. I know, I know, 2 x 4 to me for losing my temper. I yelled, he yelled and I stormed out of the house. I came back before he left on his trip tonight but I'm exhausted. I hate this roller coaster ride....I hate that my stomach is in knots again...I hate that I'm back to yelling (I never was much of a yeller before this) and I especially hate this burning sense of injustice and unfairness.

I'm heading out to the HS football game to watch DS and the marching band program. I'm going to come home after half-time and eat ice cream in bed. I can afford it since pretty much all of my clothes are now loose on me...thank you infidelity diet.


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fun

I'm not going to call you nofun anymore. We can have fun here. We must. We need laughter in our lives and this is a gift we can share with each other here. We all want so much to make each other feel better so let's just do it.

I still haven't given up on my plan for you having fun - I won't.

Can I go with you? That sounds so romantic. I would love some romance in my life.

DEFINITATLY. Shit I can't spell today and haven't even had a Merlot You are very welcome. We could have LOTS OF FUN. If old Dip is available he could be our cabana boy. What about it Dip?? Distinguished sounds good to us. If you are still with your W you could perhaps recommend some of your friends to us? Just make sure they are rich please so they can keep us in the style to which we've never been accustomed - bugger that spelling again.

I keep telling the kids at school that I'm getting forgetful cause I have early onset alzheimers!! I think in our situations that may not actually be a bad thing

Happy to see there are a few on here today. I keep thinking I need to go to town to do some shopping but would rather be here

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fun

Can never sit still, is never happy and is always on the move. Never finishes what he starts

Mine too. Just like this!! if he's not actually doing something he's constantly talking.

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
njgal480
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't had a chance to check SI in a few days....

FNF...You do not need to forgive yourself for anything! You did nothing wrong. Even if you said what you think you remember saying...the OW already had her mind set on your husband! Nothing that you said could have started the affair or stopped it. That selfish, evil woman exploited your friendship. She may even have used what you told her in confidence to ingratiate herself with your husband!
I know one case like that the wife's best friend had a LTA with the husband. During those years the wife would confide in her friend..telling her what her husband liked and didn't like, what they fought about etc. The best friend/OW took that info. and used it. Telling the husband what she knew he wanted to hear...
just plain evil...
So, IMHO you do not need to forgive the OW. The fact that you did not confront her and smack her silly says alot about your character.
You can try to forgive her for yourself. To let go of the bitterness etc. But, saying anything to her about forgiveness....when she has never shown any remorse..well..I don't think so.

mm33...
I am similar to you in that I have a much better husband and marriage post infidelity.It's a shame that a horrible betrayal and all the fall out that followed is what finally woke him up. But, my husband has changed and that's why I decided to reconcile.

Laura...about the ducks....
one thing that I always say is that after a LTA-all bets are off! In my opinion the only chance that a marriage has to survive infidelity is if everything changes. All of the toxic, negative behavior/mistakes etc. of the past have to change.
You now have the power in the relationship-not him!
It should all be about building a new and stronger relationship, a partnership. And that means doing what is best for BOTH of you! It is not all about him anymore!
That's what got you into this mess to begin with!
All of our WS were incredibly selfish during the affair years and in many cases the WS was selfish and self centered throughout the marriage!
If that dynamic doesn't change your marriage will stay the same.

If you do not want ducks-then you should not have any ducks.
If he needs a hobby...well, nows the time for the two of to start finding new interests that the two of you can get involved in.
He had a chance to do 'his own thing' in the past and look where it got him.
IMHO it's time for Laura to start steering the ship.
Its time for you to tell him what you want from your marriage, from him, etc.
You gave him the gift of forgiveness after a terible betrayal... he should be extremely remorseful and willing to do anything and everything to save the marriage. He should not be indulging himself in his own selfish pursuits at this point.


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strongish

How it went on for so long and that's part of why I'm having difficulty moving on with us.

Why don't they get this? I know how you feel. Mine was 16 yrs - more than half our marriage and with 3 OWs. Why can't they see how ENORMOUS these long periods were for us.

Mine could only do it after work at 11pm when he was "lonely" WTF?? or in mornings when I was at work. They seem to have this weird idea that they "missed out" because they couldn't get away with seeing OWs more!!!! And - I hate to say it - that we are "lucky" they ddin't do it more. I want to puke when he says "But it wasn't very often" or I went to see her but we "didn't always have sex" like that is supposed to make me feel better.

He didn't "mean" that is was only 50 times...and it was only 50 possible times.

They never "mean" it when they realise they have foot in mouth disease. We always misunderstand or jump on one little thing they say

he really only had the "opportunity" to be with her about 50 times or so

ONLY 50 OR SO!!! Is that all? I guess you should be grateful

I especially hate this burning sense of injustice and unfairness.

I'm with you honey. But they just want us to "move on", "put it behind us" "think about the future".

Yes - like we don't WANT to do this??? Sometimes I think they think we actually CHOOSE to be so hurt.

I know, 2 x 4 to me for losing my temper.

Yep and for your own good. I have been having some success with getting truth lately by keeping cool. Yes I KNOW it is hard but so worth it. Unfortunately now he's given me some I think he thinks he's done but when I'm ready I plan to try for more. I think it's really important to PLAN = PICK YOUR MOMENT - when you are feeling strong and know you can hold back the tears and rage. Do it for yourself.

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Njgal

All of our WS were incredibly selfish during the affair years and in many cases the WS was selfish and self centered throughout the marriage!
If that dynamic doesn't change your marriage will stay the same.

I know this. You are SO RIGHT and thank you for saying it. This is where I went wrong. I kept thinking all the time if I let him do what he wanted he would be happy and we would be happy but it never happened like that. The sad part is that because I loved (love???) him I wanted what made him happy and still do. So I wanted him to have what he wanted. So when he prattles on about his ducks or wants me to go look at them I feign interest "to make him happy". I have conditioned myself to do this. And I'm well and truly brainwashed cause I did it to myself for 28 yrs.

This is a real AHA moment for me. Thank you so much. I will have to talk to him about this sometime soon. Will consider and find the right time.

If you do not want ducks-then you should not have any ducks.

It's funny but I don't care about the fucking ducks I guess it's the principle of the thing. now we have a crisis in our marriage and he finds another interest to consume him.

I'll have to ponder this.

Thanks Njgal

laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
nofun
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have an idea.....
Why don't we lose our minds and get totally selfish and meet in Paris for a one week vacation......

Well....it was a good fantasy! If not for a fleeting moment!

I'm going to a haunted house tomorrow night. I hate to be scared but it's something I've never done and I'm trying to "make new memories" with H.


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

Posts: 987 | Registered: Jun 2009
lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

m3: I really liked your post. I am working at having this perspective on life as I now know it. Like IWaM, I'm glad that you have the husband you always wanted despite the circumstances that got you there... and also that the cost wasn't your marriage.

Laura: I can't believe your H. Reading about the ducks makes me think he needs a smack upside the head. He doesn't need another hobby. He needs to be working at treating you better (imho).

I have an idea... Why don't we lose our minds and get totally selfish and meet in Paris for a one week vacation
Sounds terrific to me. I'll have to settle for a trip to the west coast to see our oldest grandson (19 mos) in Nov. Doubt I'll ever see Paris in this lifetime.

Happy Belated Bday, Dip! glad you are still dropping by to check on us and give us your p.o.v. Much appreciated.

Gotta go so I don't have H coming to look over my shoulder.
{{{LTA tribe}}}


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks lostsuol

Yes he does need a smack.

Since you aren't here maybe I'll do it myself when he gets home from work.

laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
strongish
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But they just want us to "move on", "put it behind us" "think about the future".
Yes...they all want us to move forward, don't they?

I've been giving a lot of thought to this....and I'm hoping some of you can help me to see if I'm being clear about this or if I'm screwed up.

When I bring up how I'm hurting now, how the LTA is affecting me now, how I don't trust WH now...he goes into the explanation of where his head was at when he was having the A. That's what I lost it about this morning. I told WH that at this point I understand where his head was at, I get why he felt like having a GF was a good idea...but he needs to get a reality check on what that means NOW. I AM IN PAIN and he just tells me how he's changed, blah, blah, blah....

Don't misunderstand....I do see that he's changed. But as I told him, it like I've been hit by a tidal wave and he's sending me a rubber duck. (Again with the "duck" reference...sorry Laura!) He thinks because he's been "trying" for 3 months that I should just move forward. Stop looking at the past, but he's the one that keeps going backwards by reiterating what he was thinking at the time...not validating how what he did hurt me so much. Is this his way of minimizing? I've told him over and over I need to hear "I'm sorry." but I get it maybe once every 2-3 days. I flat out told him that I need for him to tell/express to me that he is grateful that I have given him another chance...and other than the first time, he's never referred to it again. To me this means that even if he does feel that way, he's not expressing it, holding back his feelings, compartmentalizing again and that's what caused this whole mess to begin with. He never told me how unhappy he was. He just assumed that I knew...isn't that what he's doing now??

Sigh...I'm sorry that I'm such a downer tonight. Most times I feel like this is the only place where anyone really listens to me. Or maybe it's just that you all are the ones that can understand my pain.


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, October 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi strong

But as I told him, it like I've been hit by a tidal wave and he's sending me a rubber duck. (Again with the "duck" reference...sorry Laura!)

You wouldn't believe it. h arrived home and went to kiss me just as I read this.

I am rolling on the floor and he can't work out why. ( I changed screens in time). Every time I think about it I breakn out into gales of laughter.

And he doesn't get it. Nice to have a secret of my own

Lauara


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stromg

Only just now able to get back. h is home and is now out feeding his ducks so i can talk again.

Most times I feel like this is the only place where anyone really listens to me. Or maybe it's just that you all are the ones that can understand my pain.

Yes we do understand cause it's our pain too.

WH's just don't get it. Mine started with the moving on, just want to make you happy in future, will never do it again, I was stupid stuff again this afternoon. I lost it and went into the "I always was trying to make you happy. But you weren't doing the same for me" routine "You were off fucking your whores so you didn't have to worry about whether I was happy or not."

I told him it's always been about you. You had your little obsessions - which I was expected to support you in - talk about, help with etc. I was an adjunct to your life. I was tacked onto the end. You had what you wanted and you wanted me to add to your happiness. WHEN IT SUITED YOU. The rest of the time i was just in the road. So whenever I "interfered" in your life you got the shits. Now suddenly you love me and want me to be happy and I'm supposed to just forget what you did and be grateful that you've finally decided to be my H AFTER 28 YRS!!!!!"

Amazingly he finished by saying sorry and all the usual stuff and then went on about how selfish he was. Maybe he is starting to get it???

I flat out told him that I need for him to tell/express to me that he is grateful that I have given him another chance...and other than the first time, he's never referred to it again.

I've only had this a couple of times too. I think the reality is that they can NEVER get how much they have hurt us or how lucky they are that we are giving them a chance. I think it's like a lot of things in life. You really don't understand the pain unless you experience it yourself.

Maybe we are only hurting ourselves by hoping they can really understand. I don't know. At present I suppose I will just put this one aside. I do this often. A little bit like Scarlett in "Gone with the Wind". I can't deal with it now, so I'll worry about it tomorrow. Sorry I can't help but am thinking of you.

HUGS

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 4:49 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dip the cabana boy - they are all yours my friend. lol

Laura - selfish I dont think even comes close to describing our WS. There has to be a much stronger word that reflects there true self centredness.

PS WW is catholic & a teacher too & the mother of my children - what an example of moral fortitude she is.


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi DP

Yours is truly a shitty situation. So sorry.

selfish I dont think even comes close to describing our WS

No my friend there is no word. When I first suspected H of an affair I used a Var to get confirmation. One of the things I heard (amongst many that would turn your stomach) was him laughing to OW3 about me being upset when my mum died. I rang him and told him my mother was dying and only had hours to live and would he come and be with me. He was laughing about the fact that he told me he couldn't come cause he had to help his nephew who is on dialysis. He was really with her.

Selfish - yep the word doesn't begin to cover it. He'd rather be with his whore than with his wife while her mother was dying.

He's now changed his tune but that one is hard for me to forget.

Well, he's currently on the phone - at this minute- with his own mother. She has cancer and has just been told this afternoon that it's right through her. Unlike him I will at least have the decency to pretend sympathy. I've never liked his mother but have kept that to myself.

PS WW is catholic & a teacher too & the mother of my children - what an example of moral fortitude she is.

I wouldn't call myself a good Catholic but I do have a strong set of moral values. However I can understand the bitter tone of your statement.

Peace to you tonight

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura
Thanks - unfortunately i think it will get worse next week. I have a meeting were i believe i will be made redundant come Jan due to restructuring but really ive lost the edge at work because of her affair.

I really will need to find my true inner strength to get thru this.unemployeed & 50 - what are the cv requirements for a cabana boy? i do have a mind you know!

Instead of her hitting rock bottom looks like i'll get there first.i'm not religous but you know where im going with this ...why do i feel foresaken while ww prospers.
time for a doctors visit i think & happy pills.

Laura - peace to you.


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
strongish
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Instead of her hitting rock bottom looks like i'll get there first

Purple....I'm so sorry about your job. I can honestly say that I have had great difficulty concentrating on my work as well. Thank goodness I have a very understanding boss. She's been great. But that doesn't help the inner rage at the injustice of this all.

DP - If it helps, please know that it is appreciated that you take the time to keep the women in the Tribe "honest" by calling us on the man-bashing! Cabana boys do not come cheap so don't sell yourself short. It takes a great mind to remember all the different types of body oil needed to keep the sun-worshipers happy!


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, October 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mornin all.

First off - thanks for the laughs - the ducks on a leash, etc. is HYSTERICAL - it is now my "go to" visual when I'm feeling crappy. Lol.

The rubber duck in a tidal wave - also hysterical.

Anyhoo - last night I wound up saying to my SIL that the highlight of my weekend is watching my son play baseball. She said that was lame.
It's true tho. When the work week is over - I'm happy not to be going to work- but watching my son do something he excels at is truly the highlight of my weekend - and a close second is the promise of catching up on my laundry. (That - I will give you- is lame...)
So - what is the highlight of your weekend?


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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